How does a mother manage her emotions? 300 mothers’ tips for controlling their emotions

Not long ago, our [Prize Collection] issue was: When your children make you angry, what methods do you use to control your emotions? After the collection started, everyone was very enthusiastic. More than 300 mothers left messages, and they all shared their valuable experiences in fighting wits and courage with their children! We have selected some representative ones, and you are welcome to watch and learn. Although the parents of the first category of Duanzishou\’s emotional control method are tortured to death by their children, they always maintain a Duanzishou\’s heart. The experiences they share will make you smile and read on: @139****2028 First Stamp your feet three times, and remember not to hit your face. Without a sufficient dose of hyaluronic acid, bags under the eyes, nasolabial folds and skin cannot prevent them from continuing to sag. Also, be sure not to pull out your hair. A middle-aged mother’s hair is as thick as fallen leaves swept away by the autumn wind. Hair transplantation is expensive and the survival rate is not high. Then he turned around resolutely, took out a bottle of blue and white fen that had been prepared, a plate of fennel beans, and a small hammer, and then began to drink and talk to himself. If you are drunk, you will get what you want. If you are drunk, you will be happy and interesting. If you are not drunk, use a small hammer to hit the Baihui point on the top of your head until it is cloudy and foggy… Then you will have no emotions anymore, and the years will be quiet. @135****2771 I immediately told myself in my mind, \”When evildoers appear, I have internal strength. If the enemy moves me, I won\’t move, and if the enemy moves me, I won\’t move.\” Take a deep breath and count down 20 seconds! Calm yourself down! Start fighting with your brain again! @186****8098 I asked someone to inscribe four words. I framed these four words and hung them on the door of my baby’s room. Every time I enter the door, I read them several times: Waiting for the flowers to bloom. @186****6560 I really rely on deep breathing to control my emotions, counting 1, 2, 3, but taking a real deep breath is like using the air to wash my soul… @189****2970 Take a deep breath, Tell yourself: I deserve what I gave birth to; I deserve what I gave birth to; I deserve what I gave birth to! @159****5799 took out his mobile phone and cleared the shopping cart. @139****3121 I want to live! ! ! ! Practice brings true knowledge. These parents in the second category, after long-term battles of wits and courage with their children, have figured out a set of effective emotional control methods in practice, which can be said to be of immeasurable merit: @138****7873 When I am about to I tried the following methods when the volcano erupted: 1. Wash your face with cold water 2. Drink a large glass of iced Coke 3. Go to the toilet and close the door and yell a lot 4. Prepare a pile of discarded printing paper and tear it up. But since I had my second child, I Just quit these. The first reason is that the second child has a psychic connection with the eldest brother. As long as he yells at his brother, he will start crying. The second reason, I thought about it, is that in the second half of my life, there will be a younger brother who will make me collapse. I must live well and put an end to heart palpitations and heart attacks. Forget it. ???@136****4990 When you want to lose your temper, change your title to \”baby\” and say, \”My balloon is out of air. It works every time.\” @139****2681 My son is seventeen years old and is in his rebellious stage. He comes back every week and always makes me angry. I was very angry at first, but now I can control myself: 1. Take a deep breath immediately and leave the scene for 10 seconds. 2. When leaving, be silentRecite: biological, biological, and silently: body is important, body is important. 3. Read more books or public accounts (such as Uncle Kai’s Storytelling), learn how to communicate with children, and learn to reason with children or argue with them. @131****7930 A method I learned from a Weibo blogger: When you can’t control yourself and get angry, just do math problems in your mind. Don’t do something as simple as 1+1=2. Counting 21/4, which requires a small turn, your brain will rationalize unconsciously and your emotions will ease. Personal test is effective! The only difficulty is – on the edge of such an emotional outburst, you have to be able to think of this method…? @136****7270 There is a \”quiet zone\” in my house. Anyone who is angry and wants to lose his temper can go in. Wait a while. @139****8237Method 1: Go to the bathroom and wash your face with cold water. Method 2: Take safety precautions for your child, including wearing a helmet, knee pads, elbow pads, and body armor. Method three: Change your partner to go in for five minutes of counseling. When you hear the roar, you can go in. You will find that your temper is much better. Method 4: Count money (you need to keep cash at home). Method 5: Go to the toilet and squat. @187****13431. Be sure to put your hands behind your back to prevent reaching out and hitting the child. 