How to avoid becoming an obstacle to children’s growth

\”The child is still young, what does he know?\” Many parents like to say this. \”Who said I\’m still young? I\’ve grown up! I\’m already 5 years old!\” Recently, this sentence often pops out of the boy\’s mouth. After that, he will always do something to prove that he has grown up and is no different from us adults. One night after dinner, I felt a little tired and wanted to make an exception and indulge myself in watching TV in the living room. Who knew that as soon as I sat down, the boy came over to me and said, \”Mom! I\’m going to read a book! Let\’s read a book together! Let\’s read the one from the auto repair shop.\” I was dumbfounded by the boy\’s sudden words. Isn’t this what I usually say to him? Today it\’s my turn to listen too. With this thought in mind, I got up and followed the boy into the study. I found that my children really grew up. Half a year ago, I used to drag him and tell him stories every day. Recently, he suddenly became more active. He would remember that I told him which part of the study room was his book, and he would remember which floor to flip through and put the book on. How many books has Will read in the small town, and he will also take the initiative to ask him to tell bedtime stories. Moreover, he also fell in love with listening to the Three Character Classic. Thinking back to 3 years ago, my family asked me to take my child to the doctor again and again because they were worried that he would speak late and whether there would be any problems with the child. At that time, I felt very tired every day. Not physical fatigue, but mental exhaustion. I don’t know why, but today’s parents are more anxious about their children’s education and training than they were in our time, and they are even more skeptical about their children’s abilities. It seems that as long as your child is slower than other children in a certain aspect, you feel that there is something wrong with your child. But I want to play devil’s advocate. I just believe that the child will get better and better. Because all the problems in children can only show the negative energy in the family members themselves. So I choose to wait, accompany you, and try to be myself. Now when I look back at each article, I feel relieved and even more fortunate. I\’m glad I never gave up. The past two days happened to be the interview days for this year\’s junior high school promotion, and the circle of friends was full of weird test questions and complaints from parents. You don’t know if you don’t see it, but you just want to laugh when you see it. Because I feel that I can relax this year and don’t have to think about what kind of thinking exercises to let my children read, and I don’t have to let my children learn Pinyin Olympiads in advance. That would simply harm young minds! Although some schools immediately stated that these test questions can be taken home to take, they are optional and not mandatory, and have no direct impact on admissions. But if it doesn’t make any sense, why are these questions asked for children to answer? If you want to really test the overall quality of the children, you should run up and test whether the children can wash their own clothes, understand etiquette when dealing with others, and their athletic ability and physical fitness. Let each child show off his or her own strengths. Finally, Then ask both parents to be present together to see if both parents care about their children\’s education at the same time! This is what a good school should do. Why make the junior high school look like a single-plank bridge for the college entrance examination, with everyone rushing in? Will attending a public primary school right next to your home hinder your child\’s growth? But these ideas of mine did not get support. Many people think that \”childrenI\’m not good enough, that\’s what my parents said because they are incompetent. Otherwise, who wouldn’t want their children to attend a better private or bilingual school if possible? In a good school, the quality of classmates and the quality of parents are all different. \”Then I want to say: Quality is more about the three views of parents. There are as many different views as there are people in the world. No one is lower or higher than anyone else, everyone is the same. You If you feel that you are lower than others, then you will naturally feel that your children are not good enough; if you feel that you are higher than others, then there are mountains beyond the mountains. The people around you are just your own subconscious. Instead of trying your best It is better to invest in your children than to invest in yourself. I feel that I have not done enough, so I am not in a hurry to let my children go to any interest classes or tutoring classes outside. First, do the things that parents should do with you, and then Think about what needs the teacher\’s help. Instead of being too lazy to do anything, spend money to send your children to early education and preschool. It seems that all the hard work and money you make is for your children, but isn\’t it all to save yourself effort and worry? I My mother always said to me: I have no problem with you wanting to study, but you are a mother now. Your child will go to elementary school next year, and you have to enroll him in pinyin reading no matter what. His English is good, but Pinyin is not taught by teachers in elementary schools. When the time comes, other children will know it better than him, and he will lose confidence. Mom will definitely have to worry more about studying in the future. After you finish the psychological counselor exam this year, don’t study anymore. You must accompany me when learning piano. You still need to have one or two talents such as swimming, playing chess, etc. Why can’t I accompany my child to read books, play ball, and enjoy the childhood fun he should have? Talking about children Everything is slower than others, but I think children know everything in their hearts. It’s just that some children will say it immediately when they know it, and some children are not willing to say everything. For example: two days ago, the child needed to have his inflammation checked because of a cough. At first, he was reluctant to go to the hospital and was a little upset. When he was upset, he acted like an adult and said to his grandma, \”Don\’t worry about me, I still have to go to work!\” \”This tone and movement are basically imitating the normal behavior of the adults in the family. On Saturday night, while watching Mamma Mia, a mother of an autistic child said that although the child is autistic, he plays the piano very well. Okay, the piano is level 10. My mother said that it is difficult to tell that this child is autistic. I said: In fact, many children who are said to be autistic have the love of all family members and the support of society. Warmth can be given a chance. Nowadays, many children who are said to be autistic or autistic actually just have a small problem in sensory integration and coordination. They are just more introverted than extroverted children, but they are only in certain things. It’s just that they are more focused and devoted than ordinary children. If you always deny a certain aspect of the child’s characteristics and insist on training the child to be a work produced on an assembly line, then I would rather not have this kind of education, because this may not be what the child really wants to be. Like. If children never have the opportunity to choose to know themselves and be themselves for once in their lives, then it is not true that we bring children into this world.Love him now.