He Jie responded domineeringly: I will raise the child

He Jie\’s divorce case was in court, and she responded on Weibo, \”The appeal has always been: I raise the children, and I have never asked the man to clean up and leave the house. I believe in the fairness of the law.\” He Jie\’s emotional problems have already caused a stir. Currently, it is very hard for her to raise two children by herself. In fact, when she said these words, they were by no means empty words. It shows the perseverance of this woman. \”I will raise the child\” is a promise. Saying this sentence requires far more effort than we imagine. From this point of view, I admire He Jie very much. We can’t talk about emotional matters, but not everyone can be responsible for their children. In terms of material conditions, she is a star and financially better off. But it is really not easy to spend time with your children while working hard for your career. He Jie’s early Weibo▲Actually, I don’t know much about He Jie. In 2005, He Jie participated in Super Girl and won fourth place in the national finals, which made her famous, but her career has been tepid since then. In 2013, she married He Ziming and gave birth to two more children. During this time, she shifted her focus to her family, and news about her was rarely seen in the entertainment industry. In 2016, there were rumors of divorce between the two. He Jie accused He Ziming of having an affair during marriage and having no sense of family, which was not good for herself and her children. Today, the divorce case between the two officially opened. When He Jie said these words, she was so strong that it made people feel distressed. In the past, she chose to have two children in succession while her career was on the rise. Her figure was out of shape and her popularity declined. Even when she had just given birth, she looked at her leaking belly and had the idea of ​​​​committing suicide. Now, she chooses to raise her two children while working hard on her career. I want to say that the hardship of single mothers in the workplace is far greater than we imagine. This reminds me of a piece of news I saw before. A mother from Ningbo was very confused: the mother-in-law kept complaining about helping her daughter-in-law take care of the children, and offered 15,000 yuan for half a year to take care of the children… Should she pay this amount? The couple is very busy at work and often travels for business, but they are worried about hiring a nanny because they are not as good as family members. At first, the mother-in-law agreed to help take care of the child. The child was not a boy as everyone expected, but neither family had a serious preference for boys over girls. However, after the maternity leave ended, conflicts began to emerge. Mainly reflected in the following aspects: Mother-in-law complains that the child is disobedient. \”Every night when we go to my mother-in-law\’s house to pick up the children and bring them back to our own home, my mother-in-law always nags a lot: Why is the child so noisy today, why is he disobedient, doesn\’t like to eat, cries and makes noises… Talk for 20 minutes!” This mother thought: I know it’s difficult to take care of children, but isn’t it normal for children to cry? And she is your granddaughter, so there is no need to be so impatient, right? The mother-in-law asked for money, but the mother felt that she should not give it. Let’s take a look at what this mother said: The most outrageous thing is that after taking it for less than a month, the mother-in-law actually asked for money! Although it costs money to take care of children, it’s not that expensive, right? After all, we basically buy diapers and clothes, and my mother-in-law only takes care of the children’s three meals and naps… Anyway, I definitely don’t want to give this money. It’s not that I can’t afford it, but I think I shouldn’t. Here, you’re not hiring a nanny. Why?Give money? In the eyes of this mother, it is a matter of course for her mother-in-law to take care of her children. She must work hard and contribute money and efforts without complaining or asking for money. Let\’s not criticize this mother for now. From this incident, we can see that raising children is not only a matter of money, but also requires a lot of effort. To raise a child, you must first provide him with good material security. From this mother’s complaint, we know that children need to be carefully cared for three meals a day. It is not cheap to drink milk powder when children are young. When children are older, they need to be provided with complementary foods. Complementary food for children is very particular. What can and cannot be eaten, whether it should be heated or cooled, whether it should be hard or soft… all of which require the caregiver\’s attention and time. Also, children’s diapers, clothes, toys, etc. are a big expense. The expenses in this area can be provided to the children according to their income level, but it will be a considerable expense no matter how you calculate it. After a child enters kindergarten, the cost of education will also increase. The cost of raising a child is much more than that of an adult. Raising children requires time, energy, and patience. A child is a living being. He has joys, sorrows and joys and needs companionship. He cannot leave the care of adults every day when he is awake. Because he is still young and does not know what behaviors are unsafe, we have seen many news reports that children have safety hazards due to poor care. In particular, children are prone to getting sick when they are young. At this time, adults will be very anxious and basically forget about having a good rest. It takes too much energy to accompany a child. We have seen many reports like this. Especially after children go to school, school homework also takes a long time every day. In the article \”Nanny\’s annual salary of 840,000 yuan: behind all high salaries, there are unexpected reasons\”, Ah He mentioned the requirements for a nanny: to provide a safe, loving and interesting environment for children to stimulate interests and potential; to guide children throughout the day activities, play at home or organize some activities; visit relatives and friends, go out to eat, participate in activities or other family activities, the nanny must accompany you throughout the process; a bachelor\’s degree, preferably with a study background in early childhood education; personal personality: cordial , kind, adaptable, flexible, emotionally stable, humorous, and happy… This should be what every mother should try to achieve. Even if she does not graduate in childhood education, she will read a lot of educational psychology related books for the sake of her children. books. Some women had bad tempers before becoming mothers, but they will become more patient and gentle for the sake of their children. In reality, there are many working mothers around us who support their families alone for the sake of their children. Probably because women give birth to children in ten months of pregnancy, and the mother\’s special role naturally has a deeper affection for the child than the father. Recently, I received letters from two readers in the backstage. They both had children and their relationships broke down and required divorce. The man has made it clear that he does not want children. But what’s even more outrageous is that one of the fathers (I feel he doesn’t deserve it) actually chose to resign in order to pay less alimony. In this way, he is unemployed and his economic conditions will be undervalued by law. We are all very angry when we see something like this, but there is nothing we can do, since the child is born, he must be raised well. Many mothers are emotionally traumatized, have to work hard to make money, and also have to accompany their children to grow up. It is very difficult to think about it. Therefore, those female friends who are not respected or loved before marriage must not expect that after marriage, he will change his gender and be good to his children. A person\’s character is determined. We cannot change it, but we can choose to avoid it. If he doesn\’t even love or care about you, how can he care about you and the child he gave birth to? Of course, we have also encountered many parents who divorced and left their children to be raised by the elderly for their own happiness. They reorganized their families, but there was no place for children in the family. When such children grow up, most of them have no sense of security, cannot feel the love and warmth of their families, and are easily frustrated emotionally. In fact, we don’t really have much good advice for single mothers, except for what everyone knows: work hard, develop your career, and provide a good material foundation for your children; adjust your emotions, be patient with your children, and minimize the harm. ; If given the opportunity, don’t reject feelings. Then what? Taking responsibility is never an empty talk. When something happens or something happens, you can only grit your teeth and stop. I believe that there are many moments in life when you need to be hard on yourself and grit your teeth and persevere. Other than that, there is really no better way. All you can do is probably adjust your mentality and face it calmly. Every responsible person is worthy of admiration and learning. From this point of view, why should I call? Are there such working single mothers around you? How did they overcome the difficulties in life?