How to educate children correctly

Child psychologist Tyman Johnson said: \”Successful tutoring creates successful children, and failed tutoring creates failed children.\” Every child\’s future is in the hands of his parents. A child\’s growth and success is the most important assessment in a parent\’s life. When school starts, many parents think that they can just leave their children to the teachers and focus on their work. However, \”People\’s Daily\” clearly stated: Educating your children well is not just a matter for teachers, but also the most important undertaking in every parent\’s life. How many parents have made money but lost their children. In the documentary \”Guarding Jiefangxi 3\”, a 9-year-old boy named Xiaoyu was caught on the spot by a store clerk after stealing something. When the police arrived, he looked helpless and aggrieved. He kept saying that he had only stolen it once. He also insisted that he was instructed by senior students and that if he didn\’t follow them, he would be beaten. Throughout the narration process, he had clear ideas, clear logic, and various details. Even the police found it difficult to detect any signs of lying in his words. But soon, insiders revealed that everything the boy said were lies fabricated by himself. Not long before the incident, the boy had already stolen something in the store. At that time, his mother stepped in to deal with it, and even his father did not know about it. CCTV recommends more than 500 high-scoring documentaries. The child will become addicted to self-discipline after watching the pattern. On weekdays, my mother has many things to do and is too busy to take care of herself, so she doesn’t want to spend too much time disciplining him. My father is also busy on the construction site all day long. I am so busy that I have no time or energy to understand his situation. Nowadays, the boy is young, telling lies, and even has bad habits of petty theft. Just imagine, if the parents continue to let him go, how disastrous the consequences will be? As a parent, it is understandable that you want to run around more while you are young and strong, earn more money to support your family, and let your children enjoy the best food and drink. But focusing all your attention on work, you miss the golden period of accompanying and educating your children. No matter how much money you make, you can\’t buy a child with upright views and good character. Former U.S. President John F. Kennedy said: “To educate a child improperly is to abandon that child.” Don’t think that working hard to support your family and satisfy your children is the best love for your children. Many times, earning a lot of honor and money but failing to have children is enough to make your later life miserable. No matter how big your career is, it is never more important than your children\’s education. Last year, my cousin, who was an executive in a large company in Shenzhen, decided to give up his high salary and resign and go home to work as a freelancer. My cousin has always been the \”benchmark\” among relatives of his generation. Smart and talented, he graduated from a prestigious 985 university and entered a Fortune 500 company directly without interview after graduation. After working for 5 years, he worked conscientiously and developed rapidly. Not only was he promoted faster than the same period, but even the top leaders appreciated him very much and planned to send him to the Beijing head office to hold important positions. Just when everyone was envious of his successful career, he suddenly decided to resign. As soon as the news came out, everyone was shocked. The reason for his resignation was simple: he was too busy at work and had no time to spend with his daughter. Now his child almost doesn’t recognize him. Think about it, his daughter is more important than a high salary. Some people wonder, wouldn\’t it be better for a man as powerful as him to earn more money to spend on his daughter? But I understand it very well. No responsibilityThere is nothing more important than educating your own children. No matter how big your career is, it is never bigger than the company you have for your children. There is a saying that goes like this: If your children are well educated, you will be a shareholder and they will continue to pay you dividends. If the education is not good, it is a creditor-rights relationship, and you are the debtor. Nowadays, when I see the photos of the family of three that my cousin often posts on WeChat Moments, the happiness overflowing on his face and the intimacy with his cousin and niece are really enviable. In the eyes of others, it is not worth giving up such a good job opportunity. But only he knows that if you miss your child\’s company, it will be gone; if you miss your child\’s education, it will be difficult to correct problems in the future. Speaking of which, I particularly admire Zhou Yimin, who recently became famous again with \”The Game\”. Fans expect him to take advantage of the momentum and make another successful drama to become popular. However, he decided to suspend his work and go home to take care of his daughter because he no longer wanted to be indebted to her for her companionship. Professor Li Meijin said: \”Family support is not only material, but also spiritual support.