I am 8 years old and still get lost when I go to school alone! How to cultivate children\’s independent ability?

On September 6, an 8-year-old girl in Shenzhen went to school. After the girl\’s father accompanied her to a bus stop, he thought that the child should know the way and be able to find the school by himself, so he got off the bus early and went home to sleep. Before getting off the bus, the girl\’s father asked the girl to get off the bus together in a place with many children and students. Although the girl remembered what her father said, she was still very confused when she got off the bus. She didn\’t know which stop to sit at and got off the bus. The bus driver noticed something strange about the girl and immediately called the child back to the bus and took her back to the bus terminal. According to the girl\’s mother, the family had just arrived in Shenzhen not long ago. The father thought that his daughter was eight years old and knew the way and could go to school by herself. Only then did he receive a call from the teacher and realized that the child was missing and he hurriedly searched for her. The girl\’s mother said it was scary to think about it. She almost lost her child due to adults\’ negligence. If something happens, the parents will definitely regret it for the rest of their lives, and the children will also regret their parents for the rest of their lives. Many netizens joked that the child was redeemed with phone points, or maybe he picked it up, otherwise the father would never be so caring. Some netizens said that today\’s children are too squeamish and were shocked that an eight-year-old child could not go to school on his own. His independence was so poor! Some netizens believe that parents over-indulge their children, resulting in eight-year-old children who still don’t know how to go to school. The father originally wanted to exercise his child\’s independence, but he did not expect that the child was almost lost. He should have taught the child how to deal with unexpected accidents in advance. Logically speaking, an eight-year-old child already has a certain degree of independence, but after all, the family has just arrived in Shenzhen, and this is the first time the child has taken a bus to school, and the route is not familiar to him. This behavior is indeed inappropriate. Some experts pointed out that the foundation of survival education is to cultivate independence, including independent consciousness and independent ability, and the focus is on cultivating the ability to take care of oneself. For parents, how to cultivate their children\’s independence has always been a question they have been thinking about for a long time, but they must use appropriate methods to cultivate and exercise it. 1. Don’t do everything instead, let the children do what they can do. Children’s independence is cultivated in practice. Whatever the children can do on their own, let them do it. At the beginning, parents can guide and help their children. Children are the main body of practice, and parents play a supporting role as bystanders. As the child becomes more proficient, increase the difficulty based on the child\’s actual situation. Only when the child is fully proficient can you let go. 2. Create more problems and give children space to think. When encountering a problem, parents should not tell their children the solution first, but ask them more: What are your views on this problem, how do you think this matter should be handled, and why do you I think it can be handled in this way…and so on, so that the child can think repeatedly, thereby exercising the child\’s brain power and cultivating independent consciousness. 3. Let children solve problems on their own and provide certain encouragement and support. When children do things independently and encounter difficulties, parents should adopt an encouraging attitude and cannot directly intervene to help. Mental support can increase children\’s confidence, especially For children who are highly dependent, parents\’ encouragement can bring them more courage.