How to stimulate your child\’s inner motivation to learn?

Teachers must have heard these questions from parents, \”How can children get into a good school? What should parents do? Some parents are worried that their children don\’t like to learn and they always have to push them forward. What should I do?\” How to inspire Children’s desire to learn? This is the best approach I\’ve seen… There are many different types of homes, so one size doesn\’t fit all, and there\’s no master key. We cannot judge children based on whether they can get into key schools. However, there is one thing worth telling all parents to spend their energy on, which is to stimulate their children\’s inner motivation to learn. How can we stimulate children\’s inner motivation to learn? Xie Yingping, principal of Fudan University Affiliated Zhongyuan and Shanghai special-level principal, suggested trying these 9 points. The teacher will guide parents to take a look! Give your children apples that can only be picked by jumping. I used to take my students to the countryside to learn about farming, and I saw children picking apples in the orchard. The children jumped and picked apples from the trees. Sometimes they washed them with water, and sometimes they just wiped the skins of the apples and ate them without washing them. Look at how these children usually eat fruit at home. The parents have peeled the apples, cut them into slices, placed them in the fruit plate, inserted the toothpicks, and handed them to their hands. The children still look like they are too lazy to eat. . This is what we call \”the apple picked in one hop\”. The same goes for children\’s learning. Tell parents to set expectations for their children at appropriate levels. Don\’t do it all and just give the \”apple\” to the child directly, otherwise the child will not be interested; but also make sure that the goal is something that the child can reach by jumping, otherwise the child will lose confidence. Never force your children to save face. Some parents like to compare. Why are other people’s children so smart? I am number one, what about you? In this way, the child gradually forms the mental stereotype of \”I am stupider than others\”, and even develops the resistance of \”Mom likes others\”. Don\’t compare, base it on your own child\’s actual situation. If your child can jump 1.2 meters now, then 1.3 meters is a more appropriate goal. Don’t ask your children to jump that high just because other children can jump 1.5 meters. Don\’t force your children to study just for your own sake. You can\’t do well in studying under pressure. You must discover your children\’s characteristics and strengths. Don’t treat your children as “rice bags” filled with knowledge. Parents must understand: Do you want to cultivate a “rice bag” filled with knowledge, or do you want to cultivate a complete person? In other words, do you want your children to be knowledgeable or intelligent? If the answer is the latter, use less indoctrination and encourage the child to ask more whys. Never avoid the child\’s questions. Even if the child doesn\’t ask, you should inspire him to ask. It is better to let children know ABCD early and ask one more why. It is most suitable for children to grasp the language before the age of 13. The development of children\’s learning ability is regular. Before the age of 13, children have relatively strong abilities in image thinking, intuitive thinking, and imitation. Language learning is most appropriate at this stage. For example, it is easier to memorize ancient poems in elementary school than in college. By high school, when abstract thinking and logical reasoning abilities are developed, it will be easier to learn subjects such as mathematics. To amplify children’s sense of achievement, I personally think that parents should not do everything in their studies, but when it comes toCultivating children\’s self-confidence and self-improvement must be done consciously. Why do I like mathematics? When I was in middle school, I was the first in the class to solve a difficult problem assigned by the teacher. The teacher ran over from the podium, touched my head and asked, \”Do you feel better now than after eating a piece of candy?\” Still happy? I say yes. From then on, I fell in love with mathematics and thought that I was good at mathematics. That’s the magic of encouragement and a sense of accomplishment. Children should be encouraged, given the experience of success, and cultivate their sense of accomplishment. Only when you have a sense of accomplishment will you be interested. Using \”limited question timing\” to improve efficiency requires only encouragement, which is sometimes not enough. When a child encounters difficulties, it doesn\’t mean much if you just say \”I believe you\” and \”You can do it\” by the side. For parents, they need to help their children solve some specific problems. For example, when some children first enter elementary school, it is difficult to do math verbal arithmetic questions. Parents can learn from the practice of \”decomposing actions\” in physical training. Children can\’t finish 40 questions at once. Parents can divide the questions into 8 groups of 5. After completing one set of questions, do another set. You can use \”time limit\” to improve efficiency. For example, if you get 5 questions right, write down the time and compare them, or use \”time limit\” – give him 10 minutes to see how many questions he gets right. This method is also suitable for tasks such as copying vocabulary. Breaking down a relatively difficult large task into several small tasks, making the difficult into easy, and the complex into simple, is an effective way for teachers and parents to help children overcome their fear of difficulties, experience success, and improve their self-confidence and interest. Turn learning into raising chlorella, cutting earthworms… Protecting and stimulating the curiosity of good children is also very important to stimulate motivation for learning. I remember when I was a child, the biology teacher taught us how to grow chlorella. We put tap water in a jar and blew into the water every day. Slowly the color of the water turned green. He also asked us to cut earthworms into several segments. Bury it in the soil and watch how it slowly grows into earthworms… I think it\’s like magic. My biggest dream at that time was to be a biologist. Later, the physics teacher taught us how to make mineral radios and transistor radios. The moment the radio I installed received the broadcast, I was really excited. I wanted to be a radio inventor again. In fact, these small hands-on experiments are easy to operate. Teachers and parents can do it with their children. They are very useful for cultivating children\’s interest in learning, hands-on ability, and inquiry habits. In addition, there are some methods of learning mathematics through games, such as building blocks for younger children, from which they can understand graphic concepts such as triangles, rectangles, circles, semicircles, and color concepts such as red, green, and yellow, and develop observation, memory, and Habits such as imagination and cooperation; older children can use playing cards to count 24 points, etc. Encourage self-study + discussion. I advocate that students should go to teachers, classmates or parents to ask questions if they have any questions, rather than fixing a fixed time for children to make up lessons. This is the difference between independent learning and passive learning. I also encourage discussion and mutual help among peers. If you teach others what you have learned, you will understand it more deeply, and discussions can generate new ideas and methods. Therefore, the result of the discussion is a win-win situation, and children’s communication skills and cooperation awareness can also be cultivated.. Sit next to your child and read a book for a while. A person\’s growth requires three paths: self-learning, peer cooperation, and expert guidance. Self-learning and peer cooperation have just been mentioned. For children, the \”experts\” led by \”experts\” include not only teachers, but also parents. It is best when children are studying that parents do not run to watch TV, play mahjong, dance, or stand at the door to see if their children are doing homework, but sit next to their children and read and study together. There is a popular saying nowadays: first-rate parents should be role models, second-rate parents should be coaches, and third-rate parents should be nannies. I found that among students who are more comprehensively developed and have their own ideas, their families are relatively democratic and equal. Parents and children should be discussion-based and heuristic, not indoctrinating or repressive. Parents will discuss anything with their children. Parents accompany their children to grow and are good teachers and helpful friends. The effect of this family atmosphere is subtle.