\” No matter how rich the parents are or how big the family fortune is, it is better to stay with their children wholeheartedly, educate and guide them. Educating children well is the most important thing in a parent\’s life. Japanese educator Dai Ibuka said: \”Educating children is not a pastime or leisure enjoyment, nor is it something that can be easily accomplished by spending money and time.\” For children, There is nothing like the loving guidance and companionship of a parent. No matter what the financial conditions of the parents are or what the living environment is like at this time, when it comes to the education of the children, please be sure to do these three things: 1. Give the children the necessary care. Entrepreneur Kai-fu Lee led his family to leave the United States. After returning to China, he found that The younger daughter is particularly uncomfortable with Chinese education. I can\’t keep up with my studies, have difficulty communicating in language, and often fall into self-doubt. For this reason, no matter how busy Kaifu Lee is, he chats with his daughter as soon as he returns home, constantly encouraging and enlightening her. He also insists on writing letters to give his daughter the strength to grow up with words. Thanks to his meticulous care for his daughter, her daughter gradually regained her confidence and became more and more motivated to study. I also have more trust in him, and I will take the initiative to share with him any questions I have and seek his guidance. The relationship between father and daughter is as close and loving as ever. The writer Su Qin once said: \”Love and trust are not earned, but earned.\” You want to win your child\’s heart and protect him from all malicious intrusions from the outside world. Parents must pay attention to what their children are saying, understand more about what their children are going through, and give them timely attention and guidance. Only in this way will the child know that he is important to his parents, and he will be willing to be close to his parents no matter what happens. 2. Guide children to establish correct three views. In an interview, Guo Jingjing talked about how her husband Huo Qigang spends time with his children: No matter how busy he is every day, he always takes time to be with his children. On weekends, when he doesn\’t have to go to work, he spends almost all his time with his children. During the company, he would take his children to the streets to sell flags for charity, or go to the fields to plant rice to experience the hard work of laborers, or wash his own car in exchange for pocket money. The key to educating children is not to use the authority of parents to force children to become what kind of person they are. Instead, in an atmosphere full of love, we guide the children little by little on what to do and what not to do. There is not enough intimacy, and if you ask your children to obey based on simple principles, the children will only feel offended and ordered.. Only when parents do their part first and provide spiritual nourishment to their children can their children continue to adjust themselves and become popular people in the world. 3. Discipline your children gently but firmly. Some parents worry that if their child has a problem, disciplining him will destroy the love and warmth between parent and child. In fact, what a child needs to know most is what rules and boundaries he needs to abide by, and how his parents will accept him or educate him when he makes a mistake or misbehaves. Gentle but firm discipline, full of love, can also remind children: Even if you have shortcomings, we still love you; if you fall short, we will guide you upward with a responsible attitude for you. A good education should be a combination of kindness and power, so that children can gain their respect and trust. Warren Buffett, the stock god, is not only a leader in the investment world, but also a model for many parents to follow in educating their children. As a successful man who is incredibly wealthy, what he thinks about is not how much money he wants to make so that his descendants can have as much property as they want. Instead, we focus on educating our children from an early age. Do not miss important places with your children, and communicate with your children about what happens every day whenever you have the opportunity. Even when the children are young, they are allowed to do odd jobs to earn money and gain wealth through their own labor. Although he has a lot of wealth and a great career, he does not require his children to follow his old path and lead the same life. Therefore, with his careful companionship and earnest teaching, the three children are all very independent and realize the value of life in their respective fields of expertise. What is the most important investment for parents? There is always only one answer: children. Being a parent is nothing more than hoping that your son will become a dragon and your daughter will become a phoenix. But real success is to spend enough time with your child, train him, and discipline him. So that the child\’s future can continue to increase in value in his own hands and reach the highest peak. Investing in your children is investing in the rest of your life. Educating an excellent child is the greatest wealth in this life.