How to improve family happiness

What is home? Home is a place where you can completely relax and spend most of your life at home. The happiness of a family cannot be separated from the efforts of every family member. If you want to improve family happiness, what people have to do may be to start with the simplest little things. The German writer Lorelis Singerhof once wrote in a book: \”A life with a sense of ritual allows us to have a real sense of existence. It is not about leaving any impression on others, but in our own hearts.\” To truly perceive life and face life with enthusiasm.\” Adding some sense of ritual to life is the most direct way to improve happiness. There is a father abroad. For 15 years, he and his daughter have taken pictures in the same position in the same place on the streets of New York every year. From a little baby to a grown-up girl who can barely hold her arms, these 15 photos bear witness to her daughter’s growth. The white hair on my father’s head also tells the ruthlessness of the years. Essentials for family education: How to encourage children’s progress and self-confidence, all 70 episodes. The father’s persistence makes his daughter feel full of love: “When my father held me and took pictures, my heart was so happy that it almost jumped out of my head.” This is the sense of ritual. Charm makes the ordinary life interesting. Although the sense of ritual seems to be just a superficial form, it invisibly gives a family many precious memories. Take festivals as an example. In the past, apart from birthdays, the most anticipated days for children were the Chinese New Year. New clothes and lucky money not only reflected the warmth of family affection, but also represented that they were valued and loved at home. But now when we mention the New Year, we often add: the flavor of the New Year is getting weaker and weaker. Part of the reason is that we no longer pay attention to rituals. Some people feel that it is a long journey and simply do not go home during the New Year; some people feel that it is troublesome to prepare New Year\’s goods, so they simply keep everything simple; some people feel that preparing for the New Year\’s Eve dinner is too tiring, so they simply do it in a restaurant. A meal… There is less sense of ritual, the flavor of the New Year is weak, and the sense of happiness is not as strong as before. The sense of ritual in ordinary life can really not be too troublesome sometimes. Chinese people are not good at expressing love directly, but the sense of ritual gives us another opportunity to express love. And the sense of ritual in life does not require much material foundation. A bouquet of flowers, an exquisite lunch, a small gift, a good night kiss, a hug… can make the other person feel your love for him/her. . Our respect and love for life are hidden in these little ritualistic things. Paying Attention to Companionship A few years ago, there was a public welfare short film that told a story about a shared father. The male protagonist is named William, who has worked for a company called \”Sharing Dad\” for three years. He has been the \”father\” of other people\’s children more than 200 times, performing the task of accompanying their children. When it was William\’s son\’s birthday, he was busy with work and had no time to spend with his son, so his wife also rented a shared dad to celebrate his birthday with his son. The shared dad whom my wife rented was William\’s colleague. He completed the accompanying task very professionally, and his son\’s birthday was very happy. After William returned home, he looked at the happy \”family\” from the window and had mixed feelings. After that day, William changed his job, and he suddenly discovered: \”In this era, everything can be shared. But love for family can only be customized.\” WhenYou miss the company of your family because of your work, and the lost love and happiness cannot be bought back by money. Work and family are not a contradiction. High-quality companionship does not require a lot of time. Even if you take time to eat with your family every week, tell stories to your children before going to bed, or take time to go camping or visit bookstores on weekends, they are all precious. moment. Sitting together as a family and chatting about the trivial matters of life is actually when happiness is closest to us. Companionship never lies to happiness. As long as you are sincere and attentive enough, your family will be easily satisfied. Family is always the most worthy of your time. Take the initiative to create a good living environment. A friend around you will clean the room, tidy up the room, and throw the garbage into the trash can every time he is in a bad mood, just like throwing away the bad mood. In his opinion, tidying up and cleaning is a way to relieve stress. Every time he sees the small house tidied up, he simply feels happy and satisfied. Another friend lives a completely opposite life. Neither of them like tidying up. There are sundries, snack bags and unfinished drink bottles everywhere on the table. The sofa is piled with clothes. When we went to his house as a guest, we even had to clean up the place where we sat for a long time. The room is disorderly and chaotic, and a family of four squeezed into a small space makes it even more lifeless. The children like to procrastinate and the adults get angry at every turn. The couple often complains about the pressure and difficulty of life. In fact, the environment they live in also injects full of negative energy into their lives. If a person stays in a home that is always dirty and messy for a long time, they will lose their energy. One study found that successful people with a strong sense of happiness tend to have very clean and tidy home environments; while unfortunate people usually live in messy and dirty homes. Simply put, the room we live in is the projection of life. Writer Mitsuhiro Sumida also reminds us in the book \”Cleaning Power\”: Cleaning a room full of stuff and dirt can drive out all the negative energy in the room. She used the entrance hall as an analogy: go home The first thing I saw after that was the entrance hall. People often go home with stress, and if the entrance is dirty, it will aggravate this stress. A clean environment will make people more motivated to work and motivated to live. A cluttered living environment can make your family life look even worse. Will respond promptly and positively to the feelings of family members. Freud told a story in his \”Three Essays on Sexuality\”: A boy shouted in a dark room: Auntie, talk to me! I\’m afraid, it\’s too dark here. The aunt responded: What\’s the use of doing that? You can\’t see me. The boy replied: It doesn\’t matter, someone speaking brings light. In the family, both adults and children are eager to be responded to and seen by their family members in a timely manner. The reason why many families have endless conflicts is that they lack understanding and response. There is a saying on the Internet: \”The way to express people who feel more secure than I love you is: everything is explained, everything is settled, and everything is responded to.