How terrible are the consequences of hurting a child\’s imagination?

At this year\’s \”Two Sessions\”, glass king Cao Dewang put forward a point of view: We should pay attention to family education. He believes that good parents are better than good teachers. Only high-quality parents can cultivate ideal children. Therefore, it is necessary to enrich parents’ knowledge so that they can improve the quality of their children’s family education. My best friend read this news and said: \”The quality of parents is indeed important. As we often say, so many industries have access permits and professional standards, but directors do not need to take exams or licenses. If you get a job, you can have children. If parents don’t have the knowledge in a certain area, they may take it for granted and educate their children. The result is that they harm their children’s potential and hinder their growth without even realizing it.” She gave I told a story from her childhood. At that time, she loved painting and had a dream of becoming a painter. Once, her mother gave her a picture album and asked her to copy it. That day, she imitated a very warm painting: a short-haired girl with delicate single eyelids, wearing a green skirt, sitting comfortably on a wicker chair, with a cute little white cat curled up on her knees. As she drew, she began to use her imagination: What would this little girl look like when she grew up? So she painted the little girl\’s hair long and curled like a princess, changed her single eyelids to double eyelids, and changed her skirt to a more fashionable style. The little white cat also grew into a big white cat and gave birth to many kittens, who were having fun around the chair. She was so proud of her creation that she couldn\’t wait to show the painting to her mother, hoping to get praise. But unexpectedly, after seeing it, my mother became very angry and reprimanded: \”I told you to follow the example and draw in a disciplined manner. What are you scribbling on?\” She explained aggrievedly: \”I drew it. This is what she will look like when she grows up.\” Her mother scolded: \”You know how to think wildly. The paintings are not similar at all! It\’s weird for you to be a painter at your level! You are not allowed to draw any more nonsense next time.\” She I ran away sadly. From then on, I had no interest in seeing the picture album again. She no longer wants to write or create, because she is afraid that her creativity will be regarded as whimsical, and she will be criticized and blamed. Parents always think that it is okay to criticize their children in childhood. They think that children\’s memories are like the beach. Even if their criticisms leave traces on the beach, they will eventually be washed away by the tide of time. However, a child\’s memory is actually like a young tree, extremely vulnerable to injury. Once a child is stabbed by a parent\’s harsh criticism, he or she may grow up with this scar throughout his life. Many of the big trees we see, no matter how big they are, cannot heal the scars accumulated on our bodies. When she grew up, as her mother wished, she became a well-behaved employee. However, she has never forgotten her unfulfilled wish to be a painter as a child, nor has she forgotten how her wish was painfully injured, and she has been dormant since then, never daring to show herself. As a parent, you should respect your children\’s wild imagination. Russian educator Ushensky once said: \”Great wisdom comes from strong and flexible imagination.\” Imagination is the spark of human wisdom. Let usMake outstanding scientific inventions or outstanding artistic ideas. When Zhan Tianyou was a child, he saw a chiming clock and imagined why it kept accurate time and never tired. He became interested in construction machinery and became an outstanding engineer when he grew up. When Watt was a child, he saw hot water pushing up the lid of a kettle, and he thought of the principle, and later invented the steam engine. Giotto, the great Renaissance painter, liked to scribble on the ground while shepherding sheep when he was a child. He was discovered by people with a discerning eye and began to learn painting. He was later known as the \”Father of European Painting\” and became famous far and wide. When Leonardo da Vinci was a child, he also painted fire-breathing monsters in caves. It was his imagination. His father saw his artistic talent and sent him to study under famous artists instead of blaming him for his wild imagination. My best friend’s mother was unintentional when she trained her like that, but it is indeed possible to make a child who could have become a painter think that she is not good enough, fold the wings of her imagination, stop flying, and no longer fulfill her wish. growing up. Children\’s self-awareness often depends on adults\’ evaluation. In the hearts of children, adults are the authorities, and their comments and opinions have great power. I once saw a case. Many years ago, a 3-year-old girl in the United States told her mother that she knew the first letter of the word \”OPEN\” and that her kindergarten teacher had taught her that it was \”O\”. Since the teacher said it was \”O\”, it must be. Mom was very surprised. Because before a child goes to kindergarten, she will not just think of \”O\” as a letter, she will think of it as a big apple, a round egg, a ripe fresh peach, a bouncing ball…\” So, my mother took the kindergarten to court and asked for mental compensation. Her reason was that the kindergarten stifled the children\’s imagination, so that they could no longer associate things when they saw them, and they only knew bare