How parents can criticize their children correctly

1. Every child has different temperament and personality. In psychology, there are four types of human temperament, namely: choleric type, sanguine type, phlegmatic type, and depressive type. 1. Choleric type The characteristics of choleric are \”rapid, strong, and lasting emotions, and rapid, strong, and powerful actions.\” People belonging to this type are enthusiastic, straightforward, energetic, quick-tempered, and have drastic changes in mood. , easily emotional and extroverted. 2. Sanguine type: Sanguine is characterized by qualities such as vigor, enthusiasm, liveliness, sociability, compassion, and flexible thinking; it is also prone to being capricious, careless, impetuous, and lacking in consistency. Such people are lively, active, sensitive, quick to respond, like to interact with others, easily shift their attention, change interests and emotions easily, etc. 3. Physiological type: Physiological type is equivalent to the quiet type with strong and balanced neural activity. People with this temperament are calm, good at restraint and tolerance, have a regular life, are not distracted by irrelevant things, work hard, have endurance, have a steady attitude, are neither humble nor arrogant, do not like empty talk, and are serious; but they are not flexible enough and cannot easily shift their attention. , follow the old ways and lack enthusiasm for career. 4. Depressive type: People with depressive disorder have a weak neurological type. They have fewer ways to experience emotions and are slow to generate stable emotions. However, they experience emotions deeply, powerfully, and long-lasting, and they are highly susceptible to emotions. People with melancholic temperament are cautious, thoughtful, and prone to be indecisive in the face of difficulties. Therefore, if it is the same criticism, it is normal for children to have different reactions. 2. The reasons behind the same incident were different. Both children did not complete their homework. One was because he did not do it, and the other was because he felt uncomfortable and could not do it. Faced with the same criticism, the two children must have different reactions. Sometimes, parents\’ criticism is unwarranted, perhaps just because the parents have given their children a certain label. Whenever their children show similar behavior, they will criticize and reprimand them indiscriminately. Don\’t say that children can\’t accept it, and neither can adults. 3. The criticism terms and tone cannot be exactly the same as those of parents and teachers. They will never be exactly the same. If the criticism is just to blame the child, then such criticism will be received too much. Going to extremes is a way for children to resist. If the criticism is for the child to correct, help the child find out the reasons and how to correct it. The child will accept such criticism and correct it.