How to let children take the initiative to learn and have stamina

Many parents report that their children\’s grades in elementary school were very good, but in junior high school they began to fail to keep up and fell to the middle level. Some children find it difficult to study after reaching third grade, and their scores drop from the original 90s to below 90s. People can\’t help but start thinking, where is the problem? Why do some children have great stamina in learning, but their performance may be mediocre at the beginning, but their grades get better as they get to senior grades, and their parents basically don’t have to worry about their studies? Just like the child of a colleague, his grades in elementary school have always been average. In junior high school, he started to stand out. He has strong learning initiative and consciousness, and his grades have always been among the top three in the class. Observation summary found that parents of children who have great learning potential have done well in the following four aspects: 01 Develop good study habits. After children enter elementary school, some parents begin to be very concerned about their grades and accompany their children to study and practice diligently. , memorize dictation, teach examination skills, and hope that children will get good scores in the examination. This is understandable. But the facts show that just pursuing scores is not enough, or in other words, it is not the most important thing. \”Child Development Psychology\” points out that primary school is an important period for children\’s individual development. This stage is the time to lay the foundation for all aspects of children. In terms of learning, the most important responsibility of parents in primary school is to help their children develop good study habits. Many children who start to fall behind in senior grades mainly lose because of their habits. For example: the paper is not neat and tidy, the homework is not organized, and you don’t know how to review and consolidate in time… Slowly, the gap begins to appear. And those children with good study habits can reap the sense of accomplishment and appreciation brought by good habits, start a positive cycle, make it easier to persist, and gradually develop self-discipline. Once a child develops self-discipline in learning, he or she will basically not need to have too much control from his parents and will learn on his own initiative and consciously. What is the Feynman Learning Method and an efficient learning method? A mother who sent her child to Peking University once shared her educational experience: \”When he first entered elementary school, his child was a little unable to sit still and his homework was sloppy. In order to help him develop good habits, As a habit, I have to accompany my children to complete their homework every night, carefully point out problems and deficiencies, and only allow them to play after correcting the wrong questions. I accompany my children to do their homework every day until the end of the third grade of elementary school. The children have developed better study habits. , most of the homework is done at school. When I go home, it’s extracurricular reading, physical exercise and leisure entertainment, and I basically don’t care about homework anymore.” The more important study habits are: do homework first when you go home, then play, and complete it within the specified time. Insist on doing a good job in after-school review and pre-class preparation for homework. Reduce the number of times the eraser and correction tape are used. After writing the homework, check it carefully, and then check it with the parents. When there are multiple homeworks, make a list first, and then complete them in order. From the time the child first enters school, In the beginning, it is best for parents to spend more time and energy with their children doing homework. The purpose is to cultivate good study habits in their children. This will save both children and parents a lot of worry in the later stage. 02 Cultivate children\’s time management ability. There are few subjects in primary school, the homework is simple, and it can be completed in less time. In senior grades and junior high schools, the learning content becomes more difficult, the subjects increase, and the amount of homework becomes larger and larger. At this time, if the child does notIf you know how to plan your time and improve efficiency, you will feel that the task is arduous and difficult to learn, which can easily lead to frustration and boredom, which will affect your learning. We see that many children today lack the concept of time and do not know how to arrange their own time. They tend to obey their parents\’ arrangements. For example, I spend a lot of time writing my homework. I could have finished it very early, but I ended up writing it until 11 o\’clock in the evening. I love to procrastinate and play all the time on the weekend. When I can\’t put it off anymore on Sunday night, I start to rush to write my homework… ··This attitude will lead to low learning efficiency. When it comes to the exam, I always feel that there is not enough time and I can’t finish the questions. Children who have strong learning potential usually know how to arrange their own time, play when they should play, study when they should study, and are very efficient and organized. A friend\’s child is in his second year of high school and usually plays games and surfs the Internet, but his colleagues never worry because the child will arrange his time reasonably, has a sense of proportion, and knows when to do what he wants. Therefore, parents must cultivate their children\’s time management skills from an early age. First of all, it is best for parents to consciously help their children understand and feel time starting from the middle and senior classes of kindergarten, understand how long a specific time period is, and implant the abstract concept of \”time\” into their children\’s minds. Second, let children live a regular life, with specific time points and time periods for getting up, eating, and sleeping. This will help children better establish a sense of time. Third, starting from the time when children enter first grade, parents should let their children develop the habit of completing homework within the specified time, roughly estimate the time required, and try to complete it within the specified time to improve efficiency and avoid dillydallying. Finally, in terms of life and study, parents should gradually let go and let their children manage their own time, learn to plan their time according to the priorities of things, and parents only provide advice when necessary. Under such guidance, children will gradually develop time management skills. 