How high the mother\’s vision is, how good her daughter\’s fate will be

A long time ago, I read a sentence in a book: \”A daughter\’s education depends on her mother\’s vision.\” When I first read this sentence, I didn\’t understand its profound meaning. After 10 years of raising girls, I have gone through countless pitfalls and encountered countless educational difficulties. I realized that there are really many inappropriate voices in the growth process of girls. For example, girls should be pampered, not read so many books, and marry into a good family. That\’s it…if a girl hears too many wrong remarks, it\’s easy for a girl to go astray. As Beauvoir pointed out in \”The Second Sex\”: Women\’s misfortune often lies in being surrounded by various temptations, in that they are not required to work hard, but are encouraged to slide down to reach bliss. By the time she realizes she\’s been fooled by a mirage, it\’s too late and her powers have been exhausted in the failed adventure. As the leader of her daughter\’s life, if a mother cannot stand tall, see far, and think deeply, it will be difficult to protect her daughter\’s growth. Only when a mother has a high vision can she pave a broad and bright path for her daughter\’s life. The farther a mother sees, the further her daughter can go in life. I read a piece of news before. In Maoming, Guangdong, a girl named Xiaohui was forced by her parents to go out to work after graduating from junior high school on the grounds that it was useless for girls to study and she might as well work early to make money. After working for three years, her parents began to force her to go on a blind date again, and even accepted a 50,000-yuan gift from her husband\’s family to force her to get married. No matter how she resisted, her parents were determined to marry her off, so Xiaohui had no choice but to report her parents to the local Women\’s Federation. It was only after the incident broke out that Xiaohui found out that she was admitted to high school, but her parents hid the admission notice, making her mistakenly believe that she had failed. If it weren\’t for her parents\’ short-sightedness, the 14-year-old would not have suffered so much in society at such a young age, nor would she have been forced to marry at the age of 17. Writer Huang Jingjie once said: Educate people with a broad vision instead of raising children with a small vision. Mothers with vision, even if they are limited by financial conditions, will not be constrained in their thinking. Instead, they strive to use their knowledge to cast a beam of light on their children\’s growth and illuminate their children\’s path forward. When a female entrepreneur talked about her success, she bluntly said, \”My life was laid by my mother.\” Her family background was average, her grades were average, and she was influenced by negative values. She once felt that the most worry-free and effortless way for a girl was to marry a rich man. So when her mother asked her to study hard, she raised her own question: Why work hard? Isn’t it said that marrying well is not as good as studying well? At that time, my mother did not answer her question directly, but solemnly wrote a letter telling her why. 1. In life, no one will treat you with pity just because you are a girl. Luck often favors those who are prepared, so you have to work hard. 2. For the workplace, the workplace is a competitive platform. To gain a foothold in society, the most important thing is the survival of the fittest and the elimination of the inferior ones, so you have to work hard. 3. For parents, we raise you because we want you to live a good life, but we also hope that you can take care of yourself in old age. Filial piety without financial support is powerless, so you have to work hard. 4. For marriage, marriage is about mutual support rather than poverty alleviation. If you always wait for rewards from your partner, you will live a humble and worthless life, so you have to work hard. 5. For yourself, you will see moreIn the big world, there will be more choices, and you don\’t even have to bow to the people you hate, so you have to work hard. 6. Regarding relationships, if you can be confident in front of the person you like and can confidently say \”I know you are good, but I am not bad either\”, you will get more respect, so you still have to work hard. Thanks to her mother\’s far-sighted vision, she has been studying hard, working hard, and realizing her self-worth under her mother\’s education, and eventually became an entrepreneur with a net worth of billions. As educator Suhomlinsky said: A mother’s vision is the limit of her child’s future sky. A truly responsible mother knows how to extend her daughter\’s path with her vision, support her daughter\’s sky with her heart, and guide her daughter forward with the correct three views. The broader the mother\’s vision, the more life possibilities her daughter will have. There was an 8-year-old girl who liked playing softball since she was a child, but there was always prejudice and doubt around her: girls should not like competitive sports. Look at that girl, she\’s such a tomboy. The mother ignored these voices and instead took a very special set of photos to support her daughter: her daughter in a beautiful princess dress, wearing sneakers, and posing with her own sports equipment. This domineering look and powerful aura are really sassy and beautiful. After the photo became a hit, my mother said something that touched countless people: \”They can be very girly and very athletic at the same time. No matter what their dreams are, they can achieve them.