How to guide children to learn independently

It can be said that children are able to study independently and complete homework consciously. This can be said to be something that many parents dream of, but it is also something that most children are still unable to do. In fact, it is not that difficult to let children learn independently. For a person to be able to take the initiative to do something well, in fact, only two conditions are needed, one is willingness to do it, and the other is the ability to do it well. If they want their children to learn independently, parents must focus on these two areas. So what exactly should parents do? Strengthen children’s willingness. Before talking about children’s learning problems, let’s first think about it. Under what circumstances would we ourselves be willing to do something? In fact, if something is good for us and has no harm, we will be willing to do it. The benefits and disadvantages can be in terms of interests, such as getting material rewards or punishments; they can also be in terms of mood, such as this thing will make us happy, have a sense of accomplishment, or make us unhappy. Therefore, if we want our children to take the initiative to learn, we must first let them feel the benefits of learning. After learning well, children can get positive looks from around them. Parents can also appropriately set some material rewards, and then give more recognition and encouragement to their children. If a child does not do well, parents should be able to accept and tolerate it, and should not criticize or punish the child. Children will be encouraged to learn well and will not be criticized or punished if they learn poorly. Children will be willing to learn. Encouraging success, accepting failure, and tolerating mistakes are actually parents giving their children a sense of competence, belonging, and security, and building their children\’s underlying learning motivation. What is a sense of competence? The sense of competence is to believe that you can do something well before you have completed it. Children will definitely encounter unknown challenges and difficulties in the learning process, and this prior self-confidence is very critical. When facing difficulties, even if a child is confident, he may still make mistakes and fail. Only when a child feels that he has the opportunity to try and make mistakes, and that he is safe even if he makes a mistake, will he be truly willing to try. Closed Loop of Ability Cultivation Only after children have the willingness to learn can we talk about the cultivation of independent abilities. The cultivation of ability is a closed loop of letting go, accompanying, and reviewing. Letting go is the first step in cultivating children\’s autonomy. What is letting go? Letting go means what the child can do and what is within his scope of responsibility, and let him do it by himself. Letting go is about letting your children show their true ability level. If parents do not let go because they are worried that their children are not doing well, or they dislike their children for not doing well, and then do it for them or control them, this may be faster in the short term, but this will deprive the children of an opportunity to grow. After letting go, parents must accompany their children and keep records. In the process of letting go, children will definitely make a lot of mistakes. At this time, parents must not control or replace them just because they have not done well. Letting go is actually letting the child try and make mistakes. After the trial and error is over, compared with the child\’s performance the day before, there must be some changes in him. Even with some small changes, we can see some small progress in our children. Maybe overall, his performance is still unsatisfactory, but maybe he doesn\’t have thatThere are so many fearful emotions. Maybe he has shown that he wants to learn cognitively, and maybe he has made behavioral progress. Parents should see these improvements and encourage their children. Parents should lead their children to reflect on things they have done poorly. Failure is not the mother of success, review and reflection after failure is. [Value 298 yuan] 30 Lessons on Cultivating Independent Learning Ability Collection Download The Difficulties in the Whole Process Once children have the will to learn and the ability to learn independently, it is actually very simple to think about what learning method to use at this time. But there are also some difficult points in the process of cultivating children\’s abilities. Such as letting go at the beginning. Many parents are afraid to let go, fearing that their children will let go if they let go. In fact, the consequences of not letting go are more troublesome than letting go. Because children will make mistakes sooner or later, and the older the child, the higher the cost of trial and error. Then in the process of letting go, the child may make the mistake again and again. Maybe it\’s still the same two days a day, ten times or twenty times. Therefore, this link is a big test for parents’ patience. In the process of guiding children to reflect, we found that their children\’s progress is also a test for many parents. But this problem is easy to solve. Parents can just keep records during the accompanying process. The more detailed the records, the better. During the reflection process, the most difficult point is that the child is uncooperative and refuses to answer any questions you ask. In fact, the main reason why children do not cooperate is that they do not trust their parents enough. Based on past experience, he felt that as long as he admitted that he was wrong, what would follow would be nagging, blaming, and even punishment from his parents. Because you do not accept or tolerate your children\’s mistakes, your children do not believe you. What parents have to do is to maintain emotional stability and truly accept their children. Throughout the process, a good parent-child relationship and the parents\’ emotional stability are very important. If you want children to be able to take the initiative to learn and complete homework independently, they need two prerequisites: willingness and ability. If you want your children to be willing to learn, parents must encourage success, accept failure, and tolerate mistakes. Once you have the will, you can then talk about cultivating your abilities. The cultivation of independent ability is actually a closed loop of letting go, accompanying, and reviewing. Throughout the entire process, parents\’ emotional stability is very important.