How important is it for children for parents to manage their own lives well?

I moved a few days ago and several relatives came to help. They entertained their son during breaks. \”Why didn\’t your dad go to work today?\” \”He\’s moving!\” \”When he wasn\’t moving, your dad didn\’t go to work, right? Is your mom more powerful than your dad?\” \”Because my dad wanted to take care of me, he didn\’t Go to work! But he works at home. He has to do a lot of things every day, including reading and writing.\” \”Oh! Then your dad is very powerful!\” \”Of course, my dad is the most powerful dad in the world. There are many All the children read his books.\” I listened nervously. Because going home to take care of the children makes many relatives and friends who don’t understand find it incredible. According to our traditional concept, men should go out and make a living. So when I take my son to play outside, I have to keep a low profile. When I just quit my job and came home to take care of my son, I was worried that my son would think I was an idle person with nothing to do. I remember one day he really asked me: \”Dad, why don\’t you go to work, but mom has to go to work?\” I was stunned at that time. Tell him: \”Dad works too! I work at home, and I want to go home and take my little baby!\” \”Oh!\” He nodded thoughtfully. Children are very sensitive individuals who are constantly observing their parents. So in life I have to let him see my efforts and my work. And feel my love for him and understand the meaning of my work. Parents cannot complain to their children about how difficult it is to raise children. This will only put a heavy psychological burden on the children. But parents’ efforts can be seen by their children. This does not need to be done deliberately, children can feel it through words and deeds. When I\’m tired, I often think of the time I went to farm with my grandma when I was a kid. At that time, we set out early in the morning because it was only cool in the morning. Then plow the ground and sow the seeds. Some people don\’t get up until three o\’clock in the morning, but we have already done a lot of work. At that time, the sweat on grandma\’s forehead glistened in the sun. Let me appreciate the taste of labor, the joy of suffering. Because in autumn, we will have a full harvest. Our family was very poor at that time, but my strong-willed grandma did not complain and just worked hard. It is this kind of role model that encourages me along the way. Therefore, I was able to endure many hardships that my peers could not endure, and it also allowed me to seize many opportunities in life through sweat and dedication. So I always pay attention to my behavior in front of my son. We could play like two kids. But when it comes to your attitude towards life and the rules for dealing with others, you can\’t be careless. My son often asks me, why does dad have to work and not play with me? I said that my father’s daily work was meaningful and helped many people. For example, we go to the warehouse to distribute books together. I will let him know that there is a child who loves to read as much as he does, anxiously waiting for the book to arrive at home. For example, the books my father reads and what he thinks can be shared with everyone. Just like if you have something good, you will share it with your friends. When he knew the significance of my work, he would even take the initiative to help me. Help me pack and post orders without disturbing me while I am studying or working. Of course, I am still used to writing late at night, so that I have more time for him to disturb me during the day. Many friends say, you have so many things to do, how do you get them all done?In fact, time is something that is squeezed out. After having children, almost all social and entertainment activities are omitted. I often go to vegetable markets, parks, riversides, mountains, playgrounds, and among children. Although I work hard day after day, it is as dull as water, but I think such a day is quite good. It can calm my mind, think about something, and read some books. Be able to manage yourself well. To give their children the best education, parents must first take care of themselves. Children are influenced by their families all the time. When Mo Yan mentioned his mother, one thing was particularly unforgettable: One Mid-Autumn Festival at noon, our family had a rare meal of dumplings. Each person only had one bowl. While we were eating dumplings, an old man begging came to our door. , I picked up half a bowl of dried sweet potatoes and sent him away, but he said angrily: \”I am an old man, you eat dumplings, but let me eat dried sweet potatoes. How did your heart grow?\” I said angrily: \” We can\’t eat dumplings more than a few times a year. Each of us has a small bowl, and we can\’t even eat half full! I\’ll give you dried sweet potatoes. If you want it, get out!\” My mother scolded me, and then picked up her dumplings. Half a bowl of dumplings was poured into the old man\’s bowl. We can see that behind most successful children, there are some shining parents. What makes them shine is not money, fame and status. It’s about the brilliance of human nature, the noble character, and the proper way to treat others. I found that my son has been observing me and imitating me since he was born. Especially imitating my father\’s actions. I remember that when I was young, I would often walk in front of him, and sometimes I would look back quietly and find that he was imitating my steps and hand-in-pocket posture from behind. There is no deliberate intention, but it is done naturally. When reading at home, I sometimes lie on the bed and sometimes lie on the bed. These were all learned by him. So he often reads while lying on the bed or lying down with a book in hand. I know it\’s bad for my eyesight, but I have to sit upright and read a picture book I like. I think he really can\’t do it, and there\’s no need for that. I can only often remind him to change positions or let him get up and play with me. In daily words and deeds, the effect is subtle. It is the most effective education for children. There are some parents that I greatly admire. It looks ordinary, but the details are amazing. There was a mother like this in the family in our hometown who was the first to get a master\’s degree from Peking University. She is just an ordinary peasant woman. But she kept her home in good order, very neat and comfortable. She would go to work every morning and come home in the afternoon to prepare meals for the children. We were playing at their house at that time, and she was busy chatting with us, very kind. But she never participated in the village card games. For example, the daughter-in-law of the Li family in the east of the village often organizes bureaus until midnight. During the day, the house is also busy with traffic and very lively. Her eldest son dropped out of junior high school before finishing junior high school. As for the younger son, he was already familiar with the sizes of various cards when he was in his arms. When he grew up, he became a famous gambler in our area. Look at the lives of two children. Who can deny the role of family in a child\’s growth? Good parents do not want to give their children a wealthy and wealthy living environment. Instead, you should continue to work hard to manage your own life and let your childrenThe son is proud of it.