Heartbreaking fact: Outstanding children are basically born and have nothing to do with their parents’ education.

I believe that many parents attach great importance to education and hope to raise an excellent child, so they spend a lot of money, buy a lot of educational books, and learn many educational methods. Behind parents\’ actions, there is a common belief among parents: education is very important to children, and through parents\’ education, an excellent child can be cultivated. It is precisely based on this belief that parents attach great importance to education and learn various educational methods and techniques. Otherwise, if parents think that their education has little to do with whether their children will ultimately be outstanding, then why do they spend so much time and energy studying education? But I want to tell you a heartbreaking fact, that is, most outstanding children are not cultivated by their parents, but born. Why do you say that? Let\’s look at an example first. Everyone knows Guo Degang and Guo Qilin, right? You can search for Guo Degang\’s educational philosophy on the Internet. Guo Degang\’s educational philosophy is very simple. It is our common frustration education and likes to suppress children. According to his own words, he wants to destroy all the child\’s self-esteem. Under this kind of education, Guo Qilin became quite inferior. In an interview, Guo Qilin said that this interview will be held before 2015, and he would like to lie on the ground and talk to others, humbled to the dirt. From this point of view, there is obviously a big problem with Guo Degang\’s educational philosophy. Guo Qilin has such low self-esteem, you can\’t say that his education is successful, right? But in the end, judging from Guo Qilin\’s performance in those variety shows, Guo Qilin is still very good. He is adaptable to others and has a very rich knowledge. He is considered a relatively outstanding child. So I would like to ask, is Guo Degang\’s excellence cultivated by Guo Qilin? Guo Qilin himself did not recognize Guo Degang\’s education. In an interview, he himself said that he had achieved Guo Degang\’s education. If it were another child, it would not work at all. Through this case, we can draw a conclusion, that is, excellent children are not necessarily cultivated by their parents. Of course, we can\’t say that excellent children are definitely not raised by their parents. After all, we can\’t prove whether if the parents are excellent, the chance of the children becoming excellent will be higher? But from a realistic point of view, most excellent children are not cultivated by their parents, but are more the result of the children themselves, because the parents of most outstanding children are actually ordinary people, and they do not necessarily have the best education methods and educational ideas. How advanced is it. As ordinary people, most parents\’ education is actually based on their own instincts, rather than successfully educating their children after learning advanced educational methods and educational techniques. Let me give you an example, and you will understand the impact of instinct on education. There are many parents in society who like chicken babies, right? Do the parents of these chicken babies educate their children in accordance with their aptitude? No, they are more following their own instincts. You can observe that parents who like chicken babies tend to have stronger personalities, while parents who don\’t like chicken babies tend to have more peaceful personalities. Why does this happen? Because of their parents with strong personalities, they haveWith a stronger competitive spirit, they cannot accept the poor performance of their children, so they are more likely to be spoiled. And if the parents are chickens, the children will definitely not like to be chickens. After all, who likes to be forced to study every day? Therefore, children will definitely fight against their parents\’ chicken babies. In order to keep the chicken baby, parents will definitely be strong, and they need to use force to suppress their children and force them to continue studying, so parents must be stronger. And if the parents are not strong enough and have a relatively peaceful personality, on the one hand, they themselves are not very competitive, so they can accept the poor performance of their children. On the other hand, in the face of the resistance of the children after the chicken baby, parents with a peaceful personality are more likely to They cannot persist because they cannot accept the constant chaos at home, so they often give up. Do you see clearly? Whether or not to have chicken babies is not a choice made by the parents based on the child\’s situation, but more of the parents following their own instincts. And this kind of adaptability instinct is difficult to change. Can you make the competitive parents stop being competitive and accept the mediocrity of their children? It\’s hard. Similarly, it is difficult for parents with a peaceful personality to supervise and control their children\’s learning every day. This is contrary to his instinct, and he himself cannot stand it. So here comes the question: If everyone follows their own instincts and adopts education, can you say that your children’s excellence is cultivated by you? This is like buying lottery tickets. You choose a group of lottery tickets based on a certain rule that you believe in, and then you win the jackpot. Can you say that your rule is correct, and can you guarantee that you will continue to win the jackpot next time? Under your instinctive education, if a child becomes outstanding, the most likely reason is that the child itself is outstanding and has nothing to do with your education. Even if you change the parents and the education method, the child will most likely still be outstanding. This is like winning a lottery ticket. You are destined to win this prize. It has nothing to do with the number selection rules you use. Even if you change the number selection method, you will still win this prize. So here comes a question: Can we parents just lie down and not care about our children? Of course not. Although I say that the ultimate excellence of a child has little to do with the parents, it still has a little to do with it. The child\’s genes definitely play a major role in influencing whether a child will eventually excel, but nurture also has a certain influence, but the influence of nurture is not as great as our parents expect. It does not mean that you have worked hard to learn various educational methods and skills. , you will definitely be able to cultivate excellent children. Therefore, we should try our best to create the best educational environment for our children. You can still learn various good educational methods and educational techniques, and then provide your children with the best education. It’s just that we shouldn’t have too high expectations for our own education. Don’t think that if you provide your children with the best educational environment, change your own education methods, and become the best parents, your children will definitely be excellent. Don’t have such thoughts, otherwise when your child fails to meet your expectations, you will definitely feel resentful towards your child, because you will feel that you have done your best, but why is your child not outstanding? Calm your mind, accept your children, and accept yourself. Just do your best and be yourself. It\’s not up to you to decide what your child will be like.