How to accompany first graders: Children are tired, parents are suffering, how to spend time easily

My family is also in first grade, and I worry about urging my child every night. My child is slow in writing, what should I do? I also have to constantly correct my pen grip and sitting posture. Where did the time go? I don’t have time to complete any other content. Today, I will briefly talk about my thoughts and reflections on this mother\’s problem, hoping to be helpful to this mother. 01The first question: What should I do if I write slowly? It is normal for first-grade children to write slowly when they first start learning to write. As long as they keep practicing, they will gradually get better and better at writing. If you still have difficulty, you can enroll your child in a writing class on weekends to strengthen their writing. 02 The second question: Keep correcting your pen grip and sitting posture. When school teachers start asking children to write, they will first ask them to sit upright, and then hold the pen in preparation. Here is a mantra that you can recite to your children when they start writing: head straight, shoulders level, body straight, feet steady, chest one punch away from the edge of the table, eyes one foot away from the book, hand away from the tip of the pen An inch away. You can also print two pictures, one is a picture of a person sitting in a correct posture, and the other is a picture of a picture of a person holding a pen in a correct posture. Post it on the wall of the desk so that the child can see it when he looks up, as an invisible reminder to the child. If during the writing process, you find that your child has incorrect posture, you can gently remind him: head upright, body straight, arms open, feet secure. Children will slowly adjust after hearing it. Therefore, parents do not need to constantly remind their children to write, which will make them less and less confident in writing. When your child\’s handwriting is twisted and twisted, you can pick out the best handwriting to acknowledge him: \”I found that every stroke of your handwriting is very straight.\” You must believe that your child can write. Good words. See what your children do well. For example, you can praise them even if they sit up straight. Try to discover the bright spots in your children, amplify them, give them confidence, and give them a sense of accomplishment. With good experiences and feelings, children will grow up step by step. 03 The third question: Anxiety education is a long process that requires patience and persistence. Life is very long, so there is really no need to be anxious and anxious. When a child enters first grade, he will have to adapt to a new learning life for a period of time, so he needs to learn slowly and make progress slowly. Allow children to be slow, and accept children to be slow. Parents should not assume that their children will be able to acquire everything taught by the teacher overnight. As long as the children have a correct attitude and work hard step by step, they will definitely gain something. Don’t compare, trust your children: respect your children and accompany them. Don’t compare with other children. Each child’s learning rhythm is different. Let the child be himself and grow at his own pace. What we can do is accompany the child with love and give the child the motivation to keep moving forward. 04The fourth and fifth questions: Urging children, where does the time go? *For those wondering where the time went? My suggestion is: record time overhead + observe feedback. The first step is to record first; use the time node recording method to record the interaction time period between you and your child: Node 1: When the child gets up; Node 2: Before and after the child goes out in the morning; Node 3: After the child leaves school; Node 4: The child After returning home; Node 5: While the child is doing homework; Node 6: Before the child goes to sleep; SecondStep 1, observe and give feedback; focus on Node 5: Self-observation and feedback when the child is doing homework, calm down and think back to the scene where you urged the child, and why you urged the child anxiously. *To this question about rushing kids; I was in September the first week of school. It’s also easy for me to rush my children, especially in the morning when I feel pressed for time. Then after sending the child off, I recalled the reasons why I urged the child in the morning: the first reason was that I had something to do at work today and was in a hurry. The second reason is that the morning meal bag was not prepared in advance and I was in a hurry to go out. The third reason is that because the weather has cooled down, it takes time to change clothes in the morning. After looking back, I found that urging my children was a problem of my efficiency. It was due to my unreasonable use of time or lack of preparation in advance, resulting in time shortage. But the child was not in a hurry, and in fact he did not waste time. Therefore, when your own affairs are intertwined with those of your children, or you do not do things that you should prepare in advance, you will feel that there is not enough time, which will cause parents to urge you. I guess you are urging your children because you are taking care of them too much. You are pushing your children to complete their homework. You are not in a hurry, but they are not in a hurry. It is suggested here that you can give your children the space to grow, talk with them about how to arrange and plan their homework after they come back, and negotiate a good work and rest schedule together. In this way, children have a strong sense of autonomy. Writing homework will also be much more positive. In short, when parents are willing to pause and observe the flow of time, you will find ways to optimize. When parents are willing to observe and reflect on problems, you can always find solutions. Written at the end: Educating children is a long and patient process. We must believe in children, see more of what they do well, give encouragement and praise, and let them slowly build up their self-confidence and courage to overcome difficulties. At the same time, we must also learn to observe and reflect, constantly optimize our own educational methods, and accompany our children to grow together.