How to set rules for children so that they will listen

Introduction: In today\’s families, many parents only consider having one child, or at most two children. It is precisely because of this that the \”status\” of children in the family is getting higher and higher. \”If you hold it in your hand, you\’re afraid it will fall; if you hold it in your mouth, you\’re afraid it will melt.\” No matter what the request is, we will try our best to satisfy it. Even if the child does something wrong, he will not be willing to beat or scold him. But loving children does not mean doting on them. In the process of loving children, we must establish our own \”bottom line\” and \”principles\”, otherwise, it will be equivalent to harming the child. Case: \”Ms. Liu? Do you have time to come to school?\” From the teacher\’s tone, it must be that Maomao has been disobedient at school again. I don\’t know how many times this semester, the teacher has invited her to school. At this time, Ms. Liu was also angry. She really didn\’t understand why other people\’s children were so obedient. As for the children of my own family, they have to \”make trouble\” for themselves again and again and make themselves embarrassed in school. The reason for inviting parents every time is basically the same: \”Your child always disrupts the order of the classroom, disrespects the teacher, walks around at will during class, and even affects the learning of other students.\” It\’s the same every time, No matter how many times Ms. Liu emphasized it, Maomao never changed, which was really a headache. \”How many times have I told you? Just sit still during class. It\’s okay to lie down and sleep without studying. Why do you have to disrupt the order of the class? I ask parents again and again. Do you think this is really good for you?\” Listen. At this point, Maomao also lowered his head in frustration and said nothing. Seeing the child like this, Ms. Liu actually regretted it very much. In fact, when the child was in kindergarten, he had the problem of walking around in class and often disobeying the teacher. Although I heard the teacher\’s reaction, I didn\’t take it to heart. I thought that all children were the same. It was natural for children to be active at a young age. It would be better if they were older. However, after the child entered elementary school, this problem gradually expanded and was exposed, and Ms. Wang realized the seriousness of the problem. However, it was already too late to discipline her child. Situations like the one in Ms. Liu\’s family are actually not uncommon. When children have problems when they are young, if they are not disciplined in time, when the children grow up, they can no longer take care of them. When something like this happens, it\’s not so much the child\’s fault as it is the parents\’ problem. [Both Seasons] Doctor of Psychology Zhang Yijun\’s Children\’s Emotional Intelligence Course mp3, teaches you how to raise children with high emotional intelligence. No rules, no rules. If a child has some problems since childhood, the parents turn a blind eye, thinking that the child is not sensible at a young age, and will go to school when he is older. Well, you shouldn’t impose discipline, the teacher will educate you. But as everyone knows, family education is the first and most important education a child receives after birth, and it even accompanies the child throughout his life. Parents, as their children\’s guides, lay the foundation for their children. Only when parents \”set good rules\” for their children can their children flourish in a well-regulated direction. So, a large part of the reason why children have the above-mentioned problems is that parents fail to \”set rules\” for their children at an appropriate period. So how can we expect the children to abide by the rules in the future? Many parents believe that they should not be too strict with their children and should not be too strict with their children.If it is too harsh, children should be loved and tolerated. But in fact, there is no conflict between setting rules and loving children. Especially when children are 2 to 5 years old, they must establish a sense of rules and regulations. Otherwise, parents will be confused if they want to discipline their children in the future. It is “extremely difficult” and may even affect the child’s life. Next, let us take a look at how parents can establish a sense of rules for their children. In fact, just stick to these points. 1. Stick to your bottom line and never indulge your children blindly. First of all, stick to your own bottom line and have your own principles and never indulge your children blindly. If you do something wrong, you should let your children accept the corresponding punishment and know the consequences of their mistakes. Parents\’ blind indulgence will only make them get worse and make more mistakes. Clear rewards and punishments are the prerequisite for establishing rules for children. 2. Lead by example. If you want your children to obey the rules, you must first be a rule-abiding person. The second step is to lead by example. If you want your children to obey the rules, parents must first become a rule-abiding person. When you go out, every gesture you make actually affects your children invisibly. If you obey the rules yourself, your children will also develop the habit of obeying the rules subtly. Without language education, children will know what to do by looking at their parents\’ actions. 3. Intellectual education, let children distinguish right from wrong, and establish correct values ​​​​for children. The last step is intellectual education. You must not indulge or spoil. Children must be able to distinguish right from wrong, know what is right and what is wrong, and establish correct values ​​​​for children from an early age. . You must not ignore the child after he or she has done something wrong and let the child think about his own behavior. This will only cause the child to lose the ability to distinguish right from wrong. Every parent loves their children, but love is definitely not indulgence. Letting children learn to obey the rules from an early age and establishing a correct awareness of rules is also a manifestation of loving children and is intended to make children better in the future. I hope that parents will pay attention to their children\’s education, adhere to the above three points, and cultivate their children into a rule-abiding person and a high-quality person. This is a responsible attitude towards their children. Finally, I hope that every child can grow up healthily and become outstanding talents under the correct education of his parents. Do you agree with the statement that \”setting rules\” means not loving your children? How do you set rules for your children?