How to educate children who talk back and disrespect their parents?

Introduction: What is your first reaction when your child talks back for the first time? What do you do to deal with your child talking back? Presumably most parents, when faced with their children talking back, will definitely get angry from the bottom of their hearts. On the one hand, he is angry at the child\’s disobedience, and on the other hand, in order to regain his \”dignity\”, he directly beats and scolds the child to \”clean up\” him. But in fact, this approach is completely wrong. When a child talks back, hits, scolds, or confronts someone head-on, it really has a very negative impact on the child\’s growth, even if it has an \”immediate effect\” at the time. If the child really doesn\’t talk back and obeys him, parents should not be too blindly \”confident\”. Instead, they should be vigilant at this time, because this may be just a temporary \”illusion\”. Case: \”It\’s a bit strange today. Normally, if we let him go to cram school, he wouldn\’t have started arguing long ago. Why are you so honest and didn\’t say anything today?\” After dinner, Xiao Liu and his wife tidied up and went together. Lying on the bed, for some reason, the topic suddenly came to the child, and then I realized that the child\’s behavior today was not quite right. Liu Yang, the child of the Xiao Liu couple, is not an obedient child and always likes to confront his parents. Especially when it comes to attending cram schools, the children refuse to give in. How should parents educate their children? A complete set of 10 volumes of children\’s education mobi+epub+azw3 It is obviously for their own future, but the children always quarrel with their parents and even become violent with family members because of this matter, which gives Xiao Liu and his wife a headache. But this time, the child\’s abnormal behavior was really surprising. \”Maybe it\’s because the child has grown up, or maybe the beating he gave him last time has worked. Anyway, just be obedient!\” After hearing her husband\’s words, the child\’s mother also felt very reasonable. Just be obedient, and said Nothing more was said. But when the summer cram school started, the agency suddenly called: \”Why didn\’t your child come to report? Did he ask for leave?\” For a whole day, Xiao Liu and his wife could not find the child\’s person. Of course, this was not the case. Just the beginning. Throughout the summer vacation, because of the incident at this tutoring institution, the family had no peace of mind. When their children didn\’t go to class, their parents would simply put down their work and look for them. After searching, they would beat them up, and after beating them, they would run away again, and so on, in a vicious circle. Situations like this are not uncommon. When children have conflicts with their parents, parents only know how to put the blame on the children, \”impose\” their own ideas on the children, and blindly use extreme violence such as beating and scolding. Restraining and disciplining children will really hinder their entire growth process. And this method will only lead children to two extremes. 1. Make children become more silent. The first extreme will make children become more silent. When a child becomes silent or obedient, parents should not be complacent and think that this is a sign that the child is obedient and that their spanking and scolding have worked. In fact, once a child encounters this situation, he or she may become \”estranged\” from his or her parents, and may even become sensitive and have low self-esteem. Talking back is not a good thing, but becoming silent is even moreThis is not a good thing. It actually means that the child has closed himself off, making it difficult for parents to communicate with their children, making it even more difficult to discipline them in the future. 2. Make the child become more rebellious. The second stage, which is completely opposite to silence, may make the child become more rebellious. Facing the beating, scolding and discipline of their parents, it directly arouses the child\’s rebellious psychology, making the child become more disobedient and rebellious. Over time, the relationship between the child and his family members becomes increasingly tense, and he may even develop hostility toward his family members. Family members are becoming more and more disappointed with their children, making the entire education process more difficult and extremely detrimental to their growth. Therefore, when faced with their children\’s talk back or resistance, parents should not blindly punish their children. You can try saying these three sentences to your children. The effect will definitely be obvious and the children will benefit for life. •\”Baby, let\’s calm down for a while, okay?\” When problems arise or conflicts arise, once the child talks back to him, it definitely means that the child has complaints in his heart, and it also means that the child is at the peak of his anger at the moment. Faced with this situation, both you and your child need to calm down. Only by calming down for a period of time can you have peaceful communication and better solutions. So parents can say this to help their children learn to calm down, not only to handle this matter correctly, but also to handle other things in life correctly. • \”It doesn\’t matter, kids. We all have different opinions sometimes.\” \”But we can all choose to express it correctly in a peaceful way. Don\’t talk back. Mom, listen to your thoughts first.\” In addition, mothers must learn Communicate peacefully with your children and learn to let them express their emotions in the correct way. Only by giving children an outlet for their emotions can the problem be solved. Not only that, children\’s venting is one aspect, and as parents, we must also learn to listen. Listen to your child\’s ideas. If the child\’s ideas are reasonable, as a parent, you must also respect your child\’s ideas and attitudes to solve the problem. •\”Good baby, let\’s sort it out first and solve the problem.\” Finally, tell the child to sort it out first and solve the problem. This is the case with everything. As long as conflicts and problems arise, we must sort out the source and the essence of the problem. No matter what you face, if you want to solve it, you must sort it out. When there are differences with children, the same principle applies. Calmly analyzing the problem, proposing methods, and solving the problem is the way to go. When your child talks back, do you still beat and scold your child? Don\’t continue like this, otherwise the child will easily fall into two extremes. Learn the above three sentences, first let the child calm down, then listen to the child\’s venting, and finally slowly guide and solve the problem. Not only can it solve the conflict with the child, but it can even benefit the child for life!