How are those sweet-mouthed children raised?

Recently, the fifth season of \”Where Are We Going, Dad\” has been completed successfully, and many netizens are in a difficult mood: Our little sweet boy Jasper will never be offline! Some people even said: \”In the past few decades, Xiao Xiaochun is the only one that I have thought about having a child of my own after watching it!\” This shows how much Jasper is loved by the audience. Jasper is a veritable fanboy. When the village chief used pots and pans to make messy rhythms, Jasper would happily clap his hands and say: \”It sounds great!\” The food cooked by his father and uncles tasted average, and he always praised with satisfaction: \”It\’s delicious! \”When his father says \”I love you\” to him, he will say \”I love you forever\”… Jasper, who is as sweet as a honey pot, reminds Qing Lanjun of the super popular Angela Wang Shiling in the first season. During a mission, after other children thanked their grandfather and said goodbye, Wang Shiling took her grandfather\’s hand and said, \”Grandpa, you are doing well at home!\” Angela accidentally fell in the desert, and her brothers and sisters pulled her From then on, she thanked her brothers and sisters again and again: \”Thank you, thank you so much!\” During the trip to Jiming Island, Angela helped each elderly person share shrimps during dinner, and innocently said to her grandparents: \”You can just eat it.\” You’re not old anymore.” The old people laughed from ear to ear after hearing this. Wang Yuelun said that he was often anxious during the show, worried that he would not perform well. But before going to bed, Angela would cuddle up next to him, whisper to him, and cheer him up, \”I feel so happy, and all the tiredness and suffering are worth it.\” Angela has always been a caring little cotton-padded jacket. At a party, the singer Li Guyi came on stage to sing. Wang Shiling sweetly called out \”Hello, grandma!\” Li Xiang asked her daughter to pay Li Guyi a New Year greeting. Unexpectedly, Wang Shiling said gracefully: \”I wish grandma to become younger and younger. She\’s getting more and more beautiful!\” Li Guyi sighed: \”I like to hear it all, it\’s sweeter than Li Xiangzui!\” Parents and friends, have you noticed? The two most popular children in these two seasons have one thing in common, they are \”sweet mouthed\”. In comparison, children who appear shy and clumsy suffer a bit. For example, when neinei and max went to ask for eggs from the villagers, they were both very shy and kept saying \”you go\” and \”you go\” to each other. Finally neinei finally spoke, but he only got one at first. There is a little girl in the entertainment industry who is frequently criticized for being \”impolite\”. During the filming of the movie \”Youth Class\”, the director introduced Sun Honglei: \”Brother Honglei, this is Dongyu.\” Zhou Dongyu said: \”Hello, Sun Honglei.\” Calling his elders by their names made Sun Honglei a little unhappy. In another popular show, Zhou Dongyu also called his senior Wang Xun by his first name. Wang Xun asked for a photo twice, but Zhou Dongyu said \”I don\’t want to take a photo with you.\” Although some people say that children with sweet mouths are \”smart\” and \”smooth\”, and children with stupid mouths are \”straightforward\” and \”simple\”, we have to admit that the sincerity and kindness shown by those children with sweet mouths are more likely to be seen by people. When you do this, you will receive more kindness and warmth in return. And those stupid kidsAlthough children also have a kind heart, they are often misunderstood as withdrawn and uneducated. Their advantages are often buried, they receive less attention and make fewer friends. Such children are often the most disadvantaged. As parents, most of them hope to have a sweet and warm child who is polite and greets everyone. But in reality, why are some children sweet-tongued and others stupid? There are reasons for this due to personality and temperament. Normally, people\’s temperament types can be divided into four types: choleric, sanguine, phlegmatic and melancholic. There is no good or bad temperament, every temperament has its positive and negative aspects. But temperament can affect a child\’s personality. For example, people with choleric or sanguine temperaments are more enthusiastic and sociable, and are more likely to be \”sweet-mouthed\”; while people with phlegmatic and melancholic temperaments are calmer and steady, and often appear to be \”silly-mouthed\” \”. In addition to the reasons for personality and temperament, there are also reasons for education methods. Getting children to say hello is not as easy as we think. Reluctance to take the initiative to say hello is a common problem among many children. In the eyes of parents, saying hello is just a matter of words. But for children, when they are in strange situations or in front of unfamiliar people, they will instinctively feel wary. Just like a child will cry when being held by a stranger during infancy, the self-protection mechanism of seeking a sense of security will not disappear with age. Some parents often force their children to say hello. If the child does not take the initiative to say hello, some parents will blame the child: \”Why are you so rude?