How to accompany first graders: time management with children, these methods are really effective

A few days ago, a mother left a message on the public account: her child is so sleepy after finishing homework every day that she has no time to do anything else. After the children start school, time is tight, the children have many tasks, and the parents are very anxious. This should be a common state for parents to spend time with their children. This is also the previous state of my home. In order to change this situation, I have been looking for ways to make my time more efficient. I have also made many attempts. The effects are there, but they are not as stable and ideal as they are now. ·Because there were two children in the family, the schedules of older sister and younger brother were out of sync. My older sister had a lot of homework in sixth grade, and my younger brother was in a big class and had no homework. In addition, the younger brother also wants to talk and play with his sister for a while, which will affect her learning efficiency. At that time, my younger brother had no homework and had to go to bed at 10:00. This year, my daughter went to the county to attend the first grade of junior high school and was not at home during the week. The family has a child who has just entered first grade, and there is no interaction with each other. In addition, I have been doing time management before. Now I go home and complete a lot more homework and tasks than before, but I can still sleep at 9:00. So if the family is in a state where a child is too sleepy to do homework and does homework very late, then parents need to manage their child\’s time. – So how do we manage our time? Four steps to share with you! 01 The first step is to perceive time and establish a relationship with time. Observe and record. Use your eyes to observe how time passes every day. Then manifest the observation into the form of written records, record the time as it is, and objectively observe the trajectory of your own time flow. Here we can use time statistics to help us establish a sense of time, so that we can clearly know when and what happened? –02 The second step is to initiate active interaction with time. Now pause what you are doing, leave a space for thinking, and think about: 1. What changes can I make for a certain period of time? 2. What should I do today? Can we change the way we use time? 3. What can I do that affects how I behave when allocating my time? 4. Are there any better options for time management? These four questions can initiate active interaction between us and time. –03 The third step is to use the time statistics method to record and make a table with three columns, time + duration + event, just record every day. From the records, you can know how much time you have wasted, how you wasted it, and why you wasted it? –04The fourth step is regular review. Once you have the data, you can do the review. Review every day, review every week, and review every month. This method can be applied to various scenarios in life. ·Morning time record: get up at 6:40-6:50 in the morning, wash your son at 6:50-6:55, start eating breakfast at 6:55-7:05, do morning reading at 7:05-7:20, 7:20 Departure, arrive at the car at 7:23, arrive at the subway station at 7:28, and the subway opens at 7:33. This is a time record that has now stabilized after repeated adjustments. At the beginning of September, I felt that I was very pressed for time in the morning.Zhang, after making time observation records, he had a series of the following questions, and reviewed them and made adjustments. Observed problem 1: The child takes a long time to eat, exceeding the prescribed time. My family eats a lot, including fruits, nuts, milk, and another staple food every day. Chewing nuts slowly will waste time, and there is still half a bottle of milk and you will be unable to drink it. Review adjustment: use folding time to complete. When reading and listening to the audio of Xiaoguwen in the morning, eat a few nuts. And half a bottle of milk will be drank on the way to the car. Awareness problem 2: From the parking place to the subway station, I need to go through three traffic lights. At the last traffic light, I turn right, but if there is a straight car in front of me, I have to wait. The lights at this intersection are on for a long time, so it is very time-consuming. Review and adjustment: I found that there are two small intersections before entering the third traffic light, and you can turn into the community and take a shortcut. So, after I rearranged the route, at the third traffic light, I saw there was no car in the distance, so I turned directly. If I have a car, I will turn in from the intersection in advance and take a shortcut. This also saves time. Awareness problem 3: On rainy days, you need to bring rain gear because the road is not easy to walk on, which will waste time. Review and adjustment: I combined the morning reading task of reading and reciting 10, and asked the children to complete it in the car. The meaning of review is to continuously compress what happens at high frequencies and find the most efficient and effective method. ·Recording time for completing homework in the evening. Problem 1: Accompanying my son to complete school homework in the evening, I found that there is no pinyin practice, and it usually only takes 20-30 minutes to complete. But once there is pinyin practice, it takes 40-50 minutes. Review and adjustment: The problem is that the child does not have a firm grasp of pinyin and spelling. Therefore, I will take an hour on weekends to review the pinyin I have learned for my children. In addition, I changed the method of spelling, instead of reading it all five times over and over again, I chose the fastest time. Instead, circle what you don\’t know and read it a few times. After mastering it, read it through once and record the time. In this way, you can master the knowledge points of Pinyin, your time is efficient, and you can read faster. Observed problem 2: After get off work, I am sometimes very tired and cannot handle my emotions well. My children’s homework time needs to be 20 minutes longer. Because when I see my children’s homework not meeting the teacher’s requirements, I can’t help but get angry. Among them There is an emotional tug of war with the children. Review and adjustment: When I become aware of this problem, I will lie down by myself for a while, take a rest, adjust my state, and then go to spend time with my child. In this way, the mentality of accompanying children becomes much calmer, and there is no need to compete with children, and the efficiency is naturally improved a lot. In the continuous recording, through the time statistics method, you can better feel the flow of time, and how to look at yourself in time from a new perspective, get new inspiration, and bring you new changes. –Written at the end: Time seems open and equal, but “there is only today”. Therefore, time is the most precious resource in each of our lives. So teaching children how to plan time and how to use time efficiently is the key to laying a solid foundation for their future. When you start recording time every day, review it with your children every day and every week, and reflect on the time for adjustmentstime, this also sows the seeds of time management in children. In the future, he will refer to the method you taught him to write every day in the future and realize his dreams one by one.