concepts, which was not conducive to Their growth. On the day of the trial, the mother said: \”I once saw in the park that people who raised swans cut off the flight feathers on the swans\’ wings and put them in the pond so that they would not fly away. Now, my daughter is like a swan in the park. The teacher has clipped her imaginary wings, causing her to be restrained prematurely. \”The jury was shocked after hearing this, so the kindergarten lost the case. Although it would be an exaggeration to file a lawsuit because of a letter taught by the teacher, the truth behind it is worth thinking about. As a child, the most important thing is As teachers, what we should do is not to let children fall into rigid concepts prematurely, but to strive to respect children\’s divergent thinking, protect children\’s precious innocence and lively imagination, and allow them to freely develop and innovate, so as not to We have been limited by adult thinking since childhood, and have lost our interesting fantasies. We only know fixed common sense and rigid rules and regulations. We must discipline our children carefully, but we must let them develop their abilities freely. If we It allows children\’s imagination to fly freely, and the things they can do will also make us proud and gratified. I have read a news report about a 9-year-old boy in Kaifeng, Xiaosen, who has a child who pays great attention to him imaginative mother. She believes that a good education should allow children to freely associate and let them play freely. When they see popcorn, they can imagine the shape of a bunny. Under her guidance, Komori\’s imagination was free to run wild. When he was 9 years old, he wrote the 60,000-word fantasy novel \”The Mummy in the Watermelon Peel Hat\”, which earned him the favor of the website \”Under the Banyan Tree\” and became its contracted author. His novel is about five mummies, each wearing a part of a watermelon as a hat on their head, embarking on an adventure together, fighting monsters and leveling up. Such a story may seem absurd to some parents. However, Komori\’s mother did not discourage him and said: \”How can a mummy go on an adventure? Who has ever seen a mummy wearing a watermelon on its head?\” She just discovered the child\’s literary talent and encouraged him to tell the story clearly, consider the sentences, and let him know the story clearly. He made associations happily. So Komori let his imagination run wild and wrote this story that his classmates thought was \”particularly interesting and unique.\” Sometimes he would make up stories that would make him laugh, and then he would roll with joy. Over time, his writing and life were very happy. Once his writing experience was reported by the media, it immediately aroused the dream of cultivating \”genius writers\” in many parents\’ minds. However, Komori\’s mother calmly told reporters that there are no genius writers in the world. \”All children can write 60,000-word novels. Respecting children\’s imagination and guiding them is the Midas touch.\” Every Every child has his own talents and specialties. However, not every child can receive encouragement and nourishment like Xiaomori. I have heard many parents say that their children were very cute when they were young, but as they grow older, they are not so smart and interesting. That’s because we wiped out their imagination prematurely and taught them the rules of the adult world: if the balloon is round, it is not allowed to be square; if the sun is golden, it is not allowed to be painted blue; During class, the teacher asked: \”What happens after the snow melts?\” The child could only answer \”It\’s water\” but not \”It\’s spring\”; when eating, the child\’s long hair accidentally dipped into the bowl, and the child would be happy. Saying: \”My hair is drinking soup\”, we may accuse her of making her hair dirty… If we let the child\’s thinking be solidified prematurely, it will not be helpful. That can only teach them to stick to the old ways of thinking and not know how to expand and create. Parents’ premature guidance and restraint may very well make sensitive children, like my best friend, think that they have done something wrong and that they are not good enough, thereby losing the precious opportunity in childhood to develop their own strengths. Our modern education focuses on cultivating innovative and compound talents. We cannot tie up children\’s imagination during childhood when their imagination is most fertile. It\’s like the girls in ancient times who had their feet bound when they were young. When they grow up, they still walk with wind and openness. Parents are their children\’s first teachers. If the method is inappropriate, the family will give the child the most profound restraint; but if the idea is appropriate, parents can also give the child the most important nourishment. As Cao Dewang once said:\”If we use the image of a tree as an analogy, then parent education is the root, family education is the stem, school education is the branches, social education is the leaves, and students\’ growth is the fruit. Only when the roots are deep can the trunk be strong, and only when the trunk is strong can the branches be numerous, and only when the branches are numerous can the leaves be Only when the leaves are lush can the fruits be born.\” If parents can strengthen their own learning and restraint, and guide and educate their children well from the source, their lives will be flourishing and leafy. If we respect children\’s imagination, respect their seemingly bizarre dreams, and allow their imagination to blossom, life will be more likely to bear fruit and emit fragrance.