\” A mother with a broad vision will not be restrained Instead of setting restrictions on girls and raising their daughters to be \”girl-like\” as defined by the world, they should not set restrictions and let their daughters be themselves. Fighting Queen Zhang Weili has been fond of fighting since she was a child, and even often ran between the rooftops in the village. The running shoes her family bought for her would wear them out in a week. However, her mother never restrained Zhang Weili. Instead, she dug a hole in her yard so that she could practice \”Qing Gong\”. When she was 12 years old, in order to fulfill her daughter’s dream of being a “heroine” for many years, her mother specially selected a school where she could learn both literature and martial arts, so that her daughter could practice Sanda. At the age of 17, when a girl from the same village got married early, her mother asked her to go to Beijing to see and have a life. More than 10 years later, Zhang Weili not only saw Beijing, but also saw the world through fighting, and let the world see her greatness. Raising a daughter is never easy. If it weren’t for her mother’s open-minded attitude and broad vision, Zhang Weili’s brilliant achievements in the fighting field would not have been possible. Gu Ailing has been different from ordinary girls since she was a child. When other children were still crying, at the age of 3, she had already started practicing skiing and fell repeatedly without crying. At the age of 8, Gu Ailing embarked on the road of professional skiing and became the only girl on the professional ski team in the Lake Tahoe area. In this project that the boy was good at, she had been left out and excluded. Her mother did not persuade her to give up, nor did she think that girls were inferior to boys. Instead, she always believed in her and encouraged her: \”You can do it, come on!\” After defeating those who had laughed at her and standing on the highest podium, she confidently said to the camera: \”Who said girls can\’t participate in sports? We can!\” There is a film review for \”Mulan\”: FemaleChildren can wear flowers in front of the mirror, or ride horses on the battlefield. Every girl\’s future has unlimited possibilities. But the premise is that the mother first broadens her horizons and uses enough understanding, tolerance, respect, and support to accept and protect her daughter\’s nature. When girls\’ hearts are full of energy, they can follow their hearts and live out their sparkling selves. The higher a mother\’s vision is, the better she can lift her daughter up. Not long ago, Wang Nan\’s 8-year-old daughter Xiaoxiao won the championship in the China-Korea Children\’s Table Tennis Competition. Videos of Xiaoxiao\’s previous training also went viral again. When Xiaoxiao was less than 5 years old, she started high-intensity training every day. Once, Xiaoxiao was accidentally hit in the mouth by a ball. The pain was so painful that tears welled up in her eyes. Wang Nan had no intention of stopping. Netizens accused Wang Nan of being cruel, and her husband didn\’t understand her either. Wang Nan said: \”First, she is a girl, and she can only rely on herself no matter what she does in the future; second, through sports, she can be more solid in the future, with a strong heart and a tenacious will.\” As in \” The book \”Raising Girls\” says: \”In the process of raising girls, giving their daughters the ability to withstand risks is a compulsory course for parents.\” A mother with a vision is not to pamper her daughter and do everything as she wishes, but to do whatever she wants. Love should also be a little ruthless to temper your daughter so that she has the capital to fight against the ups and downs of life. This is a far-sighted support. Educator Sarah also shared two things in her book about educating her daughter. The first one was when her daughter turned 16. She thought she would prepare an expensive gift, but instead she just gave her a thin red envelope. My daughter was a little angry, so when ordering, she ordered a splash of orange juice, a splash of apple juice, abalone noodles and other food for more than ten people. Seeing this, he crossed out all the salads and only got two bowls of noodles and free barley tea. The daughter was angry that her mother was so rich yet so stingy to her. She stood up, kicked the stool, turned around and left. Sarah actually felt sorry for her daughter, because she could completely satisfy her daughter and make her happy, but she knew that this was not for her daughter\’s benefit. So she patiently explained to her daughter that all her money was used for charity. A cup of orange water is equivalent to 18 pencils. The reason why your mother doesn\’t give it to you is to give more children the opportunity to learn. My daughter felt very guilty and immediately made a promise: \”I will build an orange water factory on one side of your school and a pencil factory on the other side of your school. I will give you whatever you want.\” The second thing happened when my daughter was serving in the military at the age of 18. , she \”opened the back door\” for her daughter by doing housework and being a nanny for the commander. Opening the back door here does not allow the daughter to receive special care, but allows the daughter to receive the most severe training. At that time, Sarah was at the end of the marching team and heard all kinds of complaints and curses from her daughter through the radio. She felt heartbroken, but knew that the only way to do her best was to be cruel. As she wished, under her ruthless training, her daughter became kind, filial, strong, and able to endure hardships. Later, she was not only admitted to a prestigious school, but also became an outstanding diplomat. We often say that education requires \”fighting for the mother\”, and what matters is the mother\’s vision. A mother\’s vision is like a container, which contains wisdom, cognition, foresight, and cruelty… The higher a mother\’s vision is, the better she can cultivate her daughter\’s perseverance, strong heart, and rich spirit.Let\’s spread our wings and fight for the future. Educator Froebel once said: The fate of the nation is not so much in the hands of those in power as it is in the hands of the mother. A mother\’s vision determines the starting point of her daughter\’s growth, and also affects the height her daughter can reach in her life. How high the mother\’s vision is, how good her daughter\’s fate will be. Like it, I hope we can all become visionary mothers, be the guiding lights for our children, and grow together with our children.