How do you put a newborn to sleep? What level of practice have you reached?

On weekends, best friend A took her two-year-old daughter, best friend B took her three-year-old son and one-and-a-half-year-old daughter, and I took my two-year-old son, and we went out in a group. We were joking, talking and laughing along the way, and we were very happy. However, I don’t know when the topic was brought up to put him to sleep. \”Getting me to sleep every day is like fighting a war! It\’s amazing. The eight-year war of resistance was not as hard as mine!\” Best friend B said angrily while holding her son who wanted to catch goldfish with one hand and her daughter who wanted to eat a toy apple with the other hand. \”Who says it\’s not the case! I spend all my energy just putting my son to sleep every day! Why watch a drama or make a facial mask? It doesn\’t exist! I\’m already exhausted and paralyzed after putting my son to sleep. After he fell asleep, his face looked like it was in the middle of the night. Wash it when you wake up!\” I stopped my son from throwing the toy into the water with quick eyes and hands, and followed suit without hesitation. Where is best friend A at this time? She was sitting quietly at the table with her daughter, drawing flowers, and the water in the fish pond next to her reflected her beautiful makeup. Listening to our complaints, she said slowly, \”Oh, you are still coaxing her to sleep at such an old age? My daughter always sleeps by herself. All she needs is a kiss from me before she goes to sleep! Oh, let me tell you Ah, that facial mask is really useful. If you apply one every night, your face will become much whiter and softer! Look, isn’t it?\” Nani? My best friend B and I both gave her a look of contempt and silently took our children away from this beautiful woman! \”Let\’s not go out to play with her in the future!\” Best friend B suggested. \”That\’s right! My old mother\’s lungs are about to explode! What\’s so good about that facial mask! Huh!\” If I can\’t eat grapes, it\’s just me who says sour grapes. But then again, is a baby’s sleep really so different? Haha, God sneered, \”Of course!\” Before, my sister played a small game called \”The Most Awkward Game 2\”, which had level 50 to coax the baby to sleep. As a single student, she couldn\’t get over it, so she asked for help from her sister who had been fighting with her baby for almost two years. \”Sister, the game requires: coax the baby to sleep. The props include a minion doll, a pacifier, a milk bottle, and a little yellow duck. I have been given a minion doll and a bottle, but I can\’t coax him to sleep?\” Facing my sister, she asked I was shocked when I asked for help. Could it be that I have accumulated almost two years of experience in coaxing people to sleep, and am I going to be sent to the battlefield of the game at this moment? Just when I was proudly sorting out my knowledge on how to put myself to sleep, my hot-tempered sister sent me a second paragraph, \”I used the key to read the answer, and it said that I should hold it in my arms and simulate the movement of a cradle. But, I Shake it, why can\’t you pass the test?\” Hahahaha… Boy, your posture is wrong! \”Are you gentle when you shake? Are you fast? Are you using a lot of force?\” My sister didn\’t understand and gave me a black question mark face. \”Move gently, slow down, and don\’t use too much force. Think of the mobile phone as a baby. Slowly, gently shake it from the left shoulder to the right shoulder, again and again, no more than a few times. , it can take at least a few minutes or more than ten minutes…\” A few minutes later, my sister replied to me with a few words, \”Oh my god, sister, I passed the test!\” Haha, I turned off the phone silently, thinking to myself, waiting for you Have a child? You’ll find out when you have a child.Let’s face it, coaxing to sleep like this can only be regarded as the most basic level of coaxing to sleep. Sample, the road waiting for you is still long! Before the baby was born, I felt that the prenatal check-up was like a puzzle game, and the baby was the boss! I didn\’t expect it, I never expected it. After giving birth, I discovered that this big boss was full of tricks. After giving birth to this big boss, what was waiting for me later was to unlock more and more level-breaking games. The most difficult and rare thing among them is probably putting the child to sleep. You have exhausted all your skills and you see victory in sight, but you fail to keep up with a single move. Sorry, you have to start all over again. The lowest level of coaxing to sleep is an angel baby. Basically, I don’t use much coaxing to sleep. I turn off the light and pat it gently, and soon I can hear the even breathing sound of the angel baby. The old mother happily enjoys the good time after her baby goes to bed, watching variety shows, applying a facial mask, slicing fruits, maybe doing some painting, writing a short story at her desk or something. The basic level of coaxing to sleep is the kind of baby in the game that is close to an angel baby. The need is not that strong, so I hold her close to my mother, shake her, pat her, kiss her, and after a few minutes, put her down and leave. The old mother can watch a drama, apply a facial mask, eat some fruit, make a painting, write a novel, etc. The intermediate level of coaxing to sleep is for babies with normal needs. According to the parenting guides, parenting books, and parenting websites, it is probably not to eat too much before going to bed, turn off the lights before going to bed, reduce noise interference, and create tranquility. A comfortable sleeping environment, or listening to light music, telling parent-child stories, etc., it takes ten or twenty minutes, or at most half an hour, to fall asleep. At this time, the old mother can probably only wash her face and apply a facial mask, stop watching dramas, and have no time to eat fruit. This is a high-level way of coaxing you to sleep, as is usually the case! When the old mother saw it, it was time to go to bed! Hurry up and take your kids to bed! Turn off the lights and shut up everything around