How to spend time with your children at night? Remember these 3 things!

Many parents are busy with work during the day and only have time to spend time with their children at night, especially before going to bed, which can be said to be the prime time for parent-child communication. For parents, if they can do the following three things with their children before going to bed every day, their children will change a lot in three years. Reading with children In the book \”Suhomlinsky\’s Educational Proverbs\”, there is this passage: \”If you don\’t know how to read, you can\’t live and you won\’t be happy. Anyone who has not mastered the skill of reading is a person without An educated person is an ignorant person.\” Why do people read? Rabindranath Tagore said: \”Reading is living.\” Reading can build a complete spiritual world. Reading can improve a person\’s moral cultivation and broaden his cognitive boundaries. Brain science research shows that the brain is born unable to read, because there is no neural network in the brain that is born responsible for reading, and reading ability must be acquired through learning. Parents are the guides for their children\’s growth. They should cultivate their children\’s reading habits from an early age through precepts and deeds. Read with your children before going to bed and let them enter the world of reading in the form of storytelling. This process can not only enrich your children\’s imagination, but also cultivate a good parent-child relationship and enhance your child\’s sense of security. Many children have the habit of listening to stories before going to bed. Regardless of whether adults can tell stories or not, do not refuse the child\’s request. Choose light and interesting picture books or philosophical story books to tell stories to your children and enjoy the rare reading time with them. Encourage children to retell the stories they have read after reading to develop their language expression and logical thinking abilities. By insisting on parent-child reading every night, children\’s knowledge will gradually surpass that of their peers, they will also become more confident, and their thirst for knowledge will be stronger. Chatting with your children about what happened during the day before going to bed is the best time to enjoy parent-child time. Since you don’t have time to communicate with your children during the day, you might as well open up to your children at night. Many parents are used to asking the following questions when talking to their children: How was your class today? The teacher didn\’t criticize you today, right? How are the results of this test… I have to say that parents have high expectations for their children and hope that their children can give back to themselves with the best performance. But blindly asking children about their grades and classroom performance is not a good thing. This approach will make children feel that parents only care about grades and scores, and do not care about their own feelings. Parents may wish to ask their children: Did you encounter anything happy today? Is there anything you want to share with us today? Tell us about something you learned in class today? … Use the lightest topics to open up children’s minds, and children will be more willing to accept and enjoy discussing with their parents. Through these questions, parents can slowly understand what their children are thinking and let them feel that their parents care about them. Gradually, children will be willing to talk about unhappy things during the day, so that parents can understand their children\’s psychological activities in a timely manner and resolve their children\’s inner negative emotions. Furthermore, parents may wish to tell their children about the happy things they encountered during the day, but they do not necessarily require their children to understand them.The main reason is that the important thing is that children can feel the positive emotions of their parents and enjoy the happy time with their parents. If you persist in this way, the child\’s mentality will become more and more optimistic, and he will be willing to share both positive and negative emotions with his parents. Teach children to take care of themselves. Children\’s self-care ability must be developed as early as possible. Many parents often neglect the cultivation of this aspect because they dote on their children. When children grow up and their self-care abilities are not as good as others\’, and they can\’t even adapt to society, more energy will be spent on cultivating them. Before going to bed, children need to brush their teeth, wash their faces, take a bath, fold their clothes, put away their toys, etc. These seemingly small things affect the development of children\’s self-care habits. The famous Italian educator Montessori once said that letting children take care of themselves can make them more independent. Before going to bed, if these things have not been done yet, be sure to let the children do it themselves: when the books on the child\’s desk are messy, remind the child to tidy up and wipe the table clean. This is out of awe for learning; If the toys you have played with are scattered all over the floor, tell the child to sort them and store them by himself. Even if the child acts coquettishly and asks his parents to help him, do not spoil the child and remind him to remember to organize and store them after playing next time; when the child\’s room is still a mess When the time comes, tell your children to pack their clothes and make their beds. Children\’s participation in these small things not only liberates the parents\’ bodies after a tiring day, but also cultivates children\’s hands-on ability. Developing a good habit of doing your own things will benefit you throughout your life. A good habit will accompany you throughout your life, bring you wealth and lead you to success; on the contrary, bad habits will make you take more detours, whether it is reading habits, communication or self-care ability, in the final analysis, it is a habit of cultivation. If parents develop the habit of doing these three things with their children before going to bed, their children will gain more!