How many parents have become money printing machines for their children?

I have always felt sorry for my two children. One is my neighbor\’s son. From the time the child was born until he finished primary school, his parents had been working in Guangzhou. In order to create better economic conditions for their children, the couple worked hard and worked hard to make money. After more than ten years, they have indeed made some achievements. But as soon as the child entered junior high school, the teacher issued an ultimatum, saying that the child was too disobedient and asked the parents to take the child home and educate him for a while. After receiving the news, the couple hurried back from Guangzhou, only to find out that the child had become rebellious and had started fighting with the teacher. At this time, the parents realized how much harm their absence had caused to their children for so many years. The lack of father\’s love and mother\’s love makes children gradually become withdrawn and unruly as they grow up, and their rebelliousness becomes increasingly serious with the arrival of adolescence. I remember that when this child was young, he was well-behaved and beautiful, and would scream when he saw our uncles and aunts; but now, with dyed blond hair and wearing ripped jeans, he looked impatient even when he met his parents, and talked to teachers at school When getting along with classmates, they would get into trouble even if they disagreed. The second child is the son of my classmate. My classmate has been working hard in a big city these years, and his father is taking care of his children at home. Now that I\’m in high school, my grades are about the same. My classmates have criticized me a few times, but they\’ve already started to antagonize me, even saying \”fuck you\” and other vulgar words. The child\’s father is a man who doesn\’t have much education and loves to play mahjong. The only way to keep the child company is that he won\’t be hungry or cold. When I am fooling around in the mahjong parlor, as long as the children are not around to disturb me, I can play with whomever I want and do whatever I want. As for pocket money and clothes, I always call my mother to ask for them. As a mother, I always feel that I am not at home all year round and owe something to my children. I try my best to satisfy them materially and financially. During the New Year, holidays and birthdays, I give money directly, and I try to buy clothes and shoes from Guili. In this way, the child develops an impetuous personality that does not know how to cherish, and he also makes a group of friends who do not like to study and only focus on the loyalty of buddies. Although he didn\’t do anything out of the ordinary, when it came to studying, he basically dozed off in class and refreshed himself after class. This phenomenon is especially common among our generation born in the 1970s. Our generation happened to catch up with the craze of working. We thought that it would be better to go out to work and get rich faster than to guard a few acres of thin farmland. So we basically chose to go out to work when we reached adulthood. Even after getting married and having a child, when the child is weaned, the child is left to the grandparents or grandparents, and the couple goes south. Speaking of which, there is no doubt that grandparents love their children, but the biggest drawback of intergenerational education is over-indulgence. Just like my parents, every time I mention their children\’s poor academic performance, they always say: \”Okay, okay, as long as the IQ is okay, how can every child be admitted to Tsinghua University and Peking University?\” It is about indulgence in money. Just like the two children mentioned above, parents feel that they cannot accompany their children, so giving their children more pocket money or higher-end clothes and shoes is a kind of compensation for their children. Grandparents will not object in this regard. They believe that parents make money for their children, and it is natural for them to spend money on their children. There are also some grandparents who feelYes, their precious grandchildren are the best and most beautiful children in the world. They deserve to wear the most fashionable clothes and shoes, and carry the most expensive schoolbags. On the first day of each semester, there will be many simply dressed grandparents sending their children to school on tricycles or motorcycles. Most of these children are wearing branded clothes and shoes, and many of them have Apple mobile phones. However, according to school teachers, most of the children who are more difficult to discipline are those whose parents were absent when they were growing up. They have more bad habits and are less interested in learning. The most troublesome thing is that as long as the teacher\’s words are a little too harsh, his rebellious nature will immediately become apparent, and barbs will stand up on his body. Last night, I watched a documentary about juvenile delinquents. A mother visited her child in prison and brought a lot of food and clothing. When the child saw his mother, there was no trace of happiness on his face. The mother handed him the things, and he opened them with one hand and said impatiently: \”You have been giving me these things since I was a child, and you have never given them to me.\” I cooked a meal and never slept with me once. When I was a bad learner, you were still working hard to make money. Now that I am in prison, you still use these things to kill me.\” After my mother left, the correctional policeman and this The 16-year-old child chatted and asked why he was so disgusted with his mother. The child told the police that he had been taken care of by a nanny since he was a child, and his parents had been working outside to make money. Often when he wakes up in the morning, his parents are gone; when he falls asleep at night, his parents have not come home yet. When he was very young, he was playing in the park and saw another child accidentally falling. His mother immediately ran over to hug him. When he fell, the nanny turned a blind eye and continued to knit a sweater. Later, his parents\’ business moved to other places, and he became even more pitiful. Except for the beginning of each semester, his parents would send one person back to pay the tuition, and the rest was handled by the nanny. He said that every time during a parent-teacher meeting or after school on a rainy day, he would see his classmates’ parents coming to school, and he would be particularly envious when he saw fathers and sons or mothers and daughters hugging each other. At the same time, he will also resent his parents who only care about making money and never know what his heart really desires. The child even said that when he got into a terrible disaster and saw his parents rushing back from other places with anxious faces, he felt particularly happy. I thought, now you have to worry about me and be anxious for me! He is also a sad and distressed child. Two days ago, I heard such a story while listening to the morning class taught by Qinglan Parents. On the third day of their children’s midterm exams, the teacher notified parents to hold a parent-teacher meeting. At the parent-teacher meeting, the teacher asked several questions to the parents: 1. Do you have a collection of books at home? How many volumes are there? 2. Which books have you finished reading? Do you still remember the main contents? Have you discussed the storyline in the books with your children? 3. Where have you been with your children? Have you ever taken photos with them? 4. How many days a week can you have dinner with your children and have happy time with them? 5. Can you name a few of your child’s classmates? Do you know what your child likes and dislikes the most? 6.Have you ever complained about your parents? Have you ever scolded a child without explaining the reason? Do you face overtime at work negatively?? These questions stumped the parents in the story. I wonder if the parents who are lucky enough to read this story also feel ashamed? Many times, we always think that this is an era of fighting for the father. Only by making enough money can we give our children a better future, which is the greatest love for our children. From birth to adulthood, how many parents play the role of a money printing machine, and what they continuously deliver to their children is money. Yes, you have given your child the best house, the most expensive clothes, and the most pocket money, but you have never read a book with your child, you have never known what your child really likes and dislikes, and you have never listened. The children talk about the interesting things in school and the little troubles in growing up. They never give up the opportunity to make money and spend happy parent-child time with their children! But, dear parents, does a child’s growth really only require money and material things? I once observed in a movie theater that young audiences watching \”Where Are We Going, Dad\” were holding popcorn in one hand and wiping tears with the other. It was a movie with the theme of fun and joy. Why did that small and lonely figure cry alone? Where were his parents at that time? what are you doing……