Is sex tougher during pregnancy? The pain of early pregnancy reactions and terrible birth rumors will aggravate the psychological pressure and sexual fear of expectant mothers, thus severely suppressing their sexual desire, and it is not surprising that they may even suffer from sexual frigidity. So, how can we make pregnancy and sex life peacefully coexist during pregnancy?
Professor Zhang Dikai, director of the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology of the Sixth Affiliated Hospital of Sun Yat-sen University, said that sex is a physiological and psychological need of human beings. During the nearly one year from conception to delivery, pregnancy will inevitably have an impact on your sex life. Moderate sexual life and sexual comfort can help both husband and wife maintain a peaceful and stable mood and a harmonious and tacit relationship.
Sexual desire is everything?
Zhang Dikai introduced that during pregnancy, pregnancy itself is an independent factor leading to decreased sexual desire. The decrease in sexual desire in early pregnancy is affected by sexual feelings, and the occurrence of sexual pain strengthens the decrease in sexual desire; the subjective impact on the identification of sexual behaviors shows that the current concept of safe sexual intercourse in the second trimester is accepted by most pregnant women; in the third trimester, as the fetus As age increases, sexual intercourse anxiety increases, leading to premature birth and premature rupture of membranes, resulting in decreased sexual desire.
However, Zhang Dikai pointed out that there will be some women whose sexual desire does not decrease but increases during pregnancy, and some women are more likely to reach orgasm at this time. The reasons may be as follows: First, the hormone levels in women’s bodies change during pregnancy, which will make the expectant mother’s skin smoother, her hair thicker and shiny, and her appearance better than before, making her more confident and passionate. Go enjoy sex. Secondly, during pregnancy, especially in the second trimester, vaginal secretions increase, breasts become plump, vulva congestion accelerates, vulva sensitivity increases, and sexual desire often increases greatly. At this point, sex feels good.
So, how do expectant mothers enjoy love during the different stages of pregnancy?
Early pregnancy: using emotion instead of sex
During the first three months of pregnancy, it is often called the first trimester. During this period, the placenta gradually forms and is in an unstable state, so threatened abortion or miscarriage is most likely to occur. At this stage, couples need to be most cautious in their sexual life. The embryo at this time is like a flower bud. Whether it is squeezed by an external force on the abdomen or hits the cervix in the vagina, the bud may die prematurely. For the safety of the fetus in the womb, you may wish to use love (such as sweet whispers, passionate kisses, gentle touches, skin-to-skin hugs, etc.) instead of sexual intercourse during the early stages of pregnancy.
If the expectant mother\’s pregnancy reaction is not obvious and her body is in good condition in all aspects, her husband must move gently when enjoying sex. Zhang Dikai has repeatedly emphasized that the safety of the fetus must be put first at this time and not get carried away.
Second trimester: appropriate sexual behavior
The 4-6 months of pregnancy are called the second trimester. Although the second trimester is the most suitable stage for sex during pregnancy, you still have to be careful not to dive too deep, especially after pregnancy, your wife will become bloated.In order to avoid squeezing the baby in the abdomen, traditional sexual positions make her feel uncomfortable and difficult to obtain pleasure. Therefore, it is best to avoid the conventional position in which the man presses on the woman. Lying on the side seems to be more suitable for pregnant women, which allows both parties to obtain greater sexual pleasure. Pleasurable without harming the fetus. But the movements should be gentle and the emotions should be controlled at the same time. Zhang Dikai said that too intense emotions often lead to disorders and fluctuations in sex hormone secretion, which can stimulate uterine contraction and affect fetal gas. In addition, sex time should not be too long to avoid fatigue in pregnant women.
Late pregnancy: cut, stop, love
The third trimester refers to the last three months of pregnancy. At this time, pregnant women have a big belly, back pain, and heavy body. At the same time, they become lazy, unwilling to move, and their sexual desire is reduced. At this time, the number of sexual intercourse should be reduced and then stopped. When you first enter the 7th month of pregnancy, you can still have sex, but you should avoid compressing the abdomen. After 9 months of pregnancy, this is the most important period for a stable pregnancy. Generally speaking, having sex can easily cause uterine contractions and lead to premature birth. Sexual intercourse and sexual stimulation must be prohibited at this time.
Zhang Dikai said that pregnant women are prone to mood swings during pregnancy because their views on things change. Once this change is not understood by their husbands, their fragile emotional support will tilt. Therefore, husbands should understand and work together to adjust the way they express love.