How to teach children to learn gratitude and respect? It is the blessing of parents’ life

Flowers of gratitude bloom and fruits of kindness bear fruit. Last weekend, I received a call from my uncle, asking me to take him and his cousin to buy the latest iPhone. When I first heard that he wanted to buy a mobile phone worth nearly 10,000 yuan, I was really surprised. Because I know that my uncle’s family’s economic conditions are not good. Both my uncle and aunt are ordinary workers. Last year, the factory where my uncle worked closed down and he was laid off. The whole family lived on my aunt\’s salary of 2,000 yuan. In order to make a living, this year my uncle scraped together a lot of money, borrowed money from relatives and friends, and opened a snack bar in the town, working from dawn to dusk every day. Although I can earn one to two thousand yuan a month, after excluding debt repayments and the family\’s daily expenses, there is not much left. Recently, my cousin who just finished the high school entrance examination kept making noises at home about changing to an iPhone. At first, his aunt tried to persuade him earnestly: Your dad only earns one or two thousand yuan a month after hard work. The mobile phone you buy is your dad’s half a year’s hard-earned money. But the \”only son\” who has been held in the palm of his hand since he was a child couldn\’t listen to the advice at all. He lost his temper at home, smashed things, and refused to eat. The helpless uncle could only grit his teeth and walk into the mall… There are many such families now, who put their children at the center of everything, and gradually develop their children\’s selfish and self-centered character. Just like my uncle, he always believes that as long as parents work harder and pay more for their children, their children will respect me when they grow up. As everyone knows, satisfying your children\’s requirements without a bottom line again and again will only make your children turn a blind eye to your efforts and take them for granted. Over time, he may even turn against you because you failed to meet his requirements. Raising ungrateful children will make parents and children suffer for a long time. I think of a very heart-warming news I saw last year: Dr. Mao delayed her get off work. At lunch time, she had not eaten yet. After treating the last patient, she returned to the clinic and found that there was A bag of bread with a note. Source: Quzhou News Network The note read: Hello, doctor, my child felt that you had not eaten lunch and came to us to see a doctor, so I must buy you a piece of bread, but I was too embarrassed to give it to you (myself) and put it on your table. ,please check. Source: Quzhou News Network A few words made Dr. Mao feel warm in her heart. She said: \”I was really touched when I received the note and bread. It is rare to meet such an educated and sensible child.\” Children who know how to be grateful , always touching and warm. The children not only know how to be grateful to the people around them, but are also willing to express it through actions, which shows that the parents\’ education is also in place. It is said that children are the work of their parents\’ lives. Seeing that a child can be so sensible, I think the most proud and touched person is the child\’s mother. The greatest blessing in a parent\’s life is not to see how good his or her children\’s academic performance is, or how great their achievements and reputations can be, but to see their children feel the emotions of the world with a grateful heart. Writer Liu Yingxuan once said: Life is an echo. If you give the best to others, you will get the best from others. When we learn to appreciate and be grateful, we will have happiness and joy. A good life is not as good as a good habit, a sense of child developmentThe habit of kindness will be used throughout your life. Cultivating children to have a grateful heart is also a compulsory lesson for parents. So how should we as parents cultivate a sense of gratitude in our children? First, parents should set an example and guide. I believe that everyone has seen a public welfare short film \”Wash Mom\’s Feet\” in their childhood memories. At the beginning of the video, a mother was washing her child\’s feet and telling a story. After washing, she went out to fetch water to wash the old man\’s feet. The child ran out and saw this scene, so she went to fetch water secretly. In the blink of an eye, the mother came over and the child came over with a basin in his hands. His childish words of \”Mom, wash your feet\” moved countless people. Although the short film was made nearly 20 years ago, it is still very emotional to watch now. In addition to filial piety, we can also see another meaning from the video – the mother sets a good example for her children, and the children also learn from their mothers and become better. Children are the shadow of their parents. Every word and deed of their parents, whether consciously or unconsciously, will be seen by the children and remembered in their hearts. Therefore, the best way to cultivate children\’s sense of gratitude is for parents themselves to uphold the principle of \”leading by example\” and set an example of gratitude. Therefore, when you find some bad habits in your child, don\’t lose your temper with your child first. You should carefully check whether you also have these bad habits. Parents and children correct together, and parents use their own actions to guide their children. Maybe the final result will be better. Second, create an atmosphere of gratitude in the family. My best friend Huahua is a mother who is very good at creating an atmosphere of gratitude at home. Once I visited their home and watched her two children sitting in the living room, engrossed in writing small cards. I asked them what they were doing, and my eldest son told me that they were writing thank you cards. The cards were written with crooked Chinese characters and pinyin: \”The fried chicken I ate today was delicious\” \”The little dog on the roadside is very cute\” \”My brother gave me a small biscuit\” \”My mother told me a very funny story \”Story\” Huahua told me that she established the family tradition of writing thank you cards in order to keep her children in the habit of being grateful for every good little thing around them. Because everything we encounter in our family, life, and study, and every bit of care and help from the people we meet are worth remembering with all our hearts. Children who grow up in a family with a sense of \”gratitude\” rituals will definitely become warmer and brighter. Therefore, in family education, it is very important to create an atmosphere of gratitude, because we want our children to know that gratitude is a very warm and beautiful emotion. Only when we are loved and touched can we be grateful. As the famous German philosopher Jaspers said: \”True education is to use one tree to shake another tree, one cloud to push another cloud, and one soul to awaken another soul. .\” Helping children establish correct values ​​​​and teaching children to learn to be grateful is the focus of parents\’ efforts. The gratitude education we do never emphasizes how much adults have paid for their children. Parents never ask their children to repay when they grow up, let alone let our children grow up feeling indebted. Once in \”As a parent, should we emphasize that our children should repay themselves?\”\”Under such a topic, I saw this comment: I love my children and my children\’s love for me is a natural thing, not mandatory. If I don\’t love my children, then I am not a good father, and the children do not love me. Me, I just didn’t teach him well what love is. We hope that children can grow up with gratitude, learn to love and be loved, and learn to become a more complete and perfect good person. At the same time, we also hope that every lovely child can Peace and happiness. In a complex and ordinary world, the flowers of gratitude bloom and the fruits of kindness bear fruit.