How to encourage children’s self-confidence and send them “spiritual red envelopes”

A few days ago, my daughter Mengmeng excitedly reported to me: \”Mom, I have made a lot of progress in this little test. Grandma rewarded me with a red envelope of 66 yuan, and grandpa gave me 99 yuan. You love me the most. How big are you going to give me?\” Red envelope?\” Why is this kid so obsessed with money? I get angry when I hear that. In the past six months, Mengmeng likes to use money to measure everything she does: she wants red envelopes for passing exams, she wants red envelopes for completing homework when she is sick, and she wants red envelopes for helping her parents with housework. If this continues, no! Of course children need encouragement, but giving out red envelopes is really not advisable. When I was worried about how to solve this problem, a parent called me and said that her child had made rapid progress recently, thanks to the \”spiritual red envelope\” I sent him. I suddenly realized that spiritual red envelopes were red envelopes filled with cards. The cards had my signature and seal. I marked various spiritual rewards on them according to the students’ progress: a favorite book, a movie or a movie. An outing, etc. After children get these spiritual red envelopes, they can redeem corresponding rewards from their parents. The motivational effect of the spiritual red envelope is good, the children have made great progress, and the parents are also very happy. Such a good method, why haven’t I used it on my daughter Mengmeng? Thinking of this, I said to Mengmeng: \”You don\’t know, but there is another kind of red envelope that is popular now.\” My daughter was full of doubts, so I struck a chord while the iron was hot: \”If you finish your homework before dinner, mom will reward you with this brand-new red envelope.\” .\” She has always been slow to do her homework, and no matter how much I encourage her, it\’s no use. As soon as she heard that there was a new red envelope, the girl changed her usual dawdling and went to the study room immediately. As expected, she finished her homework before dinner. I gave Mengmeng a spiritual red envelope as agreed. The card said, \”Go dance in the community garden, girl!\” Mengmeng jumped up with joy, and then flew out the door like a swallow. She likes to dance and thinks she is very good at dancing. Mengmeng had a lot of fun that day, and many neighbors praised her for becoming more and more professional in her dancing. That night, Mengmeng said to me: \”Mom, this kind of spiritual red envelope is very good. It is much more interesting than giving money. Please send me more red envelopes like this in the future!\” I nodded and told her: \”As long as you give me three consecutive red envelopes, Do not take any time to do your homework every day, and complete it with high quality within the specified time. I will also reward you with a bigger spiritual red envelope.\” For three consecutive days, Mengmeng did her homework as soon as she came home from school, and she also received my homework as she wished. Big red envelope: I went to the photo studio to take Hanfu photos with my friend Qiqi. Seeing the card in the red envelope, she immediately called Qiqi excitedly. The next morning, as agreed, I took them to buy Hanfu and then take photos. After winning the first battle, I sorted out Mengmeng\’s wishes and set them into spiritual red envelopes of different difficulty levels. If you make small progress, you will be given small red envelopes such as reading comics and doing handicrafts; if you make big progress, you will be given big red envelopes such as buying Hanfu and going on outings. Encouraged by these spiritual red envelopes, Mengmeng gradually got rid of her bad habits of procrastination in homework, untidy and careless writing, and her academic performance improved to a higher level. One day, Mengmeng didn\’t say a word when she came home, and she didn\’t answer any questions she asked. Can you use spiritual red envelopes to help her regulate her emotions? I immediately wrote on the card \”Watch funny cartoons for half an hour\”, and then put it into a red envelope and hid it. After checking Mengmeng\’s homework, I said: \”Today\’s homework is fast and the accuracy rate is high. I will give you a small reward. You can find the red envelope after completing the task! \”The detective is out, one is worth two.\” Mengmeng\’s curiosity was aroused, and she searched the room excitedly. Following the prompts, Mengmeng continued to unlock levels, and finally found the red envelope under the tablecloth. She proudly took the trophy and went to the study. After a while, I heard laughter coming from me, and when I looked closer, I saw that she was watching her favorite cartoon in front of the computer. From then on, when Mengmeng encounters emotional distress, she will get a spiritual red envelope as a reward from me or her father. . In addition to rewards, this special red envelope sometimes contains some tips for regulating emotions, jokes or small gifts that she likes. With their help, Mengmeng becomes more and more confident and sunny, and her academic performance is getting better and better. In fact, for a child, the spiritual red envelope is not just a reward, but more like a dream waiting for him to realize. These dreams are exclusive to him, not distant or indifferent, but within reach, warm and pleasant…