How to help children get rid of the bad habit of \”procrastination\”?

On weekends, Xiaomiao and some classmates played badminton in the Central Park, and several of our mothers also played against each other. The children laughed while playing, and we mothers chatted while playing. This time we are mainly talking about children’s bad habit of procrastination. Why do you feel that all children nowadays are procrastinating so much? One mother said that her child would have to wait until 10:30 pm to do homework every day. While doing homework, he would have to drink water and go to the toilet. His nose would be blocked and his ears would be itchy. There were so many things to do. Another mother said that in the morning When she got up, her child was dragging her feet, getting dressed, brushing her teeth and washing her face. Everything was done in slow motion. She was so angry that she had to lose her temper with her child every morning. Another mother said that her child just wouldn\’t do it. If you are anxious, you will be slow to eat, slow to do homework, and you can’t even push yourself. Our little cat was just a slow snail before, but now, it has improved significantly than before. Xiaomiao has been a slow-tempered person since she was a child. She does everything in a leisurely manner. It is rare to see her in a hurry. Her father and I often say that she is extremely calm. She especially likes to talk when eating. She tells us everything that happened in school in detail. She also forgets to eat as soon as she talks and stops moving with the chopsticks in her hand. After she comes home from school in the afternoon, she first has to take a leisurely stroll. She eats her afternoon tea: ice cream, desserts, snacks, fruits, etc., and while eating, she reads slowly with a book. She often has to finish her afternoon tea and has to read many pages of the book before she starts to do her homework; She also likes to talk when doing homework. She will chat with anyone next to her at any time. After finishing a homework, she will shout to rest her eyes and hands, and run to the balcony to play with the hedgehog for more than ten minutes. When taking a bath, she forgets to take a towel. She forgot to bring her pajamas in. After finally getting ready, she slowly took off her clothes and took a shower. She sang while taking a shower and freed up one hand to draw and write on the mist-filled shower door; urging her before going to bed. When she went to brush her teeth, it was as if some mechanism had been triggered. She would definitely remember that she still had some fruit that she had not eaten, and would insist on finishing it before brushing her teeth. After brushing her teeth, she wanted to feed the goldfish, and she picked up the little ones with tweezers. We feed the small fish food one by one, chatting with the two small goldfish while feeding. It will never be finished in less than 20 minutes… It is already half past ten when she goes to bed every day, and we are worried that she does not get enough sleep. , often anxious to death, rarely complaining about her. When she heard our complaints, she felt unhappy. She always said that we only knew how to push, which made her feel very uncomfortable. In order to get her to get rid of this bad habit of procrastination, we put a lot of thought into it. Since she was in kindergarten, I have bought her a watch, taught her how to tell time, and told her that \”every inch of time is worth every inch of gold\” and to cherish time; I have tempted her and told her that there will be rewards for completing something within the specified time; I have threatened her, He told her that if she kept procrastinating, she would cancel the opportunity to go out for pizza every weekend…but it didn\’t seem to have any effect. She was still slow, and when we urged her, she plausibly told us not to disrupt her rhythm. Her rhythm was so slow that it really choked me and her father half to death. During the summer vacation, she had more time to read and draw, and she didn’t impose any special demands on her sleeping time. She often got it without any scruples.Go to bed very late. After the semester started, the workload increased, but she still wanted to have a lot of time to read and draw every day. Now trouble came, and she found that she really didn\’t have enough time. In the first few days of school, she still ate her afternoon tea slowly after school, which took more than half an hour; then she took her time doing her homework and taking a shower. When she came out of the shower, she took out a book and leaned comfortably on the sofa to start reading. We reminded her that it was already ten o\’clock and it was time to brush her teeth and go to bed. She was stunned for a moment. She couldn\’t accept that time passed so fast. She almost burst into tears. She said, \”I had already planned to read and draw after taking a bath. What should I do? I have been reading and painting all day long.\” I went to bed like this without doing my favorite thing. I feel that this day has no meaning at all.\” I expressed my sympathy for her, but I really couldn\’t help her. I comforted her and said: \”Today It\’s not possible. It\’s too late. We have to go to school tomorrow. You should hurry up tomorrow and do things faster. Don\’t procrastinate. Anyway, it\’s time to brush your teeth and go to bed at ten o\’clock. You can do whatever you want before ten o\’clock. Anything is possible.\” The next day, she moved a little faster, but when she came out of the shower, it was already ten o\’clock with only fifteen minutes left. She took out her notebook and pen and just drew the outline of a kitten when the time came. I still expressed my sympathy for her, but also insisted that she brush her teeth and go to bed on time. She became anxious and said, \”Mom, give me another five minutes. I want to talk to you for five minutes.