except the baby and the old mother. When I was young, I usually started by holding him. Shaking gently, at this time, the baby will usually open his eyes wide open during the day in the dark environment to look for anything that interests him. But, it’s too dark! I can\’t see clearly! Slowly, squinting your little eyes as if you are about to fall asleep? Well, from time to time I would open one eye to see if the old mother was too lazy to let go of herself. At this time, it’s time for the lullaby to appear! The old mother hummed softly, telling the baby that mommy is here and you should go to sleep quickly. Seeing the child sleeping, the old mother would never dare to put the child down now! You need to slowly sit on the bed, put a pillow under your legs, and put a pillow on your back, lean on it gently for a while, and continue to hold it. Never put it down. If you put it down at this time, the child will definitely cry like he has been abandoned by the whole world… Okay, there is no need to sing the lullaby. The old mother let out a long sigh of relief… What kind of drama, facial mask, what are they? The old mother said that she just wants to sleep… This is the highest level of coaxing to sleep, which is more of a test for the old mother, because what you need is not coaxing to sleep, but an arduous battle of wits and courage! By this time, the baby is usually already a big baby, and this method of holding him no longer works! oldMother must fully improve her skills, almost you will not succeed. Like one night with my son. At 9 o\’clock, the two of them were lying on the bed, the lights were turned off, and everyone around them shut up. It was so quiet and suitable for sleeping, right? If there was no son chirping… \”Mom, can you sing a song for me? Can you bring me the little bee?\” The son sent out an invitation. \”Okay, the sun is shining brightly, the roosters are singing three times…\” I sang \”Labor is the Most Glorious\” no less than 20 times, and he finally had enough. \”Mom, I don\’t want to hear this anymore. Tell me a story, about a monkey.\” In the darkness, the hour hand pointed to nine-twenty, and his son\’s eyes were still bright. \”Okay, big monkey or little monkey, a group of monkeys or one monkey?\” At this moment, I remembered a sentence said by a children\’s sleep expert I don\’t know where I saw, that children should perform a series of pleasant and calming activities before falling asleep. , which is helpful for children to sleep peacefully. Well, telling a story like this should help the child fall asleep… \”A big monkey.\” The son smiled in anticipation. \”Okay, I have to sleep after listening to this story!\” \”Okay!\” \”A big monkey went out to play and met a big lion. The big lion was so hungry without eating and wanted to eat the monkey. What should I do? Huh? The monkey ran and ran, and when he saw a tree, he climbed up the tree! The big lion couldn\’t catch it! The big monkey fell asleep proudly!\” \”Mom, the big lion is waiting, the monkey comes down!\” I… when I saw that this was not possible, I couldn\’t sleep, so I could only continue to make up, \”No, no, the big lion is gone! The monkey came down from the tree! What should he do? Find the tiger to protect him! So, he We went up the mountain to pick peaches, apples, oranges, grapes… and sent them to Tiger\’s house…\” \”Mom, I\’m going to pick grapes too.\” \”Okay, you go to bed first, and I\’ll take you to pick tomorrow.\” \”Mom, go. The tiger is home.\” \”Yes, the tiger said he wanted to protect the monkeys… but it turned out that he couldn\’t beat the big lion…\” Really, I can\’t even make it up… \”I can beat the big lion!\” The child was still very excited. Excited…my…eyelids are fighting…I\’m really tired! At the right time, the old mother used a skill – pretending to sleep. Seeing that I had lost my voice, my son came over and scratched my eyelids, pulled my nose, and tugged at my mouth… I still remained motionless… Haha, after all this time, I still have this bit of endurance. I narrowed my eyes and looked at him. He seemed bored and was turning over and over again. As for me, I continued to close my eyes and remain motionless. I could only judge whether he was asleep or not by his breathing and subtle body movements. Ouch, don’t underestimate this. This is a technical job. If you make a mistake in judgment, you have to start over. He threw all the toys, pillows, and quilts on the bed on me, and after tossing and turning for dozens of times, he finally fell asleep at ten o\’clock… I didn\’t have time to celebrate or wash my face, so I fell asleep… probably in a dream, I watched the show, put on a facial mask, and laughed happily. Seeing this, many people disagree! Someone must have stood up and said, \”He\’s just used to it. No need to coax him. He\’ll know he\’s asleep when he\’s tired enough and crying enough.\” This seems to be the case. If you are ruthless and ignore any of the baby\’s needs, the baby will cry for a while.The crying will become smaller and smaller, and finally I will fall asleep. But is this really good? Ignoring your baby and letting him cry himself to sleep may cause physical and psychological harm to your baby. Can you bear it? From the time my son was born until he is now two years old, I have to battle wits with him for at least half an hour every night. I have tried many methods, including tips, techniques, and even touch exercises, but I still haven’t cured my baby’s difficulty in sleeping. . But after his second birthday, he slowly started to get better and better. Who knows what I went through! But one thing I understand is that no two leaves in the world are the same, and every child is different. What works for others may not work for your child! Today, while writing this article for your entertainment, I also want to share a method with mothers, which is to observe more and spend more time with your child, and try to understand him from his perspective. I believe that you will find out soon, Being coaxed to sleep is actually not that scary. Of course, if your family has a god assist instead of a pig teammate husband, then things will be easier to handle!