\”, \”Look at this child, why is he so ignorant\”… In this way, the child even Those who were originally willing to try saying hello will become very resistant – the pressure from their parents has turned greeting into a stressful task, making communication meaningless. How to make children willing to say hello and learn to be polite? The Japanese are world-famous for their politeness. Not only do they often say a series of honorifics, but they also say \”I\’m sorry,\” \”I\’m sorry,\” \”Excuse me,\” and \”Thank you very much.\” The Japanese method of teaching children to be polite is very simple and effective – parents \”respect and thank\” their children. Whenever watching Japanese dramas, Japanese people will put their palms together and say, \”I\’m about to get started\” before eating, and after finishing the meal, they will say, \”Thank you for your hospitality.\” Japanese people will say \”Thank you for your hard work\” to each other before leaving the company or when their family members come home from get off work. An elderly Japanese man said that no matter how hard or unhappy he was at work today, as soon as he walked in the door and heard his wife and daughter smiling at him and saying \”Thank you for your hard work,\” he could forget all his fatigue. The politeness between Japanese family members is puzzling – they are all family members, why should they be so polite? In the eyes of Japanese people, if they don’t know how to show respect and gratitude to the people closest to them, how can they be sincerely kind to outsiders? When a Taiwanese mother first arrived in Japan, her kindergarten children would often take home small handicrafts made in the kindergarten and give them to her as gifts. But she didn\’t seem particularly happy, she just let it go and didn\’t take it seriously. Later, she visited other Japanese homes and discovered that Japanese mothers would take their children backThe small handicrafts, small inventions, and even the thank-you letters written to my mother were displayed in every corner of the home. I looked very happy and proud, and even said thank you to my children generously in front of the guests. This Taiwanese mother was very touched. So she asked herself to change: praise her children more for their beauty, and thank them for their smiles, companionship and guidance. Simple polite words can always easily give others energy and bring joy to yourself. Why can you cultivate a \”sweet mouth\” in your children by being \”sweet\” to your family members? The greetings between family members are not purposeful performances. Saying \”Be careful when you go out\” to children and \”Thank you for your hard work\” to parents are not the same thing as being polite, but a sincere expression of emotion and an equal respect for personality. When parents sincerely respect their children, the children will naturally learn to respect them. Japanese children will seriously say to their parents, \”Thank you, Mom, for making me lunch,\” and \”Thank you, Dad, for coming to my performance.\” Children who grow up in a family atmosphere of respect and kindness are satisfied and happy children. Only when children leave the house and go outside will they be more willing to show kindness to others. The so-called greeting and politeness are a kind of respect for people, regardless of the level of \”sensible\” or \”emotional intelligence\”. When you walk on the streets of Japan, the old lady walking towards you will smile and nod hello to you. This kind of greeting is not a utilitarian means of socializing, because you don\’t know her at all, and there is no relationship of interest. Some people often choose their words carefully and politely when speaking to outsiders, but they often speak bluntly and without hesitation to their family members. For such people, politeness is just a utilitarian means of socializing. Their politeness is more like showing others, rather than respecting people from the bottom of their hearts. When we ask children to greet others, it is not to perform in social situations, not to get the evaluation of \”children are polite\”, or to cater to the requirements and expectations from the outside world, but to let children learn to respect people from the bottom of their hearts. Understanding this, we must first respect our families, respect our children, and say thank you to our families and children. \”Sweet mouth\” should start among family members. When the positive energy continues to radiate out, the joy I feel is indescribable in words.