How do you know if your child is doing well in kindergarten? Children will not take the initiative to speak, but parents should be able to ask

It has been a week since my baby went to kindergarten. As a parent, what I am most worried about is that my baby will not have a good time in kindergarten. Every day when I pick up my baby after school, I will start a series of questions. How is he doing at school? What did you eat today? What did you do today? Have any children bullied you? Have you ever noticed, as parents, that when you ask these questions, your children don’t answer well? They mumble over a few words, and even change the topic for you, ignoring you at all. Parents also failed to get any valid information from their children, so their questions were in vain. Want to know how your child is doing in kindergarten? Some parents will take the initiative to communicate with teachers, but I belong to the socially fearful group. As long as the teacher does not come to me, I will never take the initiative to provoke the teacher! I guess there are many parents like me. We also want to know how our children are doing in kindergarten. Instead of asking the teachers, we can only ask the children. Children generally will not take the initiative to tell you, so we have to take the initiative to ask, but we also need to master the method of asking. How to talk so that the children are willing to take the initiative to share with you? Find the right time and ask when your child is in a good mood. When your child is in a good mood, he or she will be willing to share many things with you. Therefore, when we receive a child, we first give the child a big hug, express our thoughts about the day, and let the child know that the parents are also missing him. Then see how the child is feeling? If the child is in a good mood, you can take the opportunity to start asking questions. If the child is in a bad mood, stop asking and shift the conversation to caring for the child. When we ask, we don’t necessarily have to ask right now after school. We can also ask at night when we are playing with our children, or before going to bed. In short, the questions should be like our daily chats with children. In a relatively relaxed atmosphere, the topic should naturally come up. Tete and I usually chat before going to bed. I will first share with my children what happened today, what did I do, and how was my mood? He would also share with me things he did in kindergarten. I usually take the initiative to share my affairs with my child and chat with him as if I were a friend. Therefore, many times, he will tell me whether he is happy or unhappy. He came home from school a few days ago and said to me: Mom, let me tell you a very funny thing. When I got up at noon, I put on the wrong pants. I wore them as XXX, and then XXX became mine. , I said why my pants have become fat, it turns out that I wore them wrong, hahaha, isn’t it funny… Hahaha, so funny, I will also tell you a very funny thing… Ask in a targeted manner, Make the questions specific and detailed. When asking children questions, do not ask them all directly. Children will not be able to remember so many questions at once. Ask them one by one. And it is best to let the child take the lead in the topic. When asking the child a question, you should change the questioning strategy and avoid some closed questions, such as \”How was your day in kindergarten today?\” Some children will directly say that it was good, but there will be no follow-up. . Also avoid asking general questions, such as \”How are you feeling today?\” When chatting with your child, the questions should be specific and detailed so that the child can answer them. for example,What song did the teacher teach you to sing today? What games did you play with your children today? What fruit did you eat in kindergarten today? …The younger the children, such as those in small classes, the more specific our questions should be, so that they can easily understand and answer them. When children enter middle class or senior class, they have more and more ideas and become more and more independent. We need to consider the children\’s feelings first before understanding the things we care about. Get started, and then you can open up your child\’s chat box. Listen patiently and encourage children to express their opinions and communicate with them. The attitude of parents is the key. Some parents become impatient after listening to their children talk for a while, or think that what their children say is \”nonsense\” and deny their children\’s ideas and opinions based on adult standards. I feel that my child\’s ideas are very childish. I will interrupt my child before he has finished speaking, and will not give my child a chance to express. If I am in a bad mood, I will even scold my child. This can easily damage children\’s self-confidence. Over time, they will not be willing to communicate with us. Therefore, if you want your children to be willing to talk to you, you must first learn to listen patiently. Even if your children\’s ideas make you feel childish, encourage your children to express their opinions and then discuss them with your children. Therefore, parents please cherish the moments when your children are willing to talk to you, do not rush to interrupt your children, and respond positively to them. This communication model will play an unexpected role in the entire growth stage of your children. Only if we are willing to listen will our children be willing to talk to us, so parents please listen first. It is not recommended for parents to ask questions with negative emotions ❌Did any children bully you today? ✔What games did you play with the children in kindergarten today? ❌Did the teacher criticize you? ✔What songs did the teacher teach you to sing (or games to play) today? These negative questions will give a negative hint to the children. When you first ask the children whether they have been bullied or criticized, it is easy to give them a There is an illusion that \”someone may bully me\” in kindergarten. In this problem, the child is like the \”bullied\”, which makes him have a negative view of normal interactions with classmates or communication with teachers. My child is now in middle school and is very willing to share things in kindergarten with me. If we want our children to be willing to talk to us, I think the most important thing is that we also talk to our children, take the initiative to chat with them about our affairs, and treat them as friends. If we chat the same way, he will be willing to treat us as friends and talk to us about his affairs. Also, when a child is willing to talk to us, we must listen patiently, respect the child, encourage the child to express himself, and be willing to let him express himself, then the child will always be willing to communicate with you.