How to make children polite and well-educated

I went to a friend\’s house for dinner last week, and I was deeply impressed by a series of behaviors of his children. There was a guest at home, and the parents were busy in the kitchen and living room. Even if the child didn\’t help, he was lying on the sofa alone, leaving no room to sit on the sofa. Before the food was even served, the child ran to the kitchen and grabbed it. Eat your favorite dishes, regardless of other people\’s opinions; when the banquet is about to begin, everyone is humbly giving way to whoever takes the main seat, but unexpectedly, this child of about 10 years old crawls into the middle seat; okay? It was easy to sit down, and the dishes began to arrive one after another. The child directly put his favorite dishes in front of him. At this time, even the child\’s parents were stunned and speechless, and quickly asked the child to put them back. But the child ignored them at all. If he continued talking, he poured the food into the middle, threw away the chopsticks and cutlery, kicked the table in front of him, and then ran back to his room angrily. As the saying goes, etiquette cannot be discarded. [Children\’s Bedtime Stories] Collector\’s Edition of 300 Classic Philosophical Stories Traditional etiquette is a detail that Chinese people care about very much, especially dining etiquette, which can reveal a person\’s cultivation and character. But most of today\’s children are spoiled, and many parents don\’t even know much about some dining etiquette, so there are many rude behaviors among children during meals. On the surface, it seems that it is because the child is young and has a bad temper, but if you think about it carefully, it is not that the child does not understand table manners and behaves willfully. As a parent, you don’t need to be particularly detailed about your children’s dining etiquette, but you must let your children remember the 10 basic dining etiquette and taboos to avoid making jokes and being disliked by others, which is not worth the gain. 01Top ten dining points 1. Seating is not casual. Different from the casual seating of Western food, Chinese food is very particular about the priority, that is, the distinction between host and guest. Especially when dining at other people\’s homes, once you sit in the wrong seat, it will not only be embarrassing, but also appear to be particularly lacking in quality. If there are multiple banquet tables, the table in the middle is generally the VIP seat, and the seat facing the door, east or left is the main guest seat, which is the seat of the host or a person with a more respected status or a person who is entertaining guests. Never sit down without permission. Sit down according to status, proximity, and proximity. Children must not sit at will. They must wait for the adults to arrange it. At the same time, they must wait for the adults to sit down before sitting down by themselves. Pay attention to the order of front and back. 2. There are requirements for moving chopsticks. I believe many people know this. The elders must use the chopsticks first or the host family starts to invite everyone before everyone can use the chopsticks. Be polite when picking up food. If it is a rotating table, be sure to wait until the dishes are in front of you before using your chopsticks. Do not extend your arms in front of others or pass over the person next to you to pick up food. These are all impolite behaviors. If it is a fixed table, try to pick up a few dishes in front of you. If the dish is too far away, try to add less or no more. Don’t pick too many dishes at one time, otherwise it will look too hasty. If you want to pick up food for others, be sure not to use your own chopsticks, choose serving chopsticks. 3. Pay attention to details when sitting. A person\’s sitting and standing posture can better show his temperament. Whether during or before and after a meal, one should keep his back straight and do not lean back on the chair.Put your feet under your seat, do not straighten them at will, place your hands above the table, do not lean on the edge of the table or put them on the back of the adjacent seat. When bringing food to the entrance, your hands should be moved closer to you, and do not open them wide enough to touch the people next to you. 4. Food should be transitional. After picking up the food with chopsticks, do not put it into your mouth immediately. It is best to put the food on the bowl for a while before putting it into your mouth. This can make the action look less urgent, and don\’t show it even if you are hungry again. 5. Pay attention to politeness. When dining, in addition to paying attention to how you eat, you should also pay great attention to the courtesy between you and your tablemates. For example, if you want to take the condiments, paper towels and other items in front of other people, do not reach out suddenly, step over the people at the same table, and take the items for a long time. Instead, you should politely ask the guests over there to help pass them on. 6. Do not talk with food in your mouth. I believe everyone is aware of this. If there is food in your mouth, you should try not to speak to prevent food from splashing when you speak, causing unnecessary embarrassment. 7. Don’t interrupt when speaking. Children must be told about this. When adults are chatting, do not interrupt, let alone intervene at will. If there is something that must be said, you can use \”Sorry, sorry\” as a starting point to intervene. 8. The guest does as he pleases. If it is someone else\’s treat, when ordering as a guest, don\’t be self-centered, focus on humility, order less or no dishes, and follow the host\’s wishes. 9. Pay attention to the speed of eating. When eating, the speed should be kept about the same as the host, so that both parties can finish the meal together at about the same time, which is more polite. If there is something urgent and you need to leave first, you need to briefly explain the reason and express your gratitude and apology before leaving. 10. Place tableware skillfully. Chinese tableware mainly includes cups, plates, bowls, saucers, chopsticks, spoons, etc. Generally, at a formal banquet, the water glass is placed on the left of the dish, the wine glass is placed on the right, and chopsticks and spoons can be placed on special plates. . This may be less commonly used at home, but the child should also be aware of it to prevent him from appearing in a hurry when attending banquets on formal occasions. 02. After knowing the 10 etiquette of dining, let your children know some small taboos to ensure that everything is foolproof. 1. Do not spit out imported food. If the food is too hot or unpalatable, drink some water or juice and swallow it. 2. Do not spit food residues such as bones, fish bones, peppers, etc. directly from your mouth onto the table. This is no different from spitting. You can cover your mouth with a tissue, take it out with chopsticks, and put it on a plate. 3. In public places, if there is a foreign object stuck between the teeth, do not directly reach out and pick it in the mouth. You can cover the mouth with your hands or paper towels and use a toothpick to remove it in a small amount. 4. Try not to cough, sneeze, etc. at the dining table. If you really can\’t help it, you must step aside and block it gently with your hands. Don\’t face people directly and express your apology at the same time. 5. Try to be as quiet as possible when eating. Don’t smack your lips, and don’t eat too loudly. 6. Don’t rummage around in the bowl and keep looking for what you like to eat. Some people even wash their chopsticks constantly in the bowl. These are very undesirable behaviors. 7. Don’t hold your chopsticks uprightInserting it into rice is one of the most serious taboos in Chinese table etiquette. 8. If you want to serve someone else\’s rice, you can only ask \”Do you want more?\” Never say \”Do you want more food?\” 9. When eating, use chopsticks to touch the dishes gently and don\’t make too much noise. No sound, never hit the dishes hard, this is absolutely not allowed. 10. Don’t shake your legs while eating, as this will only result in a beating. CCTV recommends over 500 high-scoring documentaries. Children will become addicted to self-discipline after watching a small meal. There are indeed many etiquettes and taboos, even trivial. But even so, parents must let their children know clearly. , to prevent children from being unintentionally disliked or even labeled as uneducated.