How can you stupid adults understand the joys that only belong to children?

Vancouver, which has always experienced continuous autumn rain, had a rare cool autumn today, and because we moved to a new home, Chengzi took the children to a park they had never been to before. Before the car even stopped, the naughty children cheered because they saw the playground. There are three playgrounds in this park, and you can play them one by one. It’s a lot of fun. ▲Playgrounds are outdoor facilities for children to play. They are installed in many public places in North America. A few years ago, I would be very excited every time I saw a playground. It was so cool to have so many free places for children to play! But after keeping my two children together until they are so old, I have already developed to the point where I want to vomit when I see the slides and swings… The two of them started playing in the playground when they were less than six months old, and the eldest child has been playing in the playground until he is over six years old. Not mixed enough. Everywhere they go, no matter how far the journey is, how good the scenery is, or how expensive the tickets are, they just take a quick look at the attractions. Most of the time they just want to stay in the free playground and refuse to leave. ▲Crossing half the Pacific Ocean to Hawaii, but you still only care about playing in the playground. If you explain that you don’t get tired of playing because the playgrounds with different themes in different places give them a different sense of freshness, that’s not necessarily the case, even if you go there every day. They still won\’t get tired of that playground, and they won\’t want to go home until they\’re so hungry that they have no energy left. You can play on the slide a hundred times, swing on the swing a thousand times, or climb a shelf ten thousand times, but you will never get tired of it~~~Why is it so easy to be happy in your life? It sounds like children really have the superpower of happiness! The same game, the same story, the same cartoon episode, repeated over and over again, they can enjoy it as much as they did when they first came into contact with it. It is truly the state of \”It\’s like meeting each other for the first time in life\”! Sometimes I’m a little jealous, why can a child be happy about the same thing many, many times without becoming numb due to overload? This ability is really beyond the reach of adults even after a lifetime of cultivation. Just imagine, if adults were as easily satisfied as children, would they feel more happiness? For example, no matter how many times you tell the same joke, it is still as funny as the first time you heard it. For example, no matter how many times you eat the same food, it will always taste as delicious as the first time (ps. Four years ago, North American lobster prices were greatly reduced, so I was greedy and ate them four times in a row. As a result, I have no appetite now when I mention lobster. No, this is a sad story for foodies) For example, even if you get to know the same person day and night, you will feel as in love as if you saw him for the first time. Do you feel that the world has become a beautiful world? However, this realm is just a thought. The reason why children are so easy to be happy is simply because they do not have the same kind of brain as adults! After a baby is born, the brain begins to develop at a rapid pace, and one of the most significant phenomena is the rapid increase in synaptic connections. If the external environment is suitable, a neuron can generate tens of thousands of synapses.It only takes a few seconds to generate a synapse. At the age of 2 years, the number of synapses can reach the level of adults. At the age of 3 years, the density of synapses in the brain of young children is twice that of adults. The rapid growth of synapses does not mean that the child\’s brain has become more mature. It is precisely a sign of immaturity, because although the brain with too many dendrites has stronger sensory capabilities, it consumes too much energy and does not Not the most efficient way. Therefore, when a certain part of the function has developed relatively mature, the brain will automatically start to prune the dendrites it considers to be \”excessive\”, that is, those dendrites that are in charge of \”less used functions\”, reducing the brain\’s energy consumption. . This explains why there are sensitive periods, because there is really a \”window\” in brain development: when the brain wants to develop a certain aspect of function, such as motor ability, the stimulation of the brain by the child\’s movement will form a large number of Related to the dendrites of motor nerves, children\’s feelings about movement will become particularly rich and intense, which drives children to like to change their movements in sports, thus generating more stimulation. In this way, stimulation and feelings will promote each other in a cycle, and the children\’s experience will be that they will play often, which will lead them to be involuntarily obsessed with certain activities and repeat them a thousand times without getting bored. When one day the brain feels, well, it’s almost time, it will mercilessly prune away a large number of dendrites that it deems useless. The child’s sensitivity to this activity will decrease and he will no longer be particularly interested. . When a person reaches adulthood, 40% of the original dendrites in the brain have to be pruned. From a child who sees infinite possibilities, he becomes a boring adult who can only see the most simple and efficient way. Let’s give an interesting example: babies can actually distinguish the different pronunciations of all languages ​​in the world, but once they grow up, their ears seem to be hard to use. For example, Chinese people cannot hear the difference between the sounds w and v. Koreans can\’t tell the difference between the two sounds p and f. That\’s because in their childhood language environment, there was no need to separate these two sounds, so the nerve synapses responsible for distinguishing these two sounds were pruned. Precisely because children\’s brains have more dendrites and are more complex than adults\’, their feelings are much richer than those of adults. You can\’t understand this feeling, just like you can\’t hear the difference between W and V (although one is puffing) (one comes from biting the lower lip), so you always think that children behave inexplicably, but in fact they just don’t understand their sensory world: if he hits the slide a thousand times, the speed of each time may be different. The feeling of slowing down is different. He has listened to the story a thousand times, and probably each time he will have a new understanding of the plot and discover new details in the picture. He has played hide and seek a thousand times, and even if he hides in the same place every time, he will have a completely different experience each time he hides and searches. Children are such a group of magical little animals. To them, every day is never repeated and every experience is brand new. Such keen sensitivity is more conducive to them learning various skills and experiencing the small differences between details, so they will take their time,There will be obsessive-compulsive disorder and endless repetition. Then they will create the boring experience that we as parents have when playing with each other. This may be the most difficult experience in the parenting process. Sometimes I think it is more difficult than coaxing to sleep. While playing with me, I think: Baby , I really can’t figure out whether I love you more or I feel more bored. However, compared to the colorful world of children, adults are the most boring animals. All the \”superfluous and useless\” things have been cut off long ago. There are only routines left in their minds, and they always want to be simple in everything they do. Rough and efficient, he only knows to say \”quick, quick, quick\” all day long, but he remains blind to the magic in the world. How much does your child love you to endure your incomprehensible style? When your child always asks you to do something with her repeatedly. When your child is dawdling and procrastinating. When your child has obsessive-compulsive disorder and cares about trivial details all day long, please understand them. This is exactly why they are. Such an easy source of happiness. When we complain that our children are bored and have too many things to do, can we realize that it is not that they are too naive and unreasonable, but that we ourselves have lost our childlike innocence? My Maotou is over six years old, and his way of thinking is becoming more and more mature. He gradually begins to pay less attention to details than he did when he was a child, and he doesn\’t like to repeat as much. He is becoming more and more like an adult, weighing the pros and cons and making more rational choices. Sometimes I speak like a little adult. Although this kind of guy is more persuasive and understanding than before, and I am very pleased with his growth, I have to admit that I often miss him when he was a child. Repeatedly making a face can make him lean back and forth, and he can be happy and laugh so easily. look. Fortunately, I have Guoguo, and I am still obsessed with very childish things. But when I think about Guoguo growing up soon, it makes me very sad. This is the eternal contradiction of being a mother. So, stop complaining about children always doing childish and boring things. That is actually the time when they are happiest, most innocent, and cutest. Once it has passed, they can never get it back. Only by cherishing and valuing every moment of your child’s life as a child can you live up to this nurturing and companionship!