How far is school bullying from our children?

Some time ago, \”campus bullying\” became the focus of hot searches, because such behavior is highly concealed, the scope of damage is small, the severity is difficult to define, and it is difficult to detect and deal with it in time. Children who are bullied often suffer physical and mental damage that cannot be clearly seen in a short period of time. Often as the number of times increases and the time continues, the degree of harm gradually accumulates, making the bullied children increasingly give up resistance and are unwilling or do not know how to seek help. Even if the physical damage can disappear and fade away, the cracks that appear in the process of personality formation cannot be repaired for life. \”Children are young and naive\” and \”just teasing, how can it be so serious\” often become reasonable excuses for not facing the problem squarely after \”bullying\” others. Parents\’ cover-up, inaction of relevant departments, and difficulty in obtaining evidence will all affect this kind of behavior from being viewed correctly by everyone. Obviously the target of bullying is the peers and classmates around them, why do some people still dominate the weak for a long time? \”The ignorance and ignorance of the crowd\”. \”The Crowd – Popular Psychology\” said: \”Groups are most keen to expand their emotions, so they will be moved by the most extreme emotions.\” Suppose you are walking alone on a street at night, and you see that the prices are usually very expensive. If a bakery that you can’t afford is closed, would you smash the glass and take away the bread because you hate the bakery owner’s high prices? You pass by a street at night and see a group of people smashing the glass of an expensive bakery, shouting that the bakery owner is \”unkind for the sake of wealth\” and seeking \”justice\” from him. In fact, the group of people are robbing the bread from the store. Will you be a part of it? In the first scenario, I am afraid that most people will not decide to grab it alone; but when the second scenario occurs, people passing by will feel that everyone is doing it anyway, and the law does not blame everyone, so they are encouraged by the excitement of the crowd. , and resolutely joined the ranks of the public. , this is the \”fanaticism\” and \”moral unconsciousness\” of the group! When other people are present, psychological responsibilities are spread among everyone, so people may do things that violate their usual moral bottom line. The \”ignorant group\” not only likes to shirk personal responsibilities and do excessive things; they are also willing to \”believe\” in \”reasons\” that do not exist in the first place. If it is repeated again and again among everyone, it becomes a real \”fact\”! There will only be a few people leading (or \”braining\”) incidents of \”school bullying\”, while the rest are blind followers. Children are also afraid of being isolated in groups. When a strong party becomes the dominant force in a group, other children will. Because they are afraid of being isolated or obeying authority, they lose their own opinions and join the team of bullying others. After those blind followers participate, they will find a \”legitimate\” reason for themselves to avoid responsibility in their psychology – to be bullied with other bullies. The person adds an unfounded \”crime\”. And firmly believe that the majority of people are on the side of \”justice\”. This is also a concrete manifestation of \”the ignorance of the crowd\”. Maintaining an independent personality and a rational mind, whether a teenager or a child, maintaining morality and rationality when alone or in groups, and not blindly following others, are valuable qualities. By doing this, we achieve independence of personality and independence of the soul. This is something only a scholar with great wisdom can possessquality. A few years ago, there was a popular word called \”fooling\”, which \”fools\” people who understand, \”fools\” people with unknown goals, and \”fools\” the other party\’s interests into one\’s own pocket… This seems to have become a kind of \”fooling\”. The advanced ability of \”mixed society\”. These are practices that confuse right and wrong, but in the process of catching people\’s attention, they are \”packaged\” into survival skills. When some children were asked why they ganged up on a child, they said, \”They said what he said,\” \”They all said what they said,\” or \”My friend is being bullied, and I want to help him or her.