How many of the 12 criteria for a stay-at-home mother\’s \”employment certificate\” do you meet?

When I planned to resign and become a full-time mother, this was what I envisioned: no need to go to work, no need to worry about performance, no need to look at the boss’s face, I could stay up as late as I wanted, get up as late as I wanted, and spend as much time with my children as I wanted. Never miss a thing from her… Now if anyone asked me, I would tell her: being a stay-at-home mom is one of the most demanding and risky professions in the world! If full-time mothers also have a work permit, I think it includes at least the following 12 requirements: 1. Strong body. Most women become stay-at-home mothers because they have no choice but to resign and stay at home because there are no elderly people to help them. Of course, there are a small number of people who are in better conditions and have elderly people or nannies at home. But no matter what, stay-at-home mothers must be strong and healthy. Stay-at-home mothers should be healthy and not sick. For stay-at-home moms, being sick is a luxury. Working mothers can ask for sick leave from their work units. No company will go bankrupt without you, and no unit will fail to function if you don\’t go there for a day. On the other hand, stay-at-home mothers are open 365 days a year and have a baby waiting to be fed. If you call in sick, no one else can move. A stay-at-home mother must be strong and powerful, able to hold a baby and carry rice. My friend lives on the 5th floor and there is no elevator, so the stroller can only be placed on the first floor. Every time I go out to buy groceries, I hold the baby in one hand and carry the groceries in the other. “In the end, I can’t feel my arms at all, and I just have one thought in my mind: I can’t let go and throw the child.” Does a woman who can do housework and cook have to be able to do housework and cook? Not necessarily! Men and women are equal, husbands can also cook. Of course, the above situation is not suitable for stay-at-home mothers. If you don’t make money, how can you not even cook? Not only must you be able to cook, but you must also know a little bit about nutrition and make various complementary foods for your children. You must also know what your husband likes to eat. If you want to keep him, you must first keep his stomach. Of course it’s not enough to know how to cook, you must be able to do all the housework. The most classic image of a multi-tasking stay-at-home mother is: holding the baby in her left hand and cooking with the right, telling stories while washing the dishes, singing nursery rhymes while mopping the floor, and thinking about how the sun can dry the quilt today, and the season has changed and she has to go online to shop for her children. Clothes… If you are a full-time mother of a second child, you will need to multi-task even more. For example, I am cooking while reciting words to the eldest child, and at the same time instructing the second child to draw. While holding Erbao in his arms and singing children\’s songs to lull him to sleep, he helped Dabao with his homework. Understand some economics. If you go to work, it doesn\’t matter if you spend a lot of money on shopping, because you make your own money. If you are a stay-at-home mother, you must consider the price when buying things and shop around. A friend who is a stay-at-home mother complained to me: I bought a good shirt for my husband during the holidays, and my husband said, \”It\’s so expensive, why don\’t you buy it? It\’s so easy for me to make money!\” It made me want to cry. A stay-at-home mother must not only be able to save money, but also be able to plan family expenses and increase family income. In short, she must understand some economics and be able to manage money. Understand some medicine. It is impossible for children to run to the hospital every time they catch a cold, fever, and cough. A stay-at-home mother must understand some medicine and deal with simple problems. For example, if a child has a runny nose, boil some green onion water, if the child has a fever, drink more boiled water and sleep more, and if the temperature is above 18.5 degrees, give ibuprofen. What should I eat if I have a cough? What can I do if I have prickly heat?Yes, mothers must know something about yellow hair, Chinese medicine, Western medicine, and folk remedies, so that their children can be healthy. Otherwise, \”You don\’t do anything, you just take care of a child, and he keeps getting sick. How do you take care of him?\” This sentence can make you breathless for a long time. Understand something about education and psychology. The main job of a stay-at-home mother is to take care of her children, so she must understand something about education and psychology. You need to know your child\’s growth pattern, your child\’s personality and psychological characteristics, not only the commonalities of all children, but also your own child\’s personality. Exploiting strengths and avoiding weaknesses and cultivating them in a targeted manner can make children mentally healthy and have a lovable personality. If you can help your children with homework, if you are a working mother, if you are your own boss, what does it matter if you cannot help your children with homework? You can hire a tutor, or send your children to various tutoring classes and after-school classes. If you are a stay-at-home mom, you will have to help your children with homework yourself, at least in the early grades. What does it mean to know something about Chinese, mathematics, and English? More importantly, you have to endure the feeling of scratching your heart caused by your child\’s rubbing. You must not rush or yell, otherwise the consequences will be serious. If you know how to drive, you have to take your children to and from school, either by driving a car, a battery car, or a bicycle. Otherwise, it would be difficult to just walk when the weather is windy, rainy, cold and hot. You need to hold your children when they are small. When your children are older, you have to do more homework and time is precious. If you can only walk or squeeze into the bus, you are not considered competent. In order to pick up and drop off my children, I, who didn’t even know how to ride a bicycle, first learned to ride a scooter and then got my driver’s license. You have a high emotional intelligence and your boss scolded you for not doing a good PPT at work, causing you to have an emotional breakdown? Are customers making things difficult for you and make you feel bad? Have you endured internal injuries? Then look at the stay-at-home mom: you finally cleaned up the living room and went to the kitchen for half an hour. When you came out, the living room was in a mess again. The floor was covered with building blocks and snowflakes, there were several puddles of water, several dolls, the coffee table and the walls. It’s all graffiti, your bag and baby are all covered in yogurt… Believe me, this is called enduring internal injuries. What happens if your emotional intelligence is low? You will keep urging, yelling, and complaining about your child all day long. As a result, your child will become rebellious and disobedient. You will become even more irritable, your whole body will be full of negative energy, and you will move closer to the resentful woman step by step. The family atmosphere becomes bad and a vicious cycle begins. No one likes a resentful wife, your husband will drift away from you… You can fight with the mistress, beat the gangster. The chance of a stay-at-home mother facing her husband cheating may not be higher than that of a working mother, but a stay-at-home mother is more afraid of her husband than a working mother. Having an affair makes you even more afraid of being divorced. If a stay-at-home mother gets divorced, she will be both divorced and unemployed, a double blow, and she will have no choice but to change her career after losing her job. Therefore, stay-at-home mothers must outsmart their mistresses. You can\’t be unkempt and have a round waist. Your competitors are young women with exquisite packaging. The ancients said: \”If you don\’t study for three days, your words will be dull and your appearance will be hateful.\” You can\’t just focus on pots and pans, and only have oil, salt, sauce and vinegar in your heart. Your competitors are visionary, knowledgeable and capable. Women in the workplace. If you can defeat the mistress, you can keep your job, but if you cannot defeat the mistress, you will end up miserable! A woman who always has the ability to be re-employed chooses to be a stay-at-home mother, which is to reach a certain division of labor \”contract\” between you and your husband: you are the master outside, and I am the master inside. If one day the husband goes back on his word, the \”contract\” will end, and the woman must shoulder the burden both internally and externally. Therefore, stay-at-home mothers must have a sense of crisis and maintain the ability to be re-employed at any time, otherwise they will be laid off and unemployed. It is best to have economic income. The economic foundation determines the superstructure. Only when you have economic income will you be more confident and confident as a person. Only when you are financially independent can your personality become more independent. What happens if the standards are not met? It can range from poor performance to being laid off and left.