How to treat a child who has a tantrum?

Emotion is the window to the human soul, and it is also a thermometer to measure the psychological well-being of a person. When a child is in a bad mood, it actually means that the underlying needs have not been met. As parents, instead of preventing our children from throwing tantrums, we should teach them to manage their emotions. When your child loses his temper, do you yell at him to stop the tantrum? Or do you ignore the child\’s tantrum, or squat down and ask the child what\’s wrong? Face and see the child\’s emotions. When the child comes back from the playground in the community, he becomes depressed and throws a tantrum. The mother is standing next to him and says, \”He is a little kid, please let him go.\” The more the mother talks about the child, the more wronged he becomes, and he loses his temper and even cries. . I asked what was wrong, and the child said, I don’t know what to say. I said you can say whatever you want, and the child said I was unhappy. I said what\’s wrong, and my mother said that there was a little boy who was younger than him and was playing the pumpkin game. Dabao also wanted to play. They agreed that he would come down after playing for a while and let her play. But after he went up, the little boy refused to come down. The boy\’s father also said, \”We are younger brothers. Please let us go. We will play this now, and you can go play other things!\” Dabao was very angry after hearing this. I asked her to play other games, but she didn\’t go, so she came back angrily. After knowing the whole story, I said, if you don\’t play, then you don\’t play! Let\’s just play other things. But Dabao said, \”I don\’t want to talk to you, I don\’t want to pay attention to you. Seeing that she was still angry, I said I\’ll tell my mother when you want to say it.\” When a child is in a bad mood, what parents should do is to accept and understand, rather than reason. Who would have thought that the child would lose his temper, close the door, and shut himself in the room. I knew that the child was really angry, and even blamed me for not understanding her. . I put myself in someone else\’s shoes, and after thinking for a while, I felt that it was really inappropriate to say that to Dabao. Originally, she was right, but she was wronged. As a mother, I not only failed to understand her, but also asked her to understand others. If it were me, I might be angry and unhappy. Later, I would ask the child at the door, and I said, baby, are you angry and sad now? Empathy makes the child feel that his behavior is recognized. The child says, yes, I said, you are right to be angry. If it were the mother, the mother would also be angry, and the child opened the door. I added, the uncle below didn\’t let you play, what he did was indeed wrong. This was a public place, and he couldn\’t actually do that. It can only be said that this uncle is not well-educated. Simply put, he is rude. Accept your child\’s bad moods. Do you like people like him? The child said he didn’t like it, and by the way, the mother didn’t like it either. Dabao added that every time I play on the slide and see someone coming to slide, I will slide down quickly and let them slide down together. What you did is right. It proves that you are polite and know how to consider the other person\’s feelings, recognize your child\’s correct behavior, and give affirmation. This uncle is actually a bit selfish. Selfish people can easily ignore the feelings of others. Do you like this kind of person? Or do you like to be such a person? The child said, I don’t like it! I said, yes, not only do you not like it, I believe many people will not like it. But even if we don\’t like it, if we encounter it, we will accept it and face it, or if you think he is wrong, you can raise it. If he doesn\’t listen, then argue with him, but I thinkArguing between impolite people is a waste of time, rather than wasting time on fearless tongues. Why don\’t we go play other games first and wait until they stop playing? Professor Li Meijin said: When you can\’t make sense with someone, it means that a wall has appeared between you, so you have to take the initiative to change the path. Since I can\’t change you, then go around it. There is no perfect path for everyone. There is no need to get entangled in one right or wrong or one truth, and there is no need to fight to the death over it. I think that instead of teaching children to fight, it is better to teach children to learn to make turns and detours. Letting children learn to make turns and detours is not to teach children to admit defeat and compromise, but to teach children to have a flexible life. What do you think? After hearing this, the child said, forget it, I don’t like talking so much to such a person, then I’ll just go play other things first! When children are unhappy, we must allow them to vent their emotions, if we are just doing it for the sake of face or to keep our ears clear. Forbidding children to vent their emotions will only make the child depressed or even more irritable, which is not conducive to the development of the child\’s personality and quality. I saw that the child\’s mood had really stabilized this time, so I talked to the child. If you were unhappy just now, it is right to lose your temper and cry. This is a normal way to vent your emotions, but after you finish crying and venting, you must also learn to take responsibility for your emotions. That is to say, learn to manage your emotions, find an outlet for your emotions, and live in peace with them. The book The Neglected Child: How to Overcome Emotional Neglect in Childhood says: A child\’s emotions are like flowing water, the source is his heart. If we set up a barrier in front of the water, the water will either bypass the barrier, change its flow direction, or flow back to the source, which means that the child will inflict emotions on himself and hurt himself. As parents, when our children have emotions, we must use soft wisdom to catch them steadily. Only in this way will the child\’s emotions be slowly released, and only after they are released can the child truly accept themselves. Make peace with your emotions and manage your emotions. What do you think about preventing children from throwing tantrums and ignoring their emotions? Welcome to leave a message for discussion.