How to improve children\’s self-discipline ability?

Some time ago, I became a fan of an 8-year-old boy. He is a primary school student who insists on getting up at 6:30 every day to wash up and then read in the morning. He has been doing this for 400 days now. At first, the child couldn\’t stick to it, but his mother reminded him and supervised him every day, and he gradually developed a habit. In the past, children also loved watching TV, and mothers would read books by themselves to set an example for their children. Later, under the influence of the family atmosphere, the child gradually fell in love with reading. After the first grade, the TV was not turned on at home. When I come back at noon every day, the child will sit on the sofa and read by himself. Sometimes he cries and sometimes he laughs. He would also chase his mother with a book and say: \”This book is very good. Mom, you should also read it.\” Psychologist Seidez said: German mother\’s experience in teaching integrity and self-discipline: Teach strong + independent + A good child who is tolerant and thrifty. \”People are like ceramics. When they are young, they will form the prototype of their lives.\” Every child is born to enjoy and pursue comfort. Especially in the learning process, children are used to fearing difficulties and always want to give up, but their parents are determined This cannot be left to chance. Self-disciplined children are not born, but are nurtured by their parents. Children will never learn on their own initiative unless parents push them behind. There was once a father who secretly filmed the entire process of his children doing homework. Sometimes he would push the door, sometimes he would tap the wall, he would be distracted, in a daze, go to the toilet, and do all kinds of little things, but he would not do his homework. Of the total 9 minutes, the child actually spent only more than 2 minutes on homework. Many parents exclaimed: \”It\’s like seeing their own children.\” Yes, what this child exposed is actually a common problem among countless children. They have poor self-discipline and low ability to learn independently. Once they lack the supervision and discipline of their parents, it is easy to lose control of themselves. There was a poll on Weibo on \”How do primary and secondary school students spend their holidays?\” and the results showed that 80% of children chose to fill their lives with sleeping, eating, and playing games. Laziness is human nature, and children are no exception. Studies have shown that before a child is 6 years old, the prefrontal cortex of the brain is immature, the learning motivation is unclear, and the self-control is very weak. There is a sentence in \”Tsinghua University Scholars\’ Guide to Teaching Their Children\”: \”Parents must understand that children lack self-control when they are young. It is normal to not take the initiative when it comes to difficult things such as learning, but it is abnormal to take the initiative.\” So he is too lazy to study, procrastinates and doesn\’t want to do anything. Writing homework is normal. If at this time, parents, as the \”first person responsible\” for their children, choose to let go, the children will only become more and more unscrupulous and indulge themselves. If parents don\’t push their children behind, their children will never learn to learn on their own initiative. There is a mother who always believes that her children have a sense of responsibility for themselves. So she never cares what time her daughter gets up, goes to bed, or studies. She does not force or ask for her daughter\’s academic performance. She believes that it is more important for children to be interested. As a result, within three years, my daughter’s grades plummeted and she was at the bottom of the class. During the time when she indulged her child, her daughter also became obsessed with playing games. She was late for school, distracted in class, and spent most of her time playing games every day. Her daughter even secretly charged thousands of dollars into the game behind her back. NoChildren who are born with self-consciousness are more or less inert in every child. An education expert once said: \”Children can be willful, but adults cannot give up the responsibility of supervision.\” The reason why children are children lies in their lack of consciousness. They always feel that sleeping in in class is not as comfortable as sleeping in class, and doing homework is not as easy as scrolling through their mobile phones. Therefore, it is even more necessary for parents to set rules and supervise at all times to help children eliminate the willfulness and looseness in their nature. Every child who is self-conscious and self-disciplined is a second-grade child who is \”controlled\”. How self-discipline can he be? She insists on getting up at 6:30 and starts reading in the morning; she does not need her parents to watch her, and takes the initiative to finish her homework as soon as she gets home; she insists on practicing calligraphy, exercising, and reading every day… She has persisted in these habits for several years. Untouchable. But her good habits didn\’t come from the beginning. Behind this is actually her parents\’ tireless discipline, restraint and supervision. Her mother has set a series of house rules for her since she was a child, requiring her children to strictly abide by them. She will also make study plans for her and complete them with her children every day. Slowly, the girl develops the habit of self-discipline. Every child who takes the initiative to learn and is self-disciplined is actually \”managed\” by his parents. Just like the mother of Yang Chenyu, the top scorer in the college entrance examination, said: \”You must help your child develop habits when he has no ability to think independently; the process of supervision is painful because you have to keep an eye on him all the time; but after the child is finalized, the future of the child will The road will be easy.