How did I become a super mom?

Last weekend, a female classmate of Rooney held a birthday party and invited him to attend. Because the location was a DIY living center in a shopping mall, we went there in advance and took our two kids to stroll around the mall for a while. However, while shopping in the mall, something unpleasant happened. Rooney wanted a toy, but his father refused, so he asked me for it. I thought the toy was fun and the price was quite good, so I bought it for him. Because of this, his father became unhappy and said that I was spoiling the child. We started to argue, and his father turned away in anger, leaving the three of us behind. This is not the first time this has happened~~~ My classmate’s mother saw me taking care of two kids by myself, and admired my ability. I smiled bitterly and said, “His dad also came with me, and he just left. But I’m taking care of two kids by myself. It’s okay to have a baby. When I was just out of confinement after giving birth to my second child, my mother hadn’t come yet, and my mother-in-law had left again. I was still raising two babies and doing housework by myself.” A classmate often reads my articles. , also asked me: \”I really admire you! You have to raise two children and write articles. How do you do it?\” Let me first let you know that I am not a stay-at-home mother. I have a job within the system. I am working, currently on maternity leave, and my mother helps me with housework, but I am mainly responsible for taking care of the two babies. I write articles intermittently every day while the babies are asleep. When I think about it carefully, I quite admire myself. I think back then, before I had children, I actually worked two or three hours at work during the day. The rest of the time was spent checking my phone, reading newspapers, shopping on Taobao, drinking tea and chatting. I slept eight or nine hours a day and complained about being tired all day long. ; Now, I get up at six in the morning and start taking care of the baby. I put the two babies to bed at around ten o\’clock in the evening, and continue writing until twelve o\’clock. I rest for six hours a day (and have to be woken up by the baby countless times in the middle) and I am always refreshed. full. When I first gave birth to the baby, I was too clumsy to hold the baby. Every time the baby vomited milk or pooped, I would yell \”Mom, come here!\”. When the baby was sick, I was even more anxious and overwhelmed; now, I am alone. I can hold the baby in my arms and buy groceries and cook. I can bathe, massage and dress the baby all at once. The baby can spit up and poop on me calmly. It’s not a problem for me to take two babies out alone. Before I had the baby, I also She was almost a good girl who didn’t touch the sun and knew nothing except reading. Now, she can do laundry, mop the floor and cook, sing, dance and draw by hand. She also knows how to manage finances, plan for disease and care. Super mom. If you want to ask me how I achieved this, I summed it up and there are two reasons: 1. After raising a baby that was difficult to take care of for one day, a mother in the WeChat group complained: \”In the six months since I gave birth to the baby, I have not had any She slept through a full night\’s sleep! This baby is so difficult!\” After I saw it, I immediately replied: \”Sister, I haven\’t known what it\’s like to sleep through a full night\’s sleep for six years~~~\” \”Oh my God, six years! You How did I get here?\” God knows how I got here! It is said that most boys are sleepers, and our Rooney is definitely the champion among sleepers! Before falling asleep, they tell stories for half an hour and scratch for half an hour to an hour. The most devastating thing is that after falling asleep, they wake up and scratch themselves countless times during the night, sometimes for half an hour or an hour! Every night in the dead of night, listen toListening to the grunts of my teammates next to me, I really wanted to kick him to the Pacific Ocean~~~ I held on to my weak body every night, endured the anger that was about to explode, and was arrested by Rooney for six years, 365 days a year. ! It abruptly changed me from a person who couldn’t shake my head when sleeping, to a person who wakes up at the slightest movement! Rooney has allergies. From eczema in infancy to atopic dermatitis now, his skin never gets better. Because of his disease, I have been to countless hospitals and seen countless doctors, but I have no idea. There is currently no cure for this disease! The symptoms can only be relieved by taking medicine and applying ointments. In order to take good care of his skin, I have to apply skin cream on him whenever I have free time. Sometimes he is afraid of itchiness and avoids me, so I don’t care about it. If I catch him, I will hold him down hard and apply it to his neck, arms, and legs. Apply several times until the skin can no longer absorb it. This is a big, time-consuming and labor-intensive project. Because he is severely allergic to dust mites, I mop and vacuum the floor every day. In the past few months, I didn’t want to change the sheets and quilt covers. Now I take them out and wash them every other week. This has cured my laziness! But skin allergies are a minor thing. The most serious thing is coughing