How to discipline children who are tired of studying

I found that some foreign editions were poorly written and poorly translated, for example, a very famous book I read last year, \”The Smart But **\”. How to judge the quality of a parenting book? It doesn\’t mean that its concept is new, nor that there are many ways to read it. It mainly depends on whether the author starts from the heart and truly understands children at a certain stage. Only by truly understanding him and understanding him can we have a fundamental solution. When I say this book is bad, I mainly mean that it is solemn and serious from beginning to end, listing unrealistic methods and methods, and it has a translation tone from beginning to end. It almost always explains how to teach children to learn and do things from the perspective of parents. Once you follow this, in most cases the children will not accept it at all, because the content is too contrary to the laws of children\’s development. what to do if the children do not like study? What to do if your child is tired of studying PDF download [35M HD version] Those of us who have raised children will all have this experience. Before children are three years old, they are very smart and have strong imitation skills. As long as you can take care of your children for a period of time, they will find that they can imitate your movements, eyes, and sounds perfectly. We exclaim in our hearts: Wow! I gave birth to a genius! However, when he entered elementary school, he found that he could not sit still in the classroom, did his homework half-heartedly, was distracted in listening to lectures, was procrastinating on his homework, and gradually revealed that he did not want to go to school. For example, I was browsing WeChat the other day and saw a mother asking me that her first-grade daughter liked those colorful brushes and gouache paints. As soon as she was asked to do her homework, she was doing other things. The efficiency of doing homework was so low that she couldn\’t do other things. It took a long time to get up and eat, and I was constantly being urged to go to school. She really likes to help her mother with housework. She helps her when cooking. She often washes dishes and washes pots. She can also help her take care of her younger brother. In terms of life, except for the grind, everything is fine. It’s very frustrating to study. Many first and second grade children are like this. After you read yesterday’s article, you may have some vague understanding of the above issues. By the time you read the following, I believe you will understand it clearly. Regardless of whether it is beautiful or ugly, when we observe any baby, it opens its mouth to eat when it is born, cries when it feels uncomfortable, and soon smiles when it sees a familiar face, and cannot help but want to hug it… This is human instinct. Brain scientists believe that the instinctive brain part of any person is naturally fully developed at birth. This is the same for any animal, even the lowest reptiles. Otherwise, how can they survive? Within two or three years after a baby is born, the instinctive brain is in charge of everything. Therefore, in the first three years after a child is born, satisfying his demands for food, drink, fun, omnipotent narcissism, and establishing an attachment relationship are top priorities. Modern brain science reveals to us that these attachment relationships that meet the instinctive brain requirements of children are not only very important, but also, like food, are indispensable and fundamental elements for human survival and lifelong happiness. The emotional brain, the mammalian brain, grows rapidly after a baby is born, especially within 2-3 years after birth. Moreover, it develops through use—when the same bundle of neurons is activated over and over, the brain will remember this activation pattern and reappear repeatedly. Around the age of twelve or thirteen, the emotional brain matures and begins to control a teenager\’s joy, anger, sorrow, and happiness; at this time, the rational brain is still too weak and cannot compete with the first two. This is, a child who is still breastfeeding, he was crying because he couldn\’t get milk one minute, but he laughed as soon as he got the milk; and an eight-year-old child can ignore things he doesn\’t like when he is hungry. Food, waiting for his favorite to be served. why? He can use the emotional brain of joy, anger, sorrow, and joy to suppress his instinctive brain. The emotional brain develops at different speeds for each person, while most people\’s rational brain is also growing quietly at this time. Therefore, in primary school classrooms, children with advanced rational brain development and some children with well-developed emotional brains can concentrate on listening to lectures; children with slower development of these two cannot sit still, love to wander, and cannot control themselves after returning home from school. , first eat and drink enough, and then play enough, but still don\’t want to do homework. Some have to wait for their parents to beat them up before reluctantly starting to write the homework that they think is damnable. If parents allow it to develop, these children will generally become tired of studying by the fourth or fifth grade. Many people think that studying is hard, and being tired of studying is a natural emotion for children. After all, what child doesn’t want to play? If parents don\’t be tough, how can any child take the initiative to love learning? This sentence is half true. Compared with learning, playing is certainly more attractive to children, but the other half of the problem is that although learning is not as attractive as playing, it is not so disgusting. For most children, allowing them to maintain a relationship that cannot be said to be loving, but at least can coexist peacefully with learning, is the goal that most parents should pursue. My observations, including those of my son Qian Xiaoneng’s children who show promising academic performance, generally meet this basic requirement. So, how to make these children not tired of learning and continue to live in harmony with learning? First, you have to make full use of his instinctive brain and let him regard learning as an interesting or fun thing, something that he enjoys as much as eating, drinking and having fun. How to turn learning into an interesting thing? Then parents can\’t be afraid to use their brains. Other school teachers can\’t take care of that much. For example, play math splitting games to visualize abstract things, turn learning into games, and let children enjoy the fun. In short, if you want your children to like mathematics and be happy to think, you can provide a small number of interesting and slightly difficult problems for your children to explore. But you must be particularly careful about the gradient. The questions should be in line with the child\’s current cognitive level. There can be a slight slope, but it should not be raised too much suddenly, especially it should not be tortured for a long time, otherwise the outcome of being tired of learning is almost doomed. Another example is the competition to memorize words and English words; turning sentence making and writing into interactive games. Education means not to follow the crowd. The younger the child, the more he needs to use his brain, nourish and cater to the child\’s nature, and make the best use of the situation. Second, you have to use your child\’s emotional brain so that he has no fear of learning. When some parents see other children’s children doing well and their own children’s children doing poorly, they don’t think clearly about where the gap comes from. They see other children studying outside.Since then, I have followed a few top students to various training institutions. But the academic masters learn acceptable knowledge, while most ordinary children only get the loneliness of running with them. Their level is not enough to support them to learn such courses, but because of the blindness of their parents, they are forced to follow the large army to force (Our family also did a similar stupid thing, asking Qian Xiaoneng to learn the Mathematical Olympiad with a large team, but fortunately he stopped decisively later. Otherwise, Qian Xiaoneng would probably be afraid of mathematics because of the Mathematical Olympiad). The child listened in confusion in class and struggled to do homework after class. Because they have been in an extremely difficult state of struggle for a long time, children will naturally have a clear sense of rejection of this subject. And if parents can know their children, understand their children\’s psychological and brain development stages, and find corresponding methods to make their children excited and happy about learning, they will get along with all learning content, be enthusiastic about learning, and learn everything. Don\’t be afraid. Otherwise, if you find a tutoring class or one-on-one time and just think that you have completed the task, you may not have good results. I once wrote an article \”Three Magic Weapons to Extinguish Children\’s Learning Drive\”. The first mother in the article seemed to be well-educated and like a high-level white-collar worker, but in fact she was a high-level fool in educating her children. That kind of attitude and method is determined to extinguish the child\’s good mood for playing basketball. How can you make him fall in love with one thing. To make children in kindergarten and primary school enjoy learning, it is necessary to fully mobilize and utilize their instinctive brain and emotional brain. When the rational brain develops to a certain level, the three will cooperate closely and advance together.