\” The starting point for children\’s self-discipline must be the \”heteronomy\” of their parents. Yi Yang Qianxi\’s mother enrolled him in more than a dozen interest classes when he was 2 years old, and took him to classes rain or shine. That\’s why he is now a young man who is good at singing and dancing, has superb acting skills, and is extremely self-disciplined. Dong Qing\’s father asked her to copy idioms and memorize ancient poems every day since she was a child, and asked her to get up and run before dawn. So to this day, she still insists on reading for an hour every day. There are no electronic products in the bedroom, only books. Their parents have very strict education methods, but behind this cruelty and ruthlessness is actually the greatest vision of parents: to let their children turn self-discipline into a way of life. How can a child know that if he is unwilling to endure hardship and study now, he will suffer so much contempt from others and hardships in life in the future. There is a sentence in \”Reading Notes\” that says: \”All babies are born equal. No one can speak, count, read or write, but these children are not equal when they enter kindergarten. Differences The reason is whether their parents try their best to cultivate them or just watch them grow up.\” Behind a child who is self-disciplined and conscious, there must be a parent who is strict in discipline. Giving children too much freedom is the greatest irresponsibility for children. Because a child without self-discipline will only run slower and slower on the track of life, and will eventually be left far behind. The earlier children develop the habit of self-discipline, the better. Liu Xuan once caused controversy for her \”iron-blooded education\”. The schedule she gave her son was full except for sleeping, and she only showed the child 15 minutes of cartoons a day. Many netizens accused her of being too harsh on her children. After all, her son is only 4 years old. But Liu Xuan thinks: This is for the childrenEstablish rules and self-discipline. Children can only become conscious when they grow up. \”Calvert\’s Education\” said: \”A good habit is easy to form when children are young, but it is difficult to develop it when they grow up. On the contrary, if children have many bad habits when they are young, they will grow up. It is difficult to break it when you grow up.\” Therefore, the sooner children develop the habit of self-discipline, the better. The habit of active learning. If you want your children to develop the habit of active learning, the key is not to urge parents, but to establish rules in advance. Guo Jingjing is a very strict \”tiger mother\” who pays special attention to the cultivation of her children\’s habits. The rules she set for her children were non-negotiable. Even if grandpa Huo Zhenting comes to see the children, she requires the children to finish their homework before playing. She said: \”I hope that children can develop good habits and not do whatever they want. This is also not good for the child\’s growth.\” When children are young, parents should formulate corresponding rules and accompany their children to strictly implement them, such as completing homework. Before you can play, you must check your homework after completing it, you must review and preview every day, etc. Letting rules urge children to take the initiative to learn is more effective than parents nagging behind. Habits of time management Many children are always used to procrastination: homework due on Monday always has to be put off until Sunday night; parents don’t urge them to get up, so they think it doesn’t matter if they are a few minutes late. Children don’t always know when to study, when to play, and what they will miss if they are late. Therefore, parents must cultivate their children\’s self-management ability early on. Deng Mingyang, the gold medal winner of the 60th International Mathematics Competition, once shared his holiday schedule. He arranges his study, reading, and exercise time in an orderly manner, and sets several small goals for himself every week, such as reading a few extracurricular books. The reason why he has such strong time management ability is inseparable from his mother\’s education. When he was very young, his mother taught him to make a daily schedule. When making plans, my mother will fully respect his ideas and only give some suggestions. His mother is responsible for supervising him every day, and will reward him with corresponding points every time he completes a plan. He feels that he has a sense of accomplishment every day, and he has unconsciously developed a good sense of time and developed the habit of managing his own time. Bai Yansong, who insists on reading, once said that he liked reading very much when he was a child. He would read both adult and children\’s books. He also used his mother\’s two reading cards to borrow books everywhere, and gradually developed a reading habit, which has stayed with him to this day. It was reading that made him what he is today. Under the influence of Bai Yansong, his son also became a little book lover, and the room was filled with various books. Teacher Yin Jianli said that parents should work hard with their children to cultivate reading habits. There is a father in Hunan who built a home library in order to make his son fall in love with reading. When my son was 2 years old, his book collection reached 20,000 volumes. Now, ten years later, my son has become the most loyal reader. Only by reading with your children and creating a good reading atmosphere for them can you cultivate children who love reading. Sergey Mikhalkov said: \”No matter the childChildren\’s families and schools are so interesting, but if we don\’t read some beautiful, interesting and precious books, it will be like being deprived of the most precious treasure of childhood, and the loss will be irreparable. \”Knowledge affects vision, vision determines the pattern, and the pattern affects the child\’s future life. Good reading habits can benefit children for a lifetime. The famous educationist Ushinsky said: \”If you develop good habits, you will enjoy them throughout your life. If you don’t make up the interest it brings you, if you develop bad habits, you’ll be paying off endless debt throughout your life. \”If parents fail to discipline their children in time when they are young and let laziness become the child\’s normal state, then when they grow up, they will completely lose their competitiveness and fall into mediocrity. It is instinct for children not to be self-disciplined, and it is their parents\’ ability to make them self-disciplined. Helping children develop good habits and letting self-discipline take root in their hearts is the true love that parents have for their children.