How parents can raise excellent children

As long as parents learn three things not to do and one thing to do, they can cultivate an excellent and confident child. Collect it and read it several times. Let’s first talk about what are the “Three Don’ts”? Raising children is actually like planting a tree. If you want the tree to grow taller, you would not whip the tree with a whip and say at the same time: Look, how tall is so-and-so’s tree next door? Why don\’t you grow up? Are you embarrassed? Is this useful? Definitely useless. In fact, it is the same when raising children. There are three things you must not do: 1. Never say anything that hurts the child\’s self-esteem. Many parents always seem to dislike their children when they see them, and nothing they do is as good as they want. As a result, when he is angry, he will get angry at the child and yell. When he got angry, everything came out: Why are you so stupid? As stupid as a pig! Why are you so timid? Why are you so cowardly? …The parent\’s anger is vented, but the child\’s feelings are not considered at all, regardless of whether the child can accept it or not. In this way, the child\’s self-esteem is unknowingly hurt. The lower the child\’s self-esteem, the worse his self-discipline, and the more problems he will have. When the parents saw this, they were even more furious, and the parent-child relationship was at stake. 2. Don’t say things that make your children anxious, such as: Look at you, if you don’t study hard, you can go pick up the trash in the future! Let me tell you, you can’t even pick up trash! You see you are so slow, I don’t like you, and the teacher doesn’t like you either! Parents always say these words to scare their children, and the children will become anxious after hearing this, and may even find it difficult to achieve happiness throughout their lives. 3. Don’t say things that will make your children lose face. Some parents like to talk about their children in front of others. In fact, many times parents’ original intention is for the good of their children, but their actions are inappropriate, which invisibly harms their children. A mother said to her neighbor: Alas, my child just doesn\’t study and always fails every exam. Some people complain about their children when they have guests: This child just likes to lie, it’s really annoying! What\’s more, they scold you in front of others: Hey, you kid, why are you so naughty! Why are you so lazy! Don\’t say that, it\’s terrible. If you make your children lose face now, your children will definitely make you lose face in the future. These 3 things cannot be done, but there is one thing that must be done! what is it then? It is to supplement children’s psychological nutrition. The more psychologically nourished a child is, the healthier the child will be mentally; the healthier the child is mentally, the better the child\’s character, learning, and mood will be. How can we supplement our children’s psychological nutrition? Let’s start from 5 aspects: 1. Unconditional acceptance. Unconditional acceptance does not mean doting, but when a child behaves poorly or has emotions, you need to accept the child’s emotions. Only in this way can children feel the love of their parents and have the strength to change. 2. Being respected In the heart of a child, he realizes that he is respected, important and trusted. 3. A sense of security should be given to children. Collect for your children, 50 recommended classic books in ultra-clear PDF version. An insecure child will not only have trouble studying, but will also have low self-esteem when he grows up, and will not be able to handle interpersonal relationships well. 4. Psychological nutrition Psychological nutrition means approval, encouragement, affirmation, etc. Child 3—At the age of 6, what a child needs is his father\’s affirmation, praise and approval. If fathers praise their children more, they will become particularly confident and dare to try. 5. Examples and examples are more important than words. Some people say that children are born philosophers. They don’t quite believe in the truths told by their parents, but are more willing to believe in their parents’ behavior and what they see with their own eyes. Do parents look at problems and solve them in a positive way, or do they complain, lie down, and act like victims? How mom and dad express emotions, collaborate and contribute to others, and more. These subtle influences will subtly enter the child\’s belief system, thus affecting the child. Children are the mirror of their parents. It can be said that psychological nutrition is the underlying code of a child\’s life. The more complete the supplement, the better and more confident the child will be.