How to guide children to have the correct attitude towards competition

Competition is something that everyone will inevitably encounter in their lives. It is precisely because of competition and survival of the fittest that human society can continue to develop in a better direction. Children will also face a lot of competition when they grow up, ranging from competition in entrance exams to competitions for class cadres. Guiding children to understand and face competition with a correct attitude from an early age is an important step in helping children form a good mentality and sound personality. It will also have an important impact on the long-term development of children throughout their lives. First of all, parents themselves must have a correct attitude towards competition and not inspire their children\’s unhealthy competitive mentality due to comparison. Some parents are influenced by the utilitarian mentality of education. They always like to compare their children with other people\’s children, or give bad guidance to their children in their words and deeds. For example, when a child comes home with a test paper that he did well in the exam, he happily reports it to his parents. The parent\’s response is not to acknowledge the child\’s efforts and results, but to ask him: \”How many classmates\’ scores exceeded yours in this exam?\” If things continue like this, on the one hand, children\’s enthusiasm for learning will be affected, and on the other hand, their learning motivation will deviate. Instead of aiming to improve and improve themselves, the goal is to surpass other students. When a child one day discovers that no matter how hard he tries, he cannot meet his parents\’ standards and expectations, nor can he surpass all his classmates, he will feel powerless or even desperate. And if parents can have the correct concept, they should not always compare their children horizontally, but guide their children to compare with themselves more. As long as they have made progress compared to their past selves, it is worth encouraging. In this way, the children will also form a correct understanding of themselves and competition. , you will be more motivated to pursue new goals and progress. Secondly, we should guide children to view competition from a positive perspective and turn competition into a motivation to motivate themselves to make progress. Competition itself is not a bad thing. It can help people see their own strengths and weaknesses more clearly, help people inspire their own potential, and help people find the goal and direction of their efforts. However, if you cannot face competition correctly, it will easily bring negative effects to people, such as jealousy towards people who perform better than you in some aspects. The consequences of this are firstly self-denial and destroying your inner peace, and secondly not being able to Instead of thinking about how to improve yourself, you think about how to suppress others, thereby destroying relationships with others. A survey on the psychological problems of primary and secondary school students found that feelings of inferiority and jealousy caused by comparing with others are one of the more obvious psychological problems among primary and secondary school students. Parents need to guide their children to understand competition from a positive perspective, encourage them to win competition through their own efforts and fair means, and make themselves better by humbly learning the strengths of others or competitors. Secondly, we must guide children to establish a correct concept of winning and losing, and to face and accept failure with a rational attitude. When many children face competition or competition in life, they can only win but not lose. Once they lose, they cannot accept it or even collapse. The attitude towards winning or losing can well reflect a child\’s mental toughness and ability to resist frustration. In competition or competition, winning or losing is inevitable. At this time, parents can use this opportunity to cultivate their children\’s correct understanding of competition and the ability to actively deal with setbacks; they can tell their children that failureIt is also an opportunity for your own growth. You can sum up your experience and learn from it so that you will not make the same mistakes next time. In addition, in daily life, parents need to let their children experience life and learn to face difficulties and solve problems. They should not over-protect their children, let alone take over everything. Children\’s self-confidence and anti-frustration ability are accumulated and exercised in the process of overcoming difficulties one after another. Finally, cultivate children\’s broad-mindedness and cooperative spirit, and do not cultivate them into refined egoists. The fundamental task of education is to cultivate moral character and cultivate people. Regardless of school, family or society, we should never forget what our ultimate educational goal is and what kind of person we want to cultivate our children so that we will not deviate from the right direction during the education process. On the one hand, we must cultivate the spirit of children who are not afraid of challenges and have the courage to face competition, so that children can understand objective reality, view competition correctly, and strive to seize opportunities to improve themselves. On the other hand, we must avoid letting children develop extreme and narrow-minded mentality due to overvaluing the results of competition. , and become an egoist who only has himself and no one else in his heart. For example, in a school sports meeting, a middle school student saw his classmate accidentally falling during a running competition. He chose to help the classmate up and run forward together. Although it may have affected his running performance for a while, the middle school student still had a good time. The love, helpfulness, and broad mind shown in this process are more important and valuable qualities for his long-term development. Parents also need to have a longer-term perspective. They should not only focus on their children\’s temporary gains and losses in exams or academic rankings, but also pay attention to the cultivation of their children\’s sound personality. If a child can become a kind, optimistic, broad-minded and cooperative person, parents can rest assured that he will be welcomed wherever he goes in the future.