How to cultivate children’s self-confidence + self-drive + self-control

This trick is called \”positive self-talk.\” It is easy for two completely different voices to appear in people\’s heads. One voice is the inner critic, which always uses hurtful and unhelpful words to evaluate oneself and make people act negatively; the other voice is the inner guide, which uses Use words of care and encouragement to support yourself and make people take positive actions. \”Positive self-talk\” is a powerful thinking skill that can bring many benefits: 1. Build confidence. A child who says \”This is too difficult, I can\’t do it\” will not have the confidence to deal with challenges or take risks. . And a child who says \”I can do it\” and \”This may be difficult, but I can keep trying\” is a person who knows how to motivate himself and is more likely to have the confidence to face challenges and difficulties. Essentials for family education: How to encourage children\’s progress and self-confidence, 70 episodes 2. Increase motivation. One child may think: \”I\’m always terrible at math, so there\’s no reason to study.\” And another child may think: \” I need to study tonight so I can do well on the test.\” If the inner voice is positive and encouraging, it is more likely to drive him to take action. 3. Improve emotional self-control. Changes in cognition can regulate emotions. If a child makes a negative evaluation of himself: \”I\’m really bad and can mess up everything.\” He will naturally feel depressed and depressed; but if the child thinks: \”Although it\’s terrible, I will get better as long as I work hard.\” Okay\” His mood will naturally not be so depressed. The list of benefits could go on and on, relying on positive self-talk can help children in all aspects of their lives. But many times positive self-talk doesn’t come naturally. Instead, children will be more likely to use negative self-talk, so we need to teach them positive affirmations and self-talk. So how to do it specifically? 1. Discuss the benefits of positive self-talk Children, especially teenagers, may initially wonder why they should change their minds. Use the picture tool below to talk to your children about the two concepts of self-talk and the role of positive self-talk. This is a good start for them to learn this thinking skill. After understanding the concepts of negative and positive self-talk, you can use identification games to strengthen your child\’s understanding of different self-talk. As shown in the classification table below. 2. Use the vocal method to demonstrate positive thinking. Parents can use positive thinking techniques out loud in front of their children. For example saying in the morning \”Today is going to be a great day\” or \”I\’m ready for whatever today brings me.\” It\’s also helpful to emphasize the positive, even in difficult situations or setbacks. For example, you could say, \”I had a hard time at work…but it\’s okay. I can learn from it and do better next time.\” 3. Practice changing negative thoughts into more positive ones. Mix some negative and positive thoughts. Self-talk comparison posters allow children to learn how their thinking changes. It can also be posted as a visual reminder for children to change their thinking. It\’s also a good idea to use some situational examples to give your child practice in reframing negative statements into more positive ones. You can also talk about reality with your childrenChallenges and situations experienced in life. Try asking them questions like – “What could you learn from that situation?” “What positives could come from that?” “What did you do right?” and “How will this help you in the future?” Let The child tries to focus on the positives and what can be learned rather than dwelling on the negatives. Parents don\’t need to be psychologists to engage in positive self-talk with their children, it can be taught and practiced by anyone.