How many parents with children going to high school have been misled by this easy-to-understand comparison chart?

The cousin on the other end of the phone hurriedly told me that she was basically free for the past two months, so no matter what kind of outings there were, there was no need to involve her. On the other end of the phone, I immediately felt astonished. This is really not my cousin\’s past style. If there are any activities outside, my cousin will not only actively participate, but sometimes she is also an active organizer. What is the situation now that makes her change so much. It happened that the work unit was not busy these days, so I went to my cousin\’s place in the evening. I didn\’t know it, but it turned out that it was a change caused by a chart. It turns out that my nephew, who is also my cousin’s baby son, will be entering elementary school this year. Parents in the kindergarten class where his child is in are talking about their children’s enrollment as the enrollment time approaches. The topic is getting more and more heated. But no matter how it heats up, the theme remains the same, that is, how to let children enter school smoothly and without pressure. A few days ago, a parent posted a chart on the group about the differences between kindergarten and primary school. As shown below: This chart allows people to see the major differences between the two at a glance. Some people jokingly call it the instant understanding chart. Because this picture does emphasize the importance of school learning on the surface, many parents have begun to use this comparison chart to evaluate their children\’s learning ability. After much evaluation, I feel that we should recharge our children quickly. Learning more cultural knowledge is the key. After children master this cultural knowledge in advance, they will have a sense of ease when they get to school, so the pressure will not be too great. Of course, the best way to recharge is through various preschool tutoring classes. Action is worse than excitement, so these parents then began to look for classes that are more suitable for their children and started to sign up to study. My cousin is also one of them. When I went to her place in the evening, she had found a math class, a pinyin class, and a writing class, and my little nephew had already taken a class in each subject. Now she is just short of finding a writing class, which will continue tomorrow. Listening to my cousin\’s narration, I really understood her rhythm of rushing to the market. Everyone in this class and that class felt dizzy listening to it! What about those who are trapped in it? The worst thing should not be that my cousin should be my little nephew. He is not only rushing to go to work, but also in a state of non-stop. Is this really going to make it easy for the child to enter school? That\’s really missing. My colleague Sister Zhang’s child was admitted to Tsinghua University for the college entrance examination this year. While congratulating her, everyone asked her about her experience in raising children. Is it true that her children have been educated to strengthen their learning awareness since they were young and sent to remedial classes? Unexpectedly, Sister Zhang said that she never let her child study in any charging class before the third grade. After the third grade, she only signed up for an art class based on the child\’s request. After that, she didn\’t sign up for anything. Children have always been learning by themselves. If there must be any good experience, it can only be good study habits and methods. This is the ability that will benefit children throughout their lives. Sister Zhang said that when her child took the first-grade exam, all the children in the class of 50 ranked in the upper 30s, but she did not blame the child because she felt that it was enough for the child to do his best. Later, when I was chatting with a teacher, I accidentally mentioned this incident.Things, the teacher said that many children have learned the content in first grade, especially in the last semester, in kindergarten, and they will learn it again in school. How many of them don’t know how to do it? In just one sentence, you can tell how important such an achievement is. Now, look at parents like my cousin. If they recharge their children in a short period of time, isn’t that just letting their children learn by overthrowing their abilities? Although that quick understanding picture puts learning at the top of students’ lives, its deeper meaning should be that in the face of so many learning tasks and environments, what children should learn is the ability to face and handle these tasks, and in this way The ability is what Sister Zhang said about learning good habits and methods. This is the true meaning of this instant picture! If you really consider your children\’s physical and mental health and really want your children to enter school smoothly, Doudehui believes that parents may wish to learn from the following suggestions: First, give up the cramming and counterproductive learning methods, and slow down your nervousness and anxiety about your children\’s enrollment. Mentality, calm down and let the children feel that going to school is actually a change of roles, just like a child performing a doll\’s house, the child can do it well! Let your indifferent heart infect your children, allowing them to easily face new environments and new lives. Second, start paying attention to your child’s concentration and study habits. You can see if your child can finish writing a line or reading an article within the specified time. If not, then you should focus on it. See how you can guide your children to do this. Reading is a method chosen by many friends. You might give it a try. Third, the cultivation of self-care ability and ability to deal with things. The atmosphere of school life needs to be faced more by the children themselves, without the excessive arrogance of parents and teachers. Therefore, parents must let go of their hands and feet from now on and let their children deal with their own affairs. For example, do some housework, deal with things with your partners, etc. The above are what children should pay attention to now. Even in school, these should actually be the focus of adults, because this is beneficial to children throughout their lives! Fortunately, my cousin finally accepted my suggestion. I sincerely hope that my little suggestions can help parents in the same situation.