2. Leave, go to a place where you can’t see your children, look far away, and take a deep breath. 3. Think about when you made a mistake, your child didn’t scold you or dislike you. The third category of rational and studious parents can be described as the benchmark in the industry. They are rational and studious, and they definitely use professionalism to control their emotions: @153****8034 silently recited three numbers in his mind, and then asked why and what happened. My son is a reasonable person. As long as you can convince him with your reasons, then everything is ok, but it is quite difficult. The brain of an eight-year-old is better than mine when I was 14 or 15 years old. Let me say it again, when your emotions come up, don’t control them, just channel them, otherwise you will really get angry without knowing when. @159****8610When I feel particularly depressed, I go to the flower market. The eyes are full of greenery, full of vitality, colorful flowers, and fragrant fragrance. Each plant has a different beauty…Slowly, I gave myself the courage to face problems actively, which was also a kind of self-encouragement and relaxation. @134****6166 Face the child, keep panting, touch my chest and take deep breaths (the movements are not too exaggerated), the child will instantly think that I am sick, and become concerned and worried. Looking at the cuteness, I wanted to laugh secretly, but the emotion disappeared. I hugged the baby and said, \”Mom is much better now that the baby cares about me.\” @180****6239 First, take a deep breath and recite your own words silently in your mind three times, then immediately pretend to cover your stomach and say that you have a stomachache while running to the toilet. Sit on the toilet for a minute to calm down, and you will realize that it was not what you just said. The thing is, hahaha, I lose my mood when I come out. @159****3355 To study psychology, find a senior psychology teacher and follow the teacher’s class. Three years of psychology growth groups have allowed me to grow from the inside out. This kind of growth allows me to be aware of my emotions at any time and see the truth behind them.Only by doing this can you live in peace with your emotions, which is commonly known as controlling your emotions. @138****8982Read more books, read more books, read more books. What books should you read? You can completely ignore books that teach you how to control your emotions. I recently read three books: \”When I Meet Someone: The Mother-Child Relationship Determines All Relationships with the Child\”, \”Growing You Up\” and \”Out of the Plot\”, which will definitely make you suddenly enlightened and aware of yourself, and you will naturally become a Buddhist. . @139****7755 Read the \”Tao Te Ching\” and \”The Book of Changes\”. It doesn\’t matter even if you can\’t understand them. Gradually you will understand them better, no matter how big a deal they are. The fourth type of transfer target type @177****0289 controls the emotions, leaves the disobedient children to the father for education, and puts on a facial mask by oneself. You can\’t talk at this time, the mask will fall off, and the emotions have calmed down at this time. Then I saw that my father was done yelling, and he went out to be a good person and reasoned with his children. I have been doing this for a year and it works very well. The disadvantage is that it cannot be operated when dad is away. @138****4603 called out his father who was playing on his mobile phone, and his mother quickly left the scene of the battle and went back to the bedroom to calm down for 5 minutes. After all, she was still her biological child. @180****5341Before going to bed at night, he beat his dad to vent his anger…@138****3564Buy a few balls first, go to the toilet and close the door, and then let\’s start…Throw the ball on the wall and throw it as hard as you can , hit it hard until all the anger disappeared. To put it bluntly, which child didn\’t show off a little bit when he was young? Is there any mother who has raised her child in a peaceful way? The journey of raising a child is just a process of learning to get along with the child and reconcile with one\’s own heart. Finally, if everyone can understand this mother\’s mentality, there will be a lot less worries and a lot more happiness. @131****6187 My father has cancer, which is in the late stage. The doctor said he can live for up to one year. I have three children who drive me crazy every day, but I am the most grumpy toward my dad because he doesn’t have much time left. Now I think about it quietly, how would you live if there was only one day left? Would you cry or laugh? If it were my last day, I would shower my children and parents with all the smiles and love. The one who gave birth to me is the one who gave birth to me. Live every day as if it were your last day, thinking about everything.