How to plan children\’s reading during summer vacation can reveal the mother\’s cognitive level. There are three levels. Which level are you at?

Summer vacation is here, and reading is an indispensable holiday project for children. Before the vacation, many parents left messages asking me to talk about how to plan their children\’s summer reading. Let me talk a few words today. A long time ago, I listened to a well-known linguistics professor in China talking about children\’s reading at a university. I thought it was very interesting what he said, which was how to plan children\’s reading. What was reflected behind it was actually the cognitive level of parents. He divided this cognitive level into three levels: 1 The first level is \”Everyone says that reading is good, so you must read.\” Such parents want their children to read more because of social consensus. In our culture, reading has always been defined as spring and snow. \”Everything is inferior, but reading is high.\” Reading a lot of books means being educated. Only through reading can we escape the fate of lower-class people. Based on this understanding, parents pay more attention to \”quantity\” when planning their children\’s reading. No matter what book, as long as they are reading, it is better than playing games on their mobile phones. 2The second level is \”If you want to learn Chinese well, reading is indispensable.\” Compared with parents with first-level cognition, these parents are more goal-oriented and more pragmatic in planning their children\’s reading. They define Chinese as a test subject rather than a skill that serves life. Reading is an important tool to help improve scores in the Chinese test subject. 3The third level is \”As a bridge to understand culture and human nature, reading is the only way to broadness.\” Such parents have clearly realized that today\’s Chinese people have solved the problem of food and clothing after several generations of hard work, and many people have also entered the middle class. However, simple and repeated efforts can no longer break down class barriers and single or overly specialized skills. The pay for helping kids is only going to get lower and lower. A person can only break through if he understands culture and human nature more deeply than others, has a high comprehensive quality, and has a broad vision, and reading is the most convenient way for us to build comprehensive quality. The reading planning of such parents will focus more on \”quality\”. They will help their children select books in the early stage, and they will also accompany and guide their children to think during the reading process. Let me use the reading of a book as an analogy to help everyone understand the three cognitive levels. Zweig is a writer I admire very much. His most famous work is \”When Humanity\’s Stars Shine\”. The first level of cognition will be based on public opinion. If you feel that such a great classic work, you must buy it home and let your children read it. The second level of cognition will be because the teacher recommends it, and reading comprehension is easy to test. Buy it and take it home for your children to read. The focus of reading is probably the dozen or so events that affect the course of world history recorded in the book, such as the Battle of Waterloo and the fall of Constantinople. , California Gold Rush and more. But in fact, even if you write down all these, you can only complete the basic reading, and you have not yet reached the step of understanding the author\’s heart. The third level of cognition will put aside public definitions and test points, read and think more purely, and you may have some different feelings. For example, when I was reading and discussing this book with my daughter, my feeling was: “Those great moments in human history all experienced a long period of brewing and accumulation of potential energy before they appeared. However, most of them People only see the shining stars at that moment and ignore the previous preparations.It may change us from opportunists to people who are prepared. \”My daughter\’s feelings are: \”After Hitler came to power, the Nazis annexed Austria, and Zweig had to live in South America. In Zweig\’s view at the time, the good things in the past would never come back, and human civilization was over. Their ideals were shattered, and in the end Zweig and his wife both chose to commit suicide in despair. However, it was such a person under such a fate that he wrote \”When the Human Stars Shine\”, which is a very great thing. \”You see, many works do not give us something to talk about after dinner, but the authors want to tell us the world they live in and what they expect the world to be like. Therefore, reading to the third level is actually From reading to reading people and reading the world, you can compare and see which level you are at. It should be noted that these three levels are not superior or inferior, they just correspond to our different cognitions. Stage. For children who have just started to develop reading habits, the first level is suitable. You can prepare some books that are well-rated by the public and suitable for the children\’s age. If time permits, I recommend that you bring them directly. The children go to a bookstore near home to read. The good thing is that the bookstore does the first screening for us. The best-selling books displayed in the children\’s area are often works that are highly rated by parents and are also popular with children. Moreover, the atmosphere of the bookstore is relatively good, and you can see people around you. Even active children are more likely to be influenced by the environment and calm down. If children can only read at home, I suggest that parents set an example to some extent. I gave a lecture on parent-child reading in 2016 and met various families, which made me face my own blind spot of \”darkness under the light\”. In the past, I always liked to use myself as a substitute for others, thinking that most parents were like me, idle. If nothing happens, the first choice is to study. Later, I realized that this is a kind of blind \”arrogance\”. It\’s not that many parents don\’t want to study, but they are really too tired to study. For example, they are very busy at work during the day. When you get home, you just want to check your phone and don’t want to use your brain anymore, or there are many complicated household