How many months can a baby urinate? Don’t get obsessive-compulsive disorder

Teacher Yuehua, my mother-in-law loves to pee. My child is only 4 months old and she has been peeing for a while. Every morning when the baby wakes up, she has to poop. At this time, she wants to let me go with her, but she also likes to poop when she has nothing to do. Sometimes she will poop for a long time when the baby doesn\’t want to poop. I told her not to take it if the baby didn\’t want it, but she didn\’t listen at all and just kept doing it herself. This morning, it was like this again. When I was washing my face, my mother-in-law insisted on giving the baby a hand. I couldn\’t stand it, so I rushed over and took the baby away. My mother-in-law was not happy and said that I did not respect her. She also said that her children had been pooping and peeing since they were young. She said that I doted on my children too much, which would harm them and that they would not be able to do anything until they were five or six years old. I regret it when I take care of myself! I was very angry, but also a little confused. What if the child is really 5 or 6 years old and still can’t take care of himself? It seems that as summer comes, many elders hope to let their children develop the habit of peeing on their own while the weather is hot, so as to save money on diapers and avoid peeing their pants. Is it good to pee? Children taking care of themselves and peeing have nothing to do with peeing. When it comes to peeing, there will be two groups of voices around us. One group is \”firmly supports the peeing group\” and the other is \”firmly opposed to the peeing group.\” The representatives of the firm supporters are often those old people who consider themselves to be experienced. He thinks that your generation did it this way when they were young. This method can not only help children learn to take care of themselves earlier, but also make it easier for babies to clean up after defecation. It can also save diapers, killing two birds with one stone. Therefore, the older generation takes care of their children, and they often start \”peeing\” when the baby is in confinement. If he accidentally urinates successfully, the joy will definitely be better than winning the lottery. Representatives of the firm opposition are led by parenting experts from various factions. Pediatricians, parenting experts, and psychologists do not agree with peeing. Some pediatricians believe that peeing will cause prolapse and hemorrhoids in babies. Some psychological research believes that peeing will cause prolapse and hemorrhoids in babies. Urinating can cause obsessive-compulsive disorder. Many young parents are influenced by these thoughts and object to urinating. But because I am a new mother, I am still groping in the dark, so I am also anxious. Like the mother who asked the question at the beginning of the article, she is worried that if she does not urinate, she will still not be able to take care of herself when she grows up. . So does the baby need to pee? My own personal experience is no! need! want! After Zaizai was born, I had an older sister at home who helped me take care of him. Because I didn’t have enough breast milk, Zaizai started adding milk powder after the 42-day check-up. The milk powder we added probably has a laxative effect. Every time he drank half of the milk, Zai Zai would have a bowel movement. One day after taking a few sips, Zai Zai suddenly stopped drinking. Seeing that he looked dull, my sister quickly untied his diaper. Sure enough, she seized the opportunity in time. The success of defecating this time gave my sister a sense of accomplishment. From then on, every time Zaizai drinks milk, we will carefully observe his expression, and we can basically seize the opportunity every time. My sister also thought about doing more urine training, but I stopped her every time. I think it\’s okay if you can accurately grasp the baby\’s expression when handling the baby, but if you can\’t grasp it, don\’t do it deliberately. This has always been the caseIt lasted until I was over 2 years old. During this period, countless people told me to quickly start potty training. I would regret it if my child could not control it well in the future. But I ignored all these persuasion, because I believe in the child. I believe that when the anal desire period arrives and the child can control the bladder and anus, he will gradually be able to control his bladder and bowels with a little training. What is the anal stage? Freud divided children\’s psychological development into five stages. The anal stage is the second stage after the oral stage. Generally starting from around 18 months of age, children can feel the novel sensation brought about by urination and defecation stimulating the anus. He will find that he can produce feces, and he will be able to reap sexual pleasure through the contraction and relaxation of the anal and urethral sphincter muscles, which is exciting to the child. Some children will get pleasure from holding in their urine, and some will get sexual pleasure from holding in their feces. Children in the anal desire stage will repeatedly hold in their feces or pee, and defecate or urinate in their crotch. . This is a normal phenomenon at this stage. If you find that the child enters the anal desire period and do not disturb the child, respect the child\’s development, and do not criticize or accuse the child when he urinates or defecates in his pants, the child will be able to say goodbye to the anal desire period faster. Entering the next psychological stage. If the child has not entered the anal desire period, he will not be able to experience the pleasure of controlling his own defecation. Even if the parents defecate every day, it will be difficult for the child to take care of himself. Only after going through the anal desire stage, the child can experience the pleasure of controlling his own defecation and defecation. After going through this stage, proper training and guidance from adults can help the child take care of himself faster. If a child is disturbed during the anal desire period, and is taken away by their parents when they are holding back urine or stool, and is forced to hold down the toilet, and strict and compulsory bowel training is carried out, or the time and hygiene requirements are too strict, the child will He will feel nervous, and his natural rhythm of controlling bowel and bladder will be disrupted. The more times the child defecates in his pants, the longer the anal desire period will be delayed. Parents who are used to urinating when their children enter the anal desire period and see their children holding back urine or stool will mistakenly think that the children are disobedient and have regressed behavior. The parents may severely criticize the children or ridicule them at all times, and the children will be afraid and Feeling very frustrated, some children will hold back for fear of failure. If this emotion is allowed to develop, those sensitive children will become constipated. Precisely because of this understanding, I did not urinate on Zai Zai, and even let him urinate in his pants during the anal desire period. Two months later, when he said goodbye to his anal desire period, I began to train him to control his bowels. I bought him a Thomas the Tank Engine urinal for boys. This urinal is very easy to install. I installed it directly next to the toilet at home. Because Thomas is Zai Zai\’s favorite cartoon character, he peed in the urinal very excitedly. But he was not always so cooperative. When he had just mastered the feeling of controlling his bowels and bowels, there was a stage when he was very excited. He would urinate all over the room, a few drops here, a few drops there. I didn\’t pay attention at first. , and later found out that he did it on purpose, so I told him that the flowers on the balcony were thirsty and I had to water them quickly. After receiving this new task, Zai Zai stopped peeing all over the house. From the anal stage to schoolIt took a total of about four months to gain control of bowel and bladder control. When Zai Zai was two and a half years old, he was already able to control his bladder and bowels. And he took off his diaper very quickly. Suddenly one day, I found that the diaper had been dry all night. At first, I thought it was an accident, so I still carried the diaper for him. For several days in a row, the diaper was still dry. Two weeks later, I was finally sure that Zai Zai was able to control his nocturia, so I was nervous and stopped giving him diapers. I felt uneasy because I was worried about him peeing on the bed. It turned out that he didn\’t wet the bed. Most of the time, he slept all night. Occasionally, he would wake up in the middle of the night and call me if necessary. Of course, there were times when he couldn\’t control it. I didn\’t say anything after he wet the bed for the first time, but he peed again the next day. I found that he probably felt guilty and self-blame. In order to let him put down his psychological burden, I gave him He told the story of bedwetting when he was a child, and his husband also cooperated in telling his story. We told Zaizai that bedwetting is normal and everyone does it. It doesn\’t matter if he wets the bed. Just change the sheets and it will be fine. I no longer wet the bed. From the time he took off his diapers to the age of 7, Zai Zai has wet the bed no more than five times in total, and he rarely wets his pants after anal desire. This is the advantage of not peeing. Therefore, controlling urination and defecation is a normal life process for children. When a child normally experiences the anal desire period, he will definitely control his urination and defecation. Parents do not need to rush into toilet training when the child has not yet experienced the anal desire period.