\” I asked her what she wanted to talk about, and she said, \”Mom, I feel like I have taken the time today. Why is there still not enough time? How can I squeeze out time?\” I heard her use the word \”squeeze\” and asked her if she had ever heard of Mr. Lu Xun\’s famous saying about squeezing out time. She thought for a moment and asked if it was the sentence \”Time is like water in a sponge, as long as you are willing to squeeze, there will always be time.\” I said, \”Yes, that\’s the sentence. Think about whether you have room for it.\” Make time?\” She thought for a while and said, \”In this way, I still have many places where I can squeeze out some time. From now on, I will talk less and eat faster when eating, and I will not talk when doing homework. I don\’t go to tease the hedgehogs, and I don\’t drink water in between. I should be able to squeeze in some time.\” I said: \”You try it tomorrow and see. As long as you squeeze out the spare time, that time will be yours. Do whatever you want.\” She nodded. I continued to give her suggestions: \”You can set a time plan for each task, for example, get dressed within five minutes; brush your teeth and wash your face within five minutes; complete the oral arithmetic problem in ten minutes; a Finish the composition within an hour…\” She said in embarrassment: \”Then what if I exceed the time?\” I said: \”If you exceed the time for any item, you should seize the time for the next item and try to make the time. Grab it back. Slowly you will find that as long as you start paying attention to time, your movements will speed up and time will become abundant, so that you have time to do what you love.\” She heard that this way you will have time. She was very happy doing what she loved and said she wanted to try it. When chatting before going to bed, I said: \”I willLet me teach you a secret, that is time management. She asked: \”What is time coordination?\” \”I said: \”It\’s about allocating time scientifically. Let me give you a few examples. You turn on the computer and prepare to practice ROSETTA STONE. When the computer is turned on, you can do a few math problems or Olympiad questions. If you are tired from doing Chinese homework and want to take a break, you can do some math homework or English homework to change your thinking. Think about it for yourself, how else can you arrange time? She said: \”I can look at the English reading questions while having afternoon tea. They are relatively short and will not waste time.\” Also, since I don’t take a nap at noon anyway, I will type out the draft of the composition I want to write every day, and then I can transcribe the composition as soon as school is over in the afternoon. Mom, do you think you can squeeze in some time like this? \”I praised her for these good ideas. I can certainly squeeze out more time and let her sleep quickly. We will see if the effect is good tomorrow. The next day, she felt very good when she got up in the morning. She got up on time at one o\’clock. She had packed up and was sitting in the living room listening to New Concept English at 7:10. At 7:25 she went out to have breakfast and go to school. After lunch, she began to immerse herself in writing a draft of her composition, unlike before. I had some fun; I ate an ice cream after I got home from school in the afternoon, took out my homework from my schoolbag while eating the ice cream, and quickly transcribed my composition after eating; I stopped gossiping with us when I was doing my homework, and we were very cooperative. Hanging around her or talking and chatting, each doing their own thing; she also went much faster when eating, without saying a few gossips, and went into the room to do homework after eating, and finally finished her homework before nine o\’clock, packed her schoolbag and washed After taking a bath. She was so proud! She hummed a song and allocated the hour she had squeezed out: reading for half an hour, painting for half an hour. As soon as ten o\’clock came that day, she took the initiative to go She brushed her teeth. When chatting before going to bed, she was very satisfied and said that she felt that she had done a lot of things she liked that day, so that she felt that the day was not in vain. She sighed: \”It turns out that time can really be squeezed out. ! Mr. Lu Xun was right! \”I reminded her that this is just the beginning. In the future, there will be more and more homework, and time will become harder and harder to squeeze. I hope she will learn to manage time scientifically from now on and become the master of time. I told her: When doing homework, think first Order your homework well and do it in that order; make the necessary preparations before doing your homework. Once you start doing your homework, don\’t get up to find an eraser, change refills, drink water or eat; after you finish your homework, follow the instructions for the next day. After the class schedule, she packs her schoolbag; then the remaining time is at her disposal. The less time she spends writing homework, the more time she can freely spend next; and the more time she has at her disposal, the happier she will be. The more. She nodded and said yes, she just wanted to have more time at her disposal. That being said, she was still a child after all, and sometimes it was inevitable that she would get carried away. Now every time I see her, she is a little bit younger. After procrastination, I reminded: “What? Don\’t you want to have some free time today? \”She reacted immediately and speeded up to do the task at hand. It seemed that she needed to get rid of the bad habit of procrastination.Not only do children need to be aware of the preciousness and limitation of time, but parents also need to provide corresponding guidance and supervision, and persevere.