\” The child pointed to the building blocks he had just completed: \”Mom, look !\” He hoped that his mother would squat down and respond to him: \”I see, you put a lot of effort into finishing it!\” His wife had been cleaning all day and was so tired that she didn\’t even take a sip of water. She hoped to get off workThe husband who comes home can understand himself: \”You have worked hard today. Please don\’t cook tonight. You are too tired. Let\’s go out to eat!\” When the husband plans a family trip, the wife praises her with adoration: \”Your The guide was done very seriously, and we are really looking forward to our trip.\” These simple responses mean: I see you, your needs, and your difficulties. A happy family must be responsive to love. Each family member should have his own interests and hobbies. A young man once said to his parents: \”Mom and Dad, I hope you also have your own life.\” In many Chinese families, the most familiar sentence is : \”I live this life just for my children.\” What seems like selfless love is actually very cruel. They give up their independent lives and devote all their hope and happiness to their children and families, but rarely pay attention to their own needs. In this process, the children feel pressure, and the parents feel the grievance that their love is not understood. In the end, resentment will envelope the entire family. Therefore, if we want a happy family, we must also spend some time on ourselves. After all, if you are not in a good state, it is difficult to be in a good mood to treat your family. As for how to do it, it\’s very simple – in family life, everyone has to find things that really make them like and feel pleasure. Psychologist Daniel Kahneman proposed four elements of happiness from a psychological perspective, the last of which is: the feeling of pleasure. When we like something and take action, we naturally feel pleasure. For example, eating your favorite food, meeting friends you haven’t seen for a long time, going on a trip… No matter how busy we are with raising children, or how tiring we are at work, we all need to have our own space and time to find such pleasant moments and give ourselves some breathing space. Chance. A family is a whole, and only when every member is happy can it be called a happy family. Live your own life well, live healthily and happily, and it is also a profound love for your family. What is home? Home is a place where you can completely relax and spend most of your life at home. The happiness of a family cannot be separated from the efforts of every family member. If you want to improve family happiness, what people have to do may be to start with the simplest little things. The German writer Lorelis Singerhof once wrote in a book: \”A life with a sense of ritual allows us to have a real sense of existence. It is not about leaving any impression on others, but in our own hearts.\” To truly perceive life and face life with enthusiasm.\” Adding some sense of ritual to life is the most direct way to improve happiness. There is a father abroad. For 15 years, he and his daughter have taken pictures in the same position in the same place on the streets of New York every year. From a little baby to a grown-up girl who can barely hold her arms, these 15 photos bear witness to her daughter’s growth. The white hair on my father’s head also tells the ruthlessness of the years. The father\’s persistence made his daughter feel full of love: \”When my father held me and took pictures, my heart almost jumped out of happiness.\” This is the charm of the sense of ritual, which makes the ordinary life more interesting. Although the sense of ritual seems to be only superficialIn form, but invisibly, it gave a family many precious memories. Take festivals as an example. In the past, apart from birthdays, the most anticipated days for children were the Chinese New Year. New clothes and lucky money not only reflected the warmth of family affection, but also represented that they were valued and loved at home. But now when we mention the New Year, we often add: the flavor of the New Year is getting weaker and weaker. Part of the reason is that we no longer pay attention to rituals. Some people feel that it is a long journey and simply do not go home during the New Year; some people feel that it is troublesome to prepare New Year\’s goods, so they simply keep everything simple; some people feel that preparing for the New Year\’s Eve dinner is too tiring, so they simply do it in a restaurant. A meal… There is less sense of ritual, the flavor of the New Year is weak, and the sense of happiness is not as strong as before. The sense of ritual in ordinary life can really not be too troublesome sometimes. Chinese people are not good at expressing love directly, but the sense of ritual gives us another opportunity to express love. And the sense of ritual in life does not require much material foundation. A bouquet of flowers, an exquisite lunch, a small gift, a good night kiss, a hug… can make the other person feel your love for him/her. . Our respect and love for life are hidden in these little ritualistic things. Paying Attention to Companionship A few years ago, there was a public welfare short film that told a story about a shared father. The male protagonist is named William, who has worked for a company called \”Sharing Dad\” for three years. He has been the \”father\” of other people\’s children more than 200 times, performing the task of accompanying their children. When it was William\’s son\’s birthday, he was busy with work and had no time to spend with his son, so his wife also rented a shared dad to celebrate his birthday with his son. The shared dad whom my wife rented was William\’s colleague. He completed the accompanying task very professionally, and his son\’s birthday was very happy. After William returned home, he looked at the happy \”family\” from the window and had mixed feelings. After that day, William changed his job, and he suddenly discovered: \”In this era, everything can be shared. But love for family can only be customized.