How should parents learn from their children to achieve a win-win effect?

The rapid development of today\’s society has raised a new topic for parents – parents must also learn to learn from their children! Children have many excellent qualities, such as willingness to accept new things and new ideas, enhanced subjectivity; enhanced awareness of equality, legal awareness and self-protection, strong citizenship and environmental awareness, belief in facts, and understanding of the relationship between leisure and life. , wide range of interests and hobbies. In the eyes of children who grow up in an open environment, their parents are no longer absolute authorities; they are more concerned with self-development, and their parents are, to a certain extent, too rigid, mature, and sophisticated in their eyes. Therefore, don’t think that parents must know more than their children. Especially in this rapidly changing era, children are often better able to absorb information than their parents. Parents who occasionally show their confusion to their children are not ignorant. Performance, on the contrary, will make the children feel that their parents are very open-minded and childlike, and may also become the basis for parents to establish friendship with their children. Therefore, telling your children more often, \”Baby, you can teach mom this,\” is exactly what \”bad\” parents should do. So, how should parents learn from their children to achieve positive results? \”Bad\” parents suggest starting from the following aspects: First, parents should establish the concept of lifelong learning. Anthropologist Margaret Leder described \”parafigurative culture\” (a culture in which two generations learn from each other) and \”post-figurative culture\” (a culture in which the older generation learns from the new generation). appear in many places in our lives. Faced with the ever-changing information and increasingly fierce competition, bright-minded children still have too much to take care of themselves, not to mention parents who have matured and formed certain principles and concepts. But if parents don’t want to be abandoned by their children and this era, they must adopt the most vital way of survival-lifelong learning. Parents should realize that a large part of their values, knowledge, behaviors and habits have difficulty adapting to the development of society. However, our children are born and grow up in this new era. This new era has a natural ability to adapt. In this case, we have to learn from the younger generation in order to feel the changes in society from them and adapt to the new society with their help. Furthermore, modern society forces parents to change their minds and accept and respect the idea that learning from children should be one of the signs of true maturity and wisdom in adults. Secondly, parents should try their best to put down their airs and enter the inner world of their children sincerely, so that they can learn more and more valuable things from their children. Today, with the rapid development of knowledge economy and society, the Internet is becoming more and more popular, and the sources of knowledge are becoming more and more diversified. Children no longer can only obtain knowledge from their parents and teachers as before. On the contrary, they learn from the Internet or TV. The knowledge acquired may be more comprehensive and richer than what parents have acquired from books for decades. Therefore, they already contain the potential to influence the adult world. Society requires children to combine their interests, hobbies, knowledge, and experiences. , it has become necessary to feed back ideas to adultsOf course. What we are promoting now should be a \”learning family\”, that is, parents put down their airs, put away their dignity, and actively learn from their children. This is not embarrassing at all, but it is a positive attitude of the parents. It reflects, and has become an inevitable, a fashion, a sign of social progress. As the saying goes, everyone is a book. Now parents need to regard each child as a book. The \”entry\” into the child is to truly understand the child, study the child, and understand the child\’s book. Book. Every child is a special individual and a unique \”book\”. Understanding children should not just stay at the low level of their children\’s material needs and physical health. Such parents will never become excellent parents. At most, they can only be regarded as \”nannies\” for their children\’s growth. Real parents should pay more attention to their children\’s The spiritual world and psychological development; when studying children, we must avoid problems such as subjectivity, arbitrariness, authoritarianism, and credulity. We should focus on more communication and integration in an equal and democratic family learning atmosphere: to understand children, we must discover their characteristics in detail. In terms of personality tendencies, interests and aspirations, you need to think what your children think, say what your children say, do what your children do, learn what your children learn, and be a \”fashionable parent\” and a \”parent who loves learning.\” Finally, and the most critical thing First of all, the reason why \”bad\” parents can be \”bad\” cleverly is because they try their best to keep pace with the times, keep a young heart, and even actively grow with their children. As early as the first half of the 20th century, someone suggested: \”We are being left behind by our teenagers, we feel challenged, and we are afraid of our incompetence and ignorance.\” Just as now, all walks of life are facing the \”Yangtze River waves behind push forward waves.\” For example, many full-time teachers who teach computers feel this most deeply. Many students quickly surpass the teacher after being guided by the teacher, and eventually they learn from each other. Because in the information society, what is important is not accumulation, but the strength of learning ability. It can even be said that the more knowledge and experience people have, the more opportunities they have to change and transcend due to learning, or in other words, the more capable they are. Those who give up their original knowledge and learn new knowledge will become leaders. Therefore, compared to parents whose knowledge has become pedantic and outdated, \”bad\” parents can clearly see that their children contain greater potential for development. Many parents have learned from personal experience that many children not only have excellent academic performance, but also have rich lives and multiple abilities to adapt to the market economy. Therefore, \”bad\” parents should know that modern society should be a society where two generations grow up together. Both generations face opportunities and challenges. Only by learning from each other and growing together can the two generations create a more harmonious society. society and family. Only by allowing the fresh breath of modernity, democracy and freedom to blow into the family, creating a learning atmosphere that is harmonious and in tune with modern society, and advocating mutual respect and equal treatment in family learning can parents truly put \”learning from children\” to the forefront. In practice, the two generations can truly learn from each other, advance hand in hand, and grow together. In short, learning from children humbly and kindly will not only make childrenFeeling a sense of accomplishment and getting closer to the parent-child relationship will also find a new channel for parents to inject vitality into their lives and a new observation point to rethink education and life issues; learning from children will help adults understand it again Understand the essence of life and the quality of life; learn from children, smart parents will even become children again, see more fun of life, and enjoy more sunshine of family affection. Parents, please remember that asking questions without shame will be looked down upon by your children. \”Bad\” parents will secretly learn from the outside world some of the issues and topics that their children are concerned about at the moment when their children are not paying attention, and they will unexpectedly tell them in front of their children.