How far a parent’s vision is, how far a child can fly

By chance, I almost dropped my jaw when I heard that a relative’s daughter became a mother. In my impression, she is still a child. In fact, she is only 18 years old, and she is already a mother! I think about myself, what were I doing when I was 18? At the age of 18, I was in high school and was obsessed with reading and writing. I read most of the world\’s famous books during that period. The first time I published an article in a national publication was in my senior year of high school. My mind is filled with beautiful dreams, and I want to go outside and see the bigger world. As a child from a rural area, being able to have so many ideas is inseparable from the support of my parents. I wanted to buy a book. Although my family was in a tight situation, my parents gave me the money without saying a word. I wanted to go to the city to participate in a Mandarin competition, and my mother went with me. In that tall and magnificent building, we were like Grandma Liu entering the Grand View Garden and seeing everything. After reaching many masters, I realized that there are people outside the world. I wanted to sign up to be a little reporter, but I had to pay a lot of money. My parents gritted their teeth and agreed… Later, I asked my mother: When I was a teenager, I was so restless. Compared with other people, I feel like an alien. Why does my family always support me? My mother said that although they had little education, they knew that it was good to love reading and to see more of the world. They did not have the conditions to study at that time and could only live with their faces facing the loess and their backs to the sky. They had only been to the county seat as far as possible. They hoped I have the opportunity to go outside and see. They have no other ability but to try their best to support me to read more and participate in more useful activities. With the support of my parents, I went to college, left the small village, saw the bigger world, and lived the life I wanted. I am very grateful to my parents who did not let their daughters go out to work or get married and have children after finishing middle school, as some of my neighbors did. Although they don\’t understand any big principles, they want their children to fly higher and further. Although they are uneducated, they have great wisdom and long-term vision. I met that relative’s daughter many times when she was a child. She was articulate, smart and capable. She served as a class cadre, studied painting and dancing, and was considered a prominent figure in the township school. But her parents neglected to discipline her and didn\’t care about her grades. They didn\’t care what friends she made and who she played with. During the holidays, well-meaning relatives remind them that their child is in adolescence and they should pay more attention and guide her so that she can survive smoothly and strive to get into a good school in the future. While playing mahjong, her mother said nonchalantly: \”Let nature take its course. What are girls doing reading so many books? Just marry a good family in the future. Look at me. I didn\’t read many books. I got married early and had children. How free I am now.\” By the way, her mother was only seventeen or eighteen years old when she gave birth to her. Looking at her mother\’s nonchalant face with heavy make-up, and then looking at her daughter\’s face with equally heavy make-up and the dense earrings on her ears, I felt a sense of sadness in my heart. In the Mood for Love, it was wasted like this. She should have studied hard, absorbed the nourishment of knowledge, and then flew outside with the wings of her ideals to see a higher and more exciting world. However, what kind of mess did her mother pass down to her? A sigh. Later, I heard that she dropped out of junior high school before finishing junior high school. Then, this time, I suddenly heard that she was getting married, and her belly was already very big at the wedding.. She embarked on the same life trajectory as her mother. She became a mother at a young age. When her children were older and had nothing to do, she would play mahjong and gossip with her neighbors. Although he has no worries about food, drink and leisure, he can see the end of his life at a glance. Without dreams, there would be no thought of working hard. If you can\’t see further, you are the frog at the bottom of the well. With another relative of mine, the situation was completely opposite. That was when I was very young. Their family had many children and was poor. We were the poorest in our area. It was not easy to have enough to eat. But in such a family, there is a child who loves to study and has excellent academic performance. He has been admitted to the best junior high school and high school. After graduating from junior high school, his uncles, aunts and uncles advised him that since his family was so poor, with many brothers and sisters, and his parents were old, it would be considered filial piety to go out to work as soon as possible to earn money to supplement the family income. Although he really wanted to study and go out of the countryside to see what it was like outside, he also saw the hard work of his parents and brothers. He was having a fierce internal struggle whether to read or not. His father\’s words surprised and touched him. My father said, \”You still have to study even if you are trying to sell iron! Do we want our children to be like us, dealing with mud all their lives and not knowing what it looks like outside?\” He did not expect that his father, an honest farmer who had been friends all his life, could say such far-sighted words. . Wiping a handful of tears, he secretly vowed to work hard, not only to let himself but also to let his whole family live a good life. Later, he was admitted to a prestigious university, entered a good employer that everyone envied, and often flew around the world. Not only did he see the bigger world himself, he also took his parents to travel around, allowing them to see the bigger world as well. With his help, the lives of his brothers and sisters gradually improved. His nephews and nieces all followed his example, studied hard, entered college one by one, and lived wonderful lives. Parents are their children\’s guides. At the beginning of their lives, children follow their parents as role models. The lives of their parents are the world in their children\’s eyes. Where their parents point is where their children want to go. When children grow up to have a higher vision than their parents and no longer have the ability to guide their children, parents only need to do one thing: as long as it helps their children fly higher and further, give them full support. As far as your dreams go, you can go as far as you want. Myopic parents only see the food, clothing and comfort in front of them. Parents with a long-term vision see a wonderful future for their children. Don’t let your children lose at the starting line. The perspective of parents is the starting line for children. If parents take a long-term view, their children will win from the beginning. How far the parents\’ vision is, how far the children can fly.