every three days. In less than two days, the cough will develop into bronchial asthma and the mouth will be wheezing. As soon as I wake up at night, I will quickly poke his nose, fearing that he will suddenly Breathing paused. Even now, when I hear him start coughing, I get so nervous that my whole body tenses up. Doctors in first-tier cities are too busy and it is impossible to ask more questions. They can only learn nursing knowledge by themselves. In order to take care of Rooney, I changed from a person who didn\’t know what medicine to take for a cold to a half-pediatrician who knew how to deal with common pediatric diseases. My younger brother Xiaobei is now eight months old and has never been to the hospital due to illness. Although Rooney is often sick, he is extremely energetic every day. People say that children are monsters that \”charge for 5 minutes and stand by for 2 hours.\” But our Rooney can \”charge for 5 minutes and stand by for a whole day!\” \”Before I gave birth to my younger brother, I had to stay with him every day when I got home from work or on weekends. To deal with an energetic baby, you have to be alert at all times. Outside, he will disappear if you are not paying attention; at home, if you don\’t look at him, he may break the roof. Even if you have played the same game a hundred times and you are so sleepy that your eyelids are about to fight, he will still grab you and continue to sing and dance with him. You have to pretend to be happy, otherwise, the whole process will have to be repeated! It\’s okay to worry about his poor health. Rooney also inherited his father\’s bad temper. If he is dissatisfied at all, he will immediately start crying and shouting, and his voice will be shockingly loud. According to the legend, terrible two, horrible three, fucking four, none of them were left behind. Finally, we got a sweet five. In less than half a year, we reached the age of five or six that even dogs despise… Take yesterday for example, after practicing the piano. He bought a cup of soy milk and said he would boil it before drinking it, so I took a few sips to try, but he immediately screamed, sat down angrily and refused to go home. Whenever this happens, I hope heNot my son! If you try to save trouble by simply scolding, ordering or even beating him, it will have no effect on him. It will only add fuel to the fire and fight you to the end. You have to endure the anger in your heart, calm down first, and then empathize with him, apologize, and communicate in a gentle voice before he listens to you. It took me a lifetime of emotional intelligence to deal with such a kid. I couldn\’t hit or scold her, and I was afraid of causing internal injuries, so I had to teach myself various parenting techniques and self-cultivation manuals. What about PET, parent effectiveness training manual, whole-brain parenting, accepting children, listening to children, play skills, setting boundaries for children, non-violent communication… No matter what school of parenting teaching materials, I bought them all and went through them all, pushing myself to the limit. Become a parenting expert in everyone’s eyes now. 2. Marrying a teammate who is like a pig. If you want to marry a capable husband, I am not like that. But I met a teammate who is like a pig. When Rooney was just born, I couldn\’t even turn over in bed after the operation. I asked him to help massage my numb thighs. He gently squeezed twice and heard the baby cry, and immediately ignored me and just coaxed the baby. . Anyway, since you know how to take care of the baby, I won\’t argue with you. Unexpectedly, within two days of the novelty of becoming a father, his straight nature would be exposed. When I sleep next to my baby, I will wake up when the baby turns over, but the baby on his side won\’t wake me up even if he howls to the sky. The next morning, I happily told you: \”The baby slept very well last night!\” One night, I was so angry that I kicked him under the bed, and he yelled: \”What are you doing?!\” Rooney is often sick. If he is asked to take time off to take his baby to see a doctor, he will either excuse it because he is too busy with work, or cry to you: \”I\’m afraid of going to a place like the hospital.\” Damn, who likes to go to the hospital? I bought a bicycle for Rooney online. When the goods arrived, I happened to take my two children to my sister\’s place, so I told him to install the bike first so that Rooney could ride it as soon as he got back. Unexpectedly, when we got home a few days later, we found that the box had not yet been unpacked. Rooney was eager to ride it, but he said it was too late and too tired to wait until tomorrow. As a result, he worked overtime until eleven or twelve o\’clock for several days in a row. At Rooney\’s urging, I had no choice but to do it myself. After researching for a long time, I finally assembled a bicycle. I couldn\’t believe that I still had the potential to engage in mechanics. Once, I accompanied Wayne Rooney to assemble a fighter jet made of small bricks. I proudly posted it to Moments, looking forward to everyone\’s appreciation. Unexpectedly, I was severely hit by a colleague: \”I usually leave this kind of thing to The father of the child will do it.