How to communicate with teachers after school starts?

Parents are paying more and more attention to their children\’s education. Parents really hope to create a comfortable and fair learning environment for their children, so they spare no effort to cooperate with teachers, pay close attention to various notifications in the WeChat group, and actively support teachers in their work. Of course, we also urgently hope that teachers can be serious and responsible for children, do their best, make continuous progress, and teach students in accordance with their aptitude. The relationship between parents and teachers is like partners, with a common goal: to educate children well and achieve a win-win situation. This requires good communication between each other and common progress. \”We are usually pretty human beings, but why do our minds immediately turn into mush when we communicate with teachers?\” I believe there are many parents who have this kind of problem. In fact, the relationship between parents and teachers is also a type of interpersonal relationship. When communicating with teachers, we also use the principles of interpersonal communication: respect, trust, and understanding in attitude; cooperation and cooperation in action. At the same time, you should also know that: (1) A teacher is a person first, and he cannot meet the expectations of every parent. In addition to professional qualities in teaching, teachers have their own unique personalities, ways of speaking, and habits of doing things. On many issues, parents must have this awareness: rather than changing teachers, seeking the growth of children is our goal. They are ordinary people and need to think about life: teachers have their own entertainment and leisure, they have their own families and children to take care of, and there are also many parents who take care of short and trivial housework. (2) Teacher is a title and a profession. They are professionals and need to consider their work: preparing lessons and attending classes every day, completing various administrative tasks, communicating with parents in one or two classes, correcting homework, etc. Completing daily KPIs is quite laborious. Teachers taking the initiative to give and parents asking teachers to give are not the same concept. On this basis, the following four taboos on communicating with teachers are easy to understand. 1. Don’t make awkward conversations without purpose. No professional person wants to have awkward chats with his or her “clients”. They are very busy at work, and after get off work, they have to be busy taking care of their families and enriching their personal lives. There is no need for awkward chats to take up the teacher’s time. 2. Don’t interrupt at any time. Don’t treat teachers as service personnel on call 24 hours a day. Just like workers hate having to stare at their mobile phones anytime and anywhere to pay attention to the needs of customers or bosses, teachers have to face so many parents alone, and there will be all kinds of problems waiting to be dealt with. You can imagine how big they are. workload. Of course, you can call and communicate in time for urgent issues. For minor problems and doubts, you can leave a message on WeChat to the teacher and indicate that the teacher will reply at a convenient time. If it is a problem that requires systematic communication, you can make an appointment with the teacher in advance, which is suitable for both parties. time to communicate, and choose the communication method according to the size of the problem: phone call or direct interview. 3. Don’t complain in the WeChat group. Starting from kindergarten, the teacher established the WeChat group to facilitate the group to send children’s daily routines or issue various notifications. After reaching elementary school, the role of the WeChat group becomes more single, just to receive the teacher’s notifications. The teacher Those requiring a reply will be noted. Therefore, in the WeChat group, do not chat, and do not publicly accuse or complain about a certain notification. If you have any objections, doubts, or suggestions, you can communicate with the teacher privately. oneResponsible teachers and a good atmosphere in a class are worthy of the cooperation and maintenance of parents. 4. Don’t just release emotions and create confrontation without solving the problem. When it comes to learning problems, teachers have seen many students and cases and generally have more experience than their parents. It’s okay to find a teacher to properly resolve your emotions. The most important thing is to find the crux of the problem and solve it. You can seek help from the teacher and discuss countermeasures with the teacher. More importantly, after the teacher gives the suggestions, the parents must implement them when they go home and stick to it, waiting for the day when they see results. On some issues, teachers also have the same difficulties and limitations as teachers. A friend\’s child had just entered first grade and was pushed repeatedly by his classmates. After communicating with the teacher and the parent to no avail, the parent could only take measures on his own: He recounted the whole story of the incident and his own handling of it in the class group. , because the communication with the other parent was ineffective, the child continues to be harassed, so I hope the other parent can give a clear way to deal with it. As a result, the other parent actually said, \”Why are there so many students in the class? If we don\’t push others, we push your child…\” Several other parents in the group immediately responded: \”My child also said that he was pushed by your child… \”In this way, all members of the group know that the reason for the child\’s failure to change despite repeated admonitions is the parents\’ fault, prompting the parents to urge their children to change this problem, otherwise they will have \”no friends\” in the class… The teacher also naturally helped his friends\’ children in the following days. Seats were switched. If you only focus on venting emotions and putting pressure on teachers without solving the problem, it will be your own children who will suffer in the end. Of course, when teachers ignore and fail to fulfill their responsibilities on principled issues, communication cannot solve the problem, such as school bullying. Parents can choose to solve the problem by calling the police or making a complaint. When communicating on specific issues, you can follow these principles: 1. Tell the teacher about the child\’s situation at home. When communicating with the teacher about the child\’s situation at school, don\’t forget to tell the teacher about the child\’s performance at home. This will be more conducive for teachers to analyze the problem in detail. 2. Compared with general questions, it is easier to get targeted answers by asking details. For example, if you ask, teacher, what should I do if my child’s grades are always failing to improve? The teacher\’s answers will also be very broad, such as reviewing in time, practicing more, etc. What if, instead, teacher, my child still loses points on the questions he has done in this test/has many typos/cannot write in reading comprehension/loses many points in composition? The teacher can give effective solutions based on specific problems, and just follow the teacher\’s method and stick to it. 3. Don’t accumulate problems before communicating. The teacher alone has to deal with dozens of students in the class. Timely communication from parents can allow teachers to pay attention to their children’s problems and detect and deal with them early. Moreover, the content of communication with teachers should not be limited to learning issues. Children\’s personality, conduct, and social skills are also very important parts of the growth process. Don\’t miss the critical period for the balanced development of all aspects of your child just because you only focus on grades. 4. Don’t be anxious when facing the teacher’s “complaints”: “This child is slow, others have written it down, and the child’s book is not ready yet…” The thinking path for this question should be: Is my child usually slow? consistent with his naturePersonality and behavior? Yes, I am usually a bit slow. Is it something that can be changed? Can change, takes time and training. At this stage, his slowness is due to his original rhythm, which means he has to move his hands when he hears the teacher\’s instructions. Why does the teacher think this is a problem? When the whole class acts together, there will always be the first one to finish and the last one to finish, so the teacher has standards. When the teacher mentions the areas where the child needs improvement, you can say: Thank you teacher for your careful observation. I will pay attention to the issues you mentioned; when we go home, we will find ways to improve the speed: give the child a regular time when doing homework, and give more time at ordinary times. The child gives clear instructions so that the child will be clearer about the teacher\’s instructions in class…Does the teacher think it is feasible? Any other helpful suggestions? It is best to persist for a period of time before giving detailed feedback to the teacher and also asking whether the child\’s performance in school has improved. During this period, you must also remember not to pass anxiety to your children. The improvement of many problems requires long-term persistence and growth can only be done step by step. Fully fulfill the obligations of parents – cooperate with teachers, believe in children, and stand on the same front as children to solve problems encountered. In interactions between people, sincerity is always a must-have. I hope that every communication between parents and teachers will be effective and pleasant!