How can children improve their expression and communication skills?

I saw a piece of news a while ago: [Complete] A class on how children can improve their eloquence and expression skills. A police station in Hangzhou received an alarm call from a 7-year-old boy. The child has clear logic and clear demands. He expresses his and his parents\’ names, phone numbers, and home addresses very clearly. http://www.doudehui.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/92c99ca67606b80.mp4 Although it was finally discovered that the parents only went to the garage to pick up things temporarily and did not tell the children, which led to this oolong news, but the children The powerful expressive ability really left a deep impression on people. If a child has strong expressive skills, he can effectively communicate information, promote his interactions with friends, and enhance his self-confidence. In fact, good expression ability is very similar to \”story power\”. Kai-Fu Lee once said that in the next 20 years, with the current development speed of intelligent machines, 50% of jobs may be replaced. However, machines have a shortcoming: they do not understand the rich social and cultural background of human beings. Machines cannot replace professions that are based on the power of storytelling. Companies such as NIKE, HP, and IBM began cultivating employees\’ storytelling abilities very early on. A survey in modern society also shows that children and adults with good storytelling skills often have good social relationships and influence, which in turn translates into advantages in career development. Parents must also attach great importance to the development of their children\’s expressive abilities. So, have you noticed these key points below? 01. The richness of vocabulary The first definition of good expression ability is the richness of vocabulary. Children with larger vocabulary can describe the content more vividly and express it more accurately and completely. So, how to enrich children\’s vocabulary? The picture books we usually read to our children and the books they read themselves will become part of the vocabulary library in their minds. Another important part lies in our daily communication with our children. In 1982, cognitive sociologists Betty Hart and Todd Besley followed 42 families of different social classes for three years and found that children\’s language ability was not significantly related to parents\’ education and socioeconomic status. The main thing is how much the child feels the language of his parents. The more language a child experiences, the better his language skills will be. The more conversations parents have with their children, the faster their children\’s vocabulary will grow. In addition, forcing or prohibiting children from receiving vocabulary will stifle their language learning ability. For example, some parents will subconsciously use mandatory sentences such as \”don\’t\”, \”no\”, and \”stop\” when talking to their children. Such sentences will have a negative impact on their children. The correct communication method, in addition to trying to avoid mandatory sentences, the role of \”small talk\” is also greater than imagined. In life, our conversations with our children are divided into \”transactional conversations\” and \”small talk.\” The former is similar to: Go down, put on your shoes, finish your meal. Small talk included: This tree is so big, the ice cream is so delicious, and who is mom’s man? This kind of lively \”you come and I go\” banter is very beneficial to children\’s language development. Usually weWe should chat more with children, and we can also use open-ended questions to guide children to talk more: for example, we can ask children: Did you feel happy at school today? why? What things happened that made you happy? Instead of asking whether you were good or not today, which can be answered with a \”yes\” or \”no\”, you need to create more of a back-and-forth communication model. 02. Diversification of sentence patterns. Short sentences are sonorous and powerful, and long sentences have profound meanings. If the child can flexibly use the combination of long and short sentences to express, the listener will be easier to understand and will be better able to understand the emotions expressed by the child. Harvard University research shows that families who often talk to their children about what happened in the past or what is about to happen in the future, and explain to their children how things work and answer their questions about why, have greater vocabulary and narrative skills. The sentences used in this type of expression are longer and more complex. When describing what happened in the past or future, children are better able to understand the logical structure of the story. We can combine this kind of conversation with reading. For example, if your child recently read a book about animals, we can take this opportunity to ask him, do you still remember when we went to the zoo? What animals did you see? Then what? If there are any other interesting things, guide the children to talk about them. 03. Have opinions and logic. Some children are \”little talkative\” in daily life and can talk non-stop on any occasion. Maybe parents think that such children are expressive and already good at talking. However, some children seem to be very eloquent, but their speech is not coherent. To train children to express coherently, we have two methods to try: Retelling method We have emphasized in many articles the importance of letting children retell stories they have read. Retelling can help improve children\’s memory and understanding abilities. , and can also exercise children\’s narrative language. A complete story retelling requires the child to explain the cause and effect of the story. In reading classes in the United States, a very good retelling method is taught, called the \”five-finger retelling method.\” This method is to let the child use five fingers to tell a story. Each finger represents the main point of a story. From thumb to little finger, they can respectively represent: Setting (Setting) Character (Character) Problem (Problem) Events (Events) Solution (Solution) The child remembers these five points and when retelling There will be no lack of order. Parents\’ description: Children\’s imitation ability is quite strong. When we explain and describe things to our children, we must pay attention to the logic of speech. For example, when explaining a problem to a child, explain cause and effect to him from the perspective of \”because…so\”. For another example, to describe what we will do in a while, we can say: we eat first, then do what we do, and finally wash up and get ready for bed, or use words such as first, second, and third. Other things to pay attention to are the listener\’s feelings. When a child describes something, a problem often arises: he will describe it from his own point of view, completely regardless of whether the listener understands the background of what he is talking about, causing the listener to cloud his mind. In the fog. First of all, when parents communicate with their children, they should pay attention to finishing the sentence.complete sentences, and guide children to speak complete sentences. Second, ask more why. When children’s expressions are confusing, we need to keep three principles in mind. Ask the child why he said it, what he did or thought about it after saying it, and what effect he wanted to achieve in the end. Reduce the modal particles and let the child talk about a topic that is interesting and familiar to him, for example, his favorite book, how was the movie he watched yesterday, and other similar questions. Observe the number of modal particles he uses. Some children will subconsciously use \”then\” or \”uh\” to connect. We should try our best to help him reduce the frequency of such words and help him increase his fluency and confidence in conversation. Adaptation and role-playing We can adapt stories from books and picture books with our children and role-play at home. Let the children assign roles to everyone. This allows your child to learn to give commands more effectively and also helps develop his leadership skills. Continuation and creation can allow children to talk while looking at pictures, allowing children to imagine what the scene is in a picture, what may have happened, and how it will develop next. Children are also encouraged to rewrite, continue, etc. the endings of books they usually read. How to improve children\’s language expression ability is written at the end. We have introduced some training that can be completed at home. For some children who are interested in speaking, attending eloquence classes or speech classes can also improve their self-confidence and exercise their courage to express themselves in public.