\” \”etc. It is not difficult for us to see, what kind of people are easily \”fooled\”? They are those who do not have a firm stance, have limited knowledge, do not have their own fixed values, and are easy to follow blindly when things happen. Extensive knowledge, a confident mind, and judgment and reasoning loyal to one\’s own heart are the best ways to resist \”fooling\”. These are all indispensable elements for personal independence and spiritual independence. People are people in society, and education is the process of socialization. Before learning various cultures, knowledge and skills, it is important to educate children to have a sense of \”reverence\” as a human being. First of all, the object of \”reverence\” is not heroic leaders or gods. The object of \”reverence\” is actually ourselves, that is, life, life derived from nature. In the entire nature, human beings are so insignificant, and every human individual is a unique existence. To respect life is to respect ourselves. We use various means to obtain food and continue our race. As a relatively higher link in the food chain, we may obtain food from animals, but humans must not bully young children. To give a simple example, in primitive society, in order to protect the next generation and obtain food, it is a reasonable behavior for the group to fight against tigers. But for a group of hunters to surround a weak prey, play with it as much as possible, watch it die, and then eat it is an act of bullying and disrespect for life. \”Respect\” for life should be a solid and unchanging consciousness that has existed in the blood of human evolution for many years. It has nothing to do with the international race and is only related to life. If our next generation continues to have such respect for life itself in their blood, how can bullying and injustice happen? Secondly, no matter what kind of social system people live in, they must at least abide by certain codes of conduct, otherwise they will be tolerated by others. This is the most basic \”fear\”. The occurrence of violations is inversely proportional to the consequences of violations. The more aware you are of the serious consequences, the better you can prevent violations from happening. This consequence is the \”heteronomy\” of laws and regulations, and it is also the \”self-discipline\” that affects the seriousness of this matter. When I was young, I often heard from my ancestors that there are gods three feet above the head, and God is watching what people do. The common people\’s simplest thought of \”being cautious about independence\” is the bottom line for a person to do things – \”conscience\”. Do not do to others what you do not want others to do to you. This is the teaching of the ancient saints. No one has the right to harm the health, safety, and rights of others because of his own behavior. Keep children away from \”bullying\” incidents. We have seen \”campus bullying\” incidents in movies and news. We feel that this is someone else\’s business and will not happen around us, so we wait and see with an attitude that it has nothing to do with us. Or think there isThese children are just some special ones. They can \”make fun of\” others, but why can\’t they \”can\’t make jokes\” and can\’t think about it anymore? Or, we hope that there will be corresponding and more complete legislation to provide for penalties, and schools and other relevant institutions will have stricter management mechanisms, etc. These thoughts put the responsibility on others and exclude them from their own lives. Looking at it from another perspective, \”bullying\” behavior has existed since ancient times. Using physical strength or power to oppress the weaker party will cause the weaker party to feel the blow and pain, whether it is physically or mentally. Such behavior, which occurs among children and teenagers on campus, is called \”campus bullying.\” Such a concept is wrong. Little boys of five or six years old chase cats and dogs, catch little sparrows, cut their feathers or kill them in more cruel ways, and still enjoy it. Adults think that they are ignorant and they should just grow up. . Essentially, this is bullying. If left unchecked, they may turn the \”bully\” and \”fun\” targets into weak partners around them when they grow up. For every family, children should establish correct concepts of getting along with people and animals from an early age, which is the basis for avoiding bullying. In a context where the overall environment is dominated by peace and kindness, even if someone has the idea of ​​​​bullying the small or relying on the strong, no one will go along with it. From the perspective of schools, parents and society, we cannot tolerate wrongdoing just because the victims are in the minority and the bullies are in the majority. Because once it is tolerated, more similar phenomena will likely occur. Even minors must understand the eternal social principle of \”paying for mistakes.\” At least parents have the responsibility to let their children understand, not to avoid talking about it under the banner of \”protecting children\”. Therefore, as parents and members of society, it is self-deception to think that bullying is far away from oneself; making children \”strong\” to avoid becoming victims is an approach that treats the symptoms rather than the root cause. To prevent our children from being affected by bullying, we must educate and guide them to understand and practice \”respect\” and \”fear\”; the entire society pays attention to and faces bullying, and loudly says \”no\” to any bullying!