\” When you miss the company of your family because of work, the loss of love and Happiness cannot be bought with money. Work and family are not a contradiction. High-quality companionship does not require a lot of time. Even if you take time to eat with your family every week, tell stories to your children before going to bed, or take time to go camping or visit bookstores on weekends, they are all precious. moment. Sitting together as a family and chatting about the trivial matters of life is actually when happiness is closest to us. Companionship never lies to happiness. As long as you are sincere and attentive enough, your family will be easily satisfied. Family is always the most worthy of your time. Take the initiative to create a good living environment. A friend around you will clean the room, tidy up the room, and throw the garbage into the trash can every time he is in a bad mood, just like throwing away the bad mood. In his opinion, tidying up and cleaning is a way to relieve stress. Every time he sees the small house tidied up, he simply feels happy and satisfied. Another friend lives a completely opposite life. Neither of them like tidying up. There are sundries, snack bags and unfinished drink bottles everywhere on the table. The sofa is piled with clothes. When we went to his house as a guest, we even had to clean up the place where we sat for a long time. The room was disorderly and chaotic, with a family of four crowded togetherThe small space seems even more lifeless. Children like to procrastinate, adults get angry at every turn, and the couple often complains about the pressure and difficulty of life. In fact, the environment they live in also injects full of negative energy into their lives. If a person stays in a home that is always dirty and messy for a long time, they will lose their energy. One study found that successful people with a strong sense of happiness tend to have very clean and tidy home environments; while unfortunate people usually live in messy and dirty homes. Simply put, the room we live in is the projection of life. Writer Mitsuhiro Sumida also reminds us in the book \”Cleaning Power\”: Cleaning a room full of stuff and dirt can drive out all the negative energy in the room. She used the entrance hall as an analogy: go home The first thing I saw after that was the entrance hall. People often go home with stress, and if the entrance is dirty, it will aggravate this stress. A clean environment will make people more motivated to work and motivated to live. A cluttered living environment can make your family life look even worse. Will respond promptly and positively to the feelings of family members. Freud told a story in his \”Three Essays on Sexuality\”: A boy shouted in a dark room: Auntie, talk to me! I\’m afraid, it\’s too dark here. The aunt responded: What\’s the use of doing that? You can\’t see me. The boy replied: It doesn\’t matter, someone speaking brings light. In the family, both adults and children are eager to be responded to and seen by their family members in a timely manner. The reason why many families have endless conflicts is that they lack understanding and response. There is a saying on the Internet: \”The way to express people who feel more secure than I love you is: everything is explained, everything is settled, and everything is responded to.\” The child pointed to the building blocks he had just completed: \”Mom, look !\” He hoped that his mother would squat down and respond to him: \”I see, you put a lot of thought into finishing it!\” His wife had been cleaning all day and was so tired that she didn\’t even take a sip of water. She hoped that her husband would understand when he came home from work. Self: \”I\’ve worked really hard on you today. Don\’t cook tonight. I\’m too tired. Let\’s go out to eat!\” When the husband planned a family trip, the wife praised her with admiration: \”You are so serious about your strategy. , I’m really looking forward to our trip.” These simple responses mean: I see you, your needs, and your difficulties. A happy family must be responsive to love. Each family member should have his own interests and hobbies. A young man once said to his parents: \”Mom and Dad, I hope you also have your own life.\” In many Chinese families, the most familiar sentence is : \”I live this life just for my children.\” What seems like selfless love is actually very cruel. They give up their independent lives and devote all their hope and happiness to their children and families, but rarely pay attention to their own needs. In this process, the children feel pressure, and the parents feel the grievance that their love is not understood. In the end, resentment will envelope the entire family. Therefore, if we want a happy family, we must also spend some time on ourselves. After all, if you are not in a good state, it is difficult to be in a good mood to treat your family. As for how to do it, and it\’s very simple – in family life, everyone has to find things that really make them like and feel happy. Psychologist Daniel Kahneman proposed four elements of happiness from a psychological perspective, the last of which is: the feeling of pleasure. When we like something and take action, we naturally feel pleasure. For example, eating your favorite food, meeting friends you haven’t seen for a long time, going on a trip… No matter how busy we are with raising children, or how tiring we are at work, we all need to have our own space and time to find such pleasant moments and give ourselves some breathing space. Chance. A family is a whole, and only when every member is happy can it be called a happy family. Live your own life well, live healthily and happily, and it is also a profound love for your family.