\” I could only smile bitterly in my heart: Our pig teammate simply doesn\’t have the patience to play with the child in this way. No, I went to IKEA a few days ago and bought a set of dominoes. I thought the rules of the game were very complicated and didn’t want to study them, so I asked Rooney to ask his dad. But he took a second look and didn’t understand, so he threw the instructions aside and started browsing on his phone. I went there, but I haven’t researched it yet. As my baby grows up, I plan the route every time we go out. This year, I leave it to him to arrange the National Day holiday. Unexpectedly, the holiday is coming soon and he has not decided where to go. He also famously said that \”when I go out during the National Day, I just go to see people.\” , it’s better to just take a walk around home.” Okay, I listened to him. I played at home for two days and went out for a walk on the third day of vacation.In the supermarket, he and Rooney had another conflict over a trivial matter. Rooney was so angry that he immediately called his uncle to take him to Zhongshan to find his grandparents. As Rooney has grown up, he seems to have gone to the kindergarten once or twice to pick up and drop off. He didn\’t know that his child\’s tuition fee had already increased from 1800 to 2200 a month. He didn\’t know the name of the class teacher, let alone the name of his best classmate. , What is your favorite class? He has been a father for six years, and he still doesn’t wash his baby’s hair. He doesn’t know where his baby’s clothes are. He doesn’t know how to get his baby’s ID card and medical insurance card, or how to pay his family’s water and electricity bills. When I get home, I always immediately collapse on the sofa and look at my phone. When I am happy, I play with my baby for a while. When I am unhappy, I immediately throw the baby to me and go out to relax. The most disgusting thing is that I have tried my best to raise the baby, but I have never received a word of approval from him. When he found that the baby\’s behavior did not meet his requirements, he treated the baby roughly and took me with him: \”Follow your mother.\” Same thing!\” \”It\’s what your mother is used to!\” Complain to him about how hard it is to raise a baby. Instead of being sympathetic, he will be angry with you: \”How about I quit my job and stay at home to raise the baby?\” Not only does he have no patience for raising a baby, he also has no method , is simple and rude to her children, and is unwilling to learn parenting knowledge. Just yesterday, when he was about to eat, he saw that Rooney was still watching cartoons and didn\’t come over after calling him twice. He immediately stepped forward and slapped Rooney in the face, and said fiercely: \”This is a warning. I won\’t do it again when eating.\” In this way, I will just come up and slap you!\” I secretly screamed in my heart: \”Yes, I carefully protect the child\’s heart, for fear that he will be hurt, but now you slap me and let me fail!\” Rooney cried and shouted: \”When I grow up, I won\’t care about you when you get old!\” Then he hugged me and cried: \”Mom, why did you find this kind of person to marry? I don\’t want this kind of father. Come on, give me a new father.\” I was eating my meal and originally didn\’t want to get involved in the conflict between father and son. When I heard this, I couldn\’t help but burst into laughter and thought to myself: \”Son, that\’s well said! To be honest, the idea of ​​divorce has appeared in my mother\’s mind countless times!\” However, venting was a matter of venting. Afterwards, I pulled Rooney into the room and told him seriously: \”Although your dad sometimes has a bad temper, he still has a bad temper. He loves you the most, because you are his son. If it were a father, you are not his biological son, and he is not familiar with you, so he would never be so kind to you.\” Rooney said nothing thoughtfully. I saw a joke a few days ago: two men chatting together. A man in the city said: \”My wife may have done it. She drives her own car, does her own laundry, cooks, cleans, feeds and manages the children, sends her children to and from school, makes money, and goes shopping by herself. Nothing is too difficult for her!\” \”The rural man replied: \”People like your wife are called widows in our village.\” I exclaimed, aren\’t you talking about me? Yesterday, I accompanied Rooney to review Hayao Miyazaki\’s animation \”Castle in the Sky\”, and I noticed a detail: when the pirate mother-in-law heard the young Bass say that the girl Shida was willing to be taken away by the army in order to save him, she said: \”This girl is really nice, just like my mother when she was young.\” Her pirate sons listened and whispered to each other in disbelief: \”Do you believe it? HidaWill you become like your mother in the future? \”Looking at this scene, I couldn\’t help but laugh. The gentle and quiet girl Shida would turn into a strong and rough pirate leader. This was something I would never believe even to death before I got married. But now, I actually feel that Miyazaki Hayao This description is very true! Without a husband and with such naughty sons, no matter how beautiful a girl is, she will turn into a shrew! If you want to say how I became a super mother, it’s not because I raised A difficult son and a teammate married to a pig!