How to educate children

Early in the morning, hundreds of messages appeared on the community, stemming from a question raised by a mother. The question read: \”Which one is better for the child, a strict father and a loving mother or a strict mother and a loving father?\” Many mothers replied, always saying that the father was a strict and loving mother. But in today\’s society, fathers are more gentle than others. The ones who hand out tissues and shed tears are usually fathers, while mothers are more resolute than others. I believe there are many mothers in life who \”play the bad guy\” at home, while fathers only play the good guy in front of their children. This role positioning seems to have been reversed in many families, from the traditional \”strict father and loving mother\” to \”strict mother and loving father.\” Whether it is a strict father and a loving mother, or a strict mother and a loving father, in the process of educating their children, one of the parents plays a good role and the other plays a bad role. It\’s just that parents have the same goal but different stances when educating their children. It is necessary to establish authority in front of the child and set good rules for the child so as not to make the child lawless; but also to comfort the child when he feels wronged so as not to make him too uncomfortable. Professor Li Meijin of the Public Security University of China once said: \”To control children, you only need one voice.\” Educating children so that parents and parents stand on the same page can make children trust their parents, enforce the rules more effectively, and better establish the relationship between parents and parents. Prestige in front of children. In fact, educating children requires a kind of perseverance, and you must adapt to the child\’s feelings and rhythm. If the direction and method of education are wrong, the child will only knock you away. Children\’s problems are a reflection of their parents\’ problems. Many parents blame their children\’s bad habits on the school, on the teachers, on the children themselves, but not on themselves. In fact, many children\’s behaviors and habits come from family influence. Develop the potential of children aged 0-6 and develop babies with high EQ and IQ. Children\’s education expert Sun Jingxiu once said that children\’s eyes are cameras and their brains are tape recorders. Your every word and deed is engraved on their hearts. The child lives in this family. His elders and relatives, how they treat work and treat others will have a very direct and subtle impact on the child. What kind of person a child can become in the future depends largely on the kind of family education he receives while growing up. If you always have a bad temper and yell at your child, he will become inferior, timid, timid, and even more rebellious in adolescence. If you always only belittle and don\’t encourage, the children will become less and less confident. Girls will be easily deceived by boys\’ sweet words when they grow up, and boys will feel inferior and deny themselves when they grow up. If you always take care of your child, he will lack the ability to take care of himself and will not have the opportunity to exercise, which means he will not grow up. When he grows up, he will not only have no autonomy, but will also cling to his old age. The psychological trauma caused by improper education to children is like a brand, which will accompany the development of children throughout their lives. When you always feel that there is something wrong with your child, you should calm down and reflect on whether your usual education is correct. Children\’s problems are a reflection of their parents\’ problems. Children\’s problems are only effects, and the cause lies with the parents. When you find that your child is difficult to discipline, the problem actually started a long time ago. And the reason must be with yourelated to education methods. What hurts the most when the education front is not unified is that parents are their children\’s first teachers and the best role models for their children to imitate. If you want your children to be as good as other people\’s children, you must first become other people\’s parents. In family education, the most taboo thing is that parents have disagreements in front of their children, or even undermine each other. This kind of education method is very detrimental to the establishment of children\’s inner rules. Because parents react differently to the same thing, it will make children confused. Especially for children before the age of 6, it is a critical period for the establishment of various behavioral habits and rules; if the parents\’ education methods are inconsistent and their views on things are different, the children will feel very confused and do not know who to listen to. If this continues for a long time, children will learn to take advantage of loopholes. Whose point of view is beneficial to you, choose the one that is most beneficial to you. There is a watch law in psychology: when a person only wears a watch, he can know what time it is. When he wore two or more watches, he had difficulty determining the exact time and lost confidence in his accuracy. This law tells us that when children have two choices, they usually don’t know which one to choose. When parents disagree, the children will be caught in the middle and not know what to do, which will make the children\’s order more chaotic and make them lose their sense of security. When children do not yet have the ability to distinguish right from wrong, right and wrong come from their parents. If parents maintain a consistent attitude, their children will be able to clearly understand what the principles are and what the bottom line is. As Hu Ke said in the show: \”Parents\’ consistent education is the most effective parenting strategy, which will allow them to reflect and grow in unified values.\” When parents undermine each other, their starting point is for their children, and the result is the greatest harm. The person is also a child. Professor Li Meijin once said: \”To take care of children, you only need one voice.\” When a husband and wife are of the same mind, they are more powerful than gold. Excellent parents know how to \”make alliances\” in education. If the children have problems, we will criticize and educate them together. If the children have bright spots, we will praise and encourage them together. Maintain the same attitude in front of the children and keep the same pace, so as to achieve the best educational effect. Good parents are learned. There are no born successful parents, and there are no parents who do not need to learn. Successful parents are the result of continuous learning and improvement. Educator Suhomlinsky once said: \”Every moment you see your children, you also see yourself; when you educate your children, you educate yourself and test your own personality. We are right as parents, and our children It\’s natural.\” The key to education lies in parents. If you do it well and do it right, your children will naturally imitate it. The essence of family education is actually a \”collusion\” of love between parents. Paving the way for a child\’s growth with love and companionship is the most loving confession parents can make to their children. In the following two aspects, parents can better educate their children by taking good care of themselves. 1. Manage your temper and get angry with your children, destroying their spirituality. If you use your temper to discipline your child, your anger will be transferred to the child\’s head. Day after day, a tight spell will be placed on the child\’s head, destroying the child\’s spirituality. In this world, there is one thing that always loses money, and that is losing your temper.gas. Many parents always like to lose their temper and yell at their children when educating their children. However, this is actually the most ineffective way of education. One point of temper, seven points of hurt. Parents\’ bad temper will really be passed on to their children. The bigger the temper of the parents, the more naughty the children will be, and it will be more difficult to discipline them when they grow up. Dr. Montessori said: \”Every character defect is caused by childhood misfortune.\” What kind of environment creates what kind of child. Instead of getting mad at your kids, spread some positive energy. Parents should manage their tempers well, be determined and adaptable when encountering difficulties, and their children will naturally learn your wisdom in dealing with things. 2. Manage your words and deeds. Children have an ability that we adults cannot see, and that is the absorptive mind. Dr. Montessori mentioned in his original book \”The Absorbent Mind\” that this mind accepts everything without judging, rejecting or responding. It absorbs everything and becomes a part of itself in the mind of the person who is about to form it. The most critical period for the absorptive mind is precisely the first three years of human life, that is, the unconscious absorption stage from 0 to 3 years old. At this stage, anything and language the child comes into contact with will leave an imprint on his brain. Children are all born imitators, and each child\’s appearance is the upbringing of his or her family of origin. Every word, deed, and action of parents will be projected on their children, which will have an impact on their lives. As the educator Rousseau said: A person\’s education begins when he is born. He has been educated before he can speak or listen to others. Behind excellent children stand equally excellent parents, while behind naughty children often stand unqualified parents. Only by becoming better ourselves first can we guide our children to become better people.