chores to deal with. Don’t underestimate these trivial matters, which will take up a lot of people’s energy. But even so, I still recommend that you try to spare some time. Read and read. If you want to cultivate your child\’s reading habit, this is something you must persist in, because teaching by words and deeds is always the most effective parenting model. It may be a little difficult at first, but you can understand it slowly. Come to the nourishment brought by reading. This kind of nourishment is different from the dopamine stimulation of short videos and social interactions. Reading is more internal and growth-oriented, and can fill your heart with no external demands. It will be so strong that your whole person will become more peaceful and more able to experience true happiness. For school-age children who have already established a reading habit, the second level is inevitable. I do not deny the pragmatism of reading. , every child needs to train the ability to obtain information efficiently through reading, and also needs to develop intensive reading skills to improve understanding. Effective reading is indeed an improvement.High Chinese proficiency is even the key to learning various knowledge. Based on such demands, parents can consciously choose some must-read books for their children. I won’t list the books separately. They are easy to obtain. For example, most school teachers will issue book lists before the final exams are over and the holidays begin. If you are not satisfied with the school’s book list, you can also find many book lists recommended by reading bloggers online. I have opened a similar book list before. If you need it, you can check it out in the \”Reading Children\’s Books with Qianxun\” column, or search on the official account using the keyword \”book list\”, and different types of book lists will come out. recommended article. In addition to choosing must-read books, another point is that you need to consciously guide your children to do reading comprehension. No matter what the work is, children must at least read out the basic elements of \”time, place, characters, and events\” before they can understand the information contained on the surface of the text. This is also the basic ability most commonly tested in Chinese language. In addition to detailed issues, reading comprehension will also examine macro issues about the theme, ideas, and author\’s attitude. Macroscopic questions require children to have the ability to think from others\’ perspective. For example: If I were the author, what would I do in order to organize the information and express my thoughts clearly? This is what we need to guide children to practice repeatedly during reading. In addition, reading speed is also a point that parents should pay attention to. Many children have difficulty reading and understanding, not only because they have difficulty understanding, but also because they cannot speed up and read the background materials within limited time. To improve your reading speed, you need to practice more conscious reading and increase your sensitivity to article structure and useful information. I have done a lot of research on the practicality of reading. Now our family’s reading has passed the second level and entered the third level. Old fans may have felt that my current reading articles almost no longer talk about \”practicality\”, but more about interpretation for everyone and showing you some good children\’s and adult classics. After reading to the end, you need to slowly lose functionality and become pure. Because only with purity can we truly enter the distant world created by the author for us, appreciate the charm of classics, and understand the deep meaning and thoughts in the text. At this time, reading can become a revelation for us to understand others and the world, a way to please ourselves, and a way to improve ourselves. Let\’s take \”A Dream of Red Mansions\” as an example. My daughter is reading this book for the third time during the summer vacation. The first time we read along, we read the general storyline and talked about interesting details. In the second time, some information will be sorted out, and common knowledge will be stored based on the test points. After the third time, I completely let go of my restraints and purely felt, thought, and deconstructed. At this time, some interesting experiences came out. For example, top-down power structure. This is true of the Jia family, and so is the society we live in today. It is different from the horizontal decentralization of maritime civilization countries, but each power structure has its advantages and disadvantages. When encountering difficulties, the top-down power structure can respond more promptly. For example, in \”A Dream of Red Mansions\”, Wang Xifeng acted as an agent to rectify the Ningguo Mansion, and Jia Tanchun created advantages and eliminated disadvantages in the Grand View Garden. The effects were immediate. Concentrating efforts to do big things is also a manifestation. The Jia Mansion\’s construction of the Grand View Garden was quickly completed on time. In contrast, the commercial civilization with decentralized powerIt is actually more difficult for the country to do such a thing. By understanding this level, we can look at the social structure we live in and the culture it derives in a more objective and dialectical way. There are also interpersonal relationships in acquaintance society. The Jia family\’s marriages and political contacts could not escape that small circle. On the surface, the Jia family has the rules of a large family, but relationships still rely on favors to maintain relationships. Even a young lady like Shi Xiangyun cannot help but give small favors to Xiren, Yuanyang and other maids. They are also the eldest maids. Qingwen from Yihongyuan can order food from the small kitchen of Daguanyuan, but Siqi, the maid from Yingchun, cannot. These are actually many of our current relationships with people. After reading it, \”Good Song\” sounds even sadder. Because \”Dream of Red Mansions\” is not only about the love between Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu, nor is it just about the family affairs of one or two families, it is also about the general rules of China\’s upper class society in the autocratic era. Laws always make people feel a sense of sadness, because they realize the insignificance of individuals.