03 Cultivate children’s thinking ability. The essence of learning is actually a kind of thinking ability. The learning content in primary school is relatively simple, and the test scope is also very clear, so you only need to have a certain memory. In junior high school, the learning content is deeper, broader, and more abstract, and the exams are more selective. Many questions cannot be memorized by rote, but need to be understood and applied. This will test the child\’s thinking ability and whether he can integrate and draw inferences. Many children fall behind in junior high school precisely because they have not developed good thinking skills in primary school, are not good at proactive thinking, and have a relatively rigid way of thinking. If they cannot learn knowledge thoroughly, they will naturally not get good grades in the exam. Therefore, parents should pay attention to the cultivation and training of children\’s thinking ability in primary school. First of all, when a child encounters difficulties in learning, do not tell the child the correct answer directly. Instead, inspire the child to think actively and let him explore the answer step by step and discover a variety of problem-solving ideas. Some parents do too much arranging and intervening when accompanying their children to do homework. They help their children check their homework and directly help their children answer questions they don\’t know. As a result, children develop mental inertia, do not like to think, and rely on their parents. This is obviously not conducive to children\’s continuous learning. The same is true in life, homeParents should not help their children solve problems and avoid trouble just because they love their children and are reluctant to bear hardships. This will instead limit their children\’s growth. It is in the process of discovering and solving problems that children can exercise their independent thinking ability, gradually improve their own thinking methods, and develop more flexible thinking. Therefore, in daily life, parents should let their children experience and experience, guide their children to actively use their brains to find solutions when encountering difficulties, and encourage their children to express their ideas. 04 Protect children’s interest in learning and confidence. Children who can continue to work hard, in addition to learning ability, also have essential hidden factors, that is, interest in learning and confidence. Only when a child feels fun in learning and is confident, will he love learning and always maintain enthusiasm and initiative in learning. Many children are full of confidence and interest when they first start school, and are eager to learn new knowledge. However, as the grades increase and the difficulty of the courses increases, children will inevitably encounter various difficulties. When these difficulties are not resolved for a long time and are hit by test scores again and again, children will not find a sense of achievement in learning, and will develop feelings of anxiety and frustration, and will become increasingly tired of learning. If at this time, parents continue to put pressure, harsh preaching, and criticism on their children, they will enter a vicious cycle, making their children feel more and more painful about learning and have an increasingly low self-esteem. In this case, the child will lose interest and motivation in learning, and falling behind is an inevitable result. Therefore, during their children\’s learning career, especially in primary school, parents should pay special attention to protecting their children\’s interest and confidence in learning, which is a necessary condition for children to have stamina in learning. As psychotherapist Satya said: \”Efficient learning cannot occur in an atmosphere of distrust, fear, concern and coercion. Parents should strive to be influential leaders, which means being kind, firm and , inspiring and considerate people, such people must proceed directly from the standpoint of reality and love, rather than passively using rights.\” Specifically, parents must know how to grasp the right balance and not put excessive learning pressure on their children. 2. Excessive learning tasks should be arranged reasonably according to the child\’s actual situation and his or her tolerance. Communicate more with your children and pay attention to their learning situation and inner world, so as to understand their learning difficulties in a timely manner and help them solve them as soon as possible. Parents should encourage their children more and criticize less when problems arise in their children\’s studies. They should stand with their children instead of just criticizing them. Especially when a child\’s performance is unsatisfactory, parents still choose to accept and support the child, understand the child\’s pain and frustration, help the child resolve their emotions, regain confidence, and cheer up. This will make children feel full of love and support, full of inner strength and confidence, and more motivated to devote themselves to learning and make continuous progress.