How do you manage your children who play with their mobile phones crazily after the holidays? This is how I do it, simple and effective

I have two daughters, a sister who is about to be in fourth grade and a sister who is about to be in grade one or two. Every year during winter and summer vacations, they get headaches. When they were young, they worried that no one would take care of them. They thought it would be fine when they were older. After last year\’s winter vacation, they managed to survive it until they could spend the holiday independently at home. Unexpectedly, a new problem arose again! Both children are good at taking care of themselves. It is easy to solve the problem of living alone at home during the holidays. If they do not have high academic requirements, they can still complete their homework. However, electronic products cannot be controlled, especially tablets. At first, I bought a tablet because my sister needed to take online classes. During her time outside of class, she would check out several popular science public accounts she followed, and occasionally play stand-alone games. During the holidays, considering that I would spend more time at home, I followed their request and downloaded an online game called \”Egg Boy Party\”. According to the agreement, the daily game time is 1 hour, with a maximum of 2 hours. However, after officially starting the game, I found that the situation was out of control. Firstly, they did not have the concept of punctuality, and secondly, they were not finished playing. Let alone two hours, they might not be able to stop after three or four hours. Occasionally when they get tired of playing games, they will watch short videos. Enjoy the \”instant happiness\” brought by short videos and enjoy it every day. As for the homework, I squeezed out some time to complete it, but there is no doubt that the completion speed is very fast but the quality is not high. This state made me feel vaguely uneasy, but I couldn\’t explain how it felt. After it lasted for nearly two weeks, I suddenly discovered that my sister who originally liked reading extracurricular books seemed to have not picked up the book for a long time, and my sister who used to like drawing no longer seemed to have picked up the book. I didn’t pick up the color pens, so the roller skates, colored clay, puzzles, and bicycles at home were all neglected. Not only that, every day, whether they are eating or doing other things, you can feel that they are confused and absent-minded when they are not on the tablet. Extended reading: Is the Internet the Doraemon of teenagers and children or a scourge (a must-read for parents). I began to realize that mobile phones must be controlled.丨01丨Conversation: Communicate with your children seriously, tell them the dangers of playing with mobile phones, and review their recent performance to compare it with the original. From the quality of homework, to the amount of reading, to the time spent each day drawing, crafting, and hanging out. In short, make sure they understand why I want to control my phone.丨02丨After taking away the hobby tablet, I immediately decorated the home environment and placed the handmade toys that the sisters love to play with, the books that they usually like to read, and the sports equipment that is used frequently are placed in conspicuous positions. I bought some fresh materials online, such as building blocks, quiet books, puzzle books, twist sticks, colored clay, drawing boards, etc. Attract their attention and encourage them to do more hands-on work, read more books, create more and exercise more.丨03丨Housework In order to fill up their time outside of study, I also assigned them daily housework. Starting with housekeeping, let them tidy their desks, sweep and mop the floor, fold quilts, and fold clothes. This time, there were a lot of things to do, and time passed… In addition, during the weekends, I also purchased materials for them to make delicious food together. Making dumplings, making siomai, baking cakes, etc., let them experience the joy of the kitchen and keep them busy. active itemsWith more eyes, naturally I am less worried about the tablet.丨04丨Time planning In today’s era, there is no way to completely prevent children from being exposed to electronic products. This is a gift from the environment. Children who do not know how to play games may appear unsociable and have no topics to communicate with their peers. Therefore, children should plan their time reasonably when using electronic products, but it is not completely prohibited. Limit tablet use to about an hour a day, and choose an educational movie or documentary for them to watch. The penalty for overtime is cancellation or shortening of use time, and this is strictly enforced.丨05丨Leading by example In order to make the children resolutely obey and strictly implement control decisions, I decided to start with self-control. Do your work during working hours, and don’t check your phone when you get home. In my spare time, I also look through books, read classics, and read novels. Sometimes I really don’t want to read, so I just do housework. Although I don’t fully participate in their various activities, I always keep an eye on them. They will be praised in time for their well-drawn paintings and handicrafts, and they will also be asked to share and exchange reading experiences for the books they read. Invite dad to participate in sports and have a hearty \”Family Cup Sports Meet\” after dinner every night. In the first few days, the two children complained about this kind of control, complaining from time to time that the time spent playing with the tablet was too short, but I was determined to fulfill the agreement. After a period of time, when they adapted to this rhythm, they obviously became better. Feeling like I\’m starting to return. The older sister who loved reading books often picked up extracurricular books again, and the younger sister who loved painting more often produced \”masterpieces\” one after another. The quality of her homework has also improved, and she has a sense of active participation in everything.丨END丨The Internet and applications on the Internet are designed to make people addicted. Children\’s addiction to the Internet will not only waste time, but also destroy the child\’s thinking ability. Reading, painting, sports and other projects are all \”delayed happiness\”, which require children to use their hands and brains, which is time-consuming and labor-intensive. What electronic products can bring is “instant happiness”. Rich content and visual and auditory stimulation are a kind of instant entertainment, but when children are immersed in instant happiness, it will be difficult to slow down the pace and spend time and effort cultivating delayed happiness. However, the more this happens, the more we must pay attention to it. The famous \”Nipple Fun\” strategy talks about something like this. In 1995, a famous American strategist proposed that the gap between rich and poor in society will become wider and wider in the future. The poor will get poorer and the rich will get richer. There will definitely be contradictions in between. So how to deal with such contradictions? He came up with a method, which is \”nipple fun\”. He said putting a nipple in the poor man\’s mouth, but what is this nipple? That is the Internet, video games, gossip, entertainment and television, which will make poor people addicted to them. When they are filled with these things, they will no longer think about it, and there will be no contradictions in society.