I am not a perfect child, just wait until I grow up!

Benben\’s mother is very ordinary, and her family is very ordinary. The most ordinary thing is that his mother is extremely anxious about her children like all adults who suffer from anxiety disorders. Benben was helplessly forced to become the anxious child. As early as Benben was still in her belly, she was forced to listen to all kinds of classical music, classic stories, and some foreign languages ​​at every turn. In fact, he didn\’t like hearing it at all. He just wanted to swim in his mother\’s belly, spin around in circles, and stretch his arms and legs. But there is no way. Benben\’s mother is strictly following various prenatal education programs every day, getting advice, listening to lectures and studying from aunts who have given birth to children. That enthusiasm is simply amazing. Benben could only accompany her mother to go crazy. Occasionally, his father would participate, but Benben knew how reluctant his father was. Every time he lay in his belly and listened to his mother teach his father, and then his father read him a messy story through gritted teeth, Benben was particularly happy, rolling around and enjoying himself secretly. Benben\’s mother believed more in the powerful effects of prenatal education, and then there was a more miserable Benben\’s father and a joyful Benben. As for those stories, Benben didn\’t take them seriously. He had to see his own world for himself. What\’s the point of listening to other people\’s stories? It\’s just that these are okay. Benben\’s mother\’s anxiety can no longer be stopped by people on the earth. She didn\’t know what big mouth said some nonsense, and decided to let Benben come out of her belly in advance, just to pursue a so-called auspicious day. He was so hasty that he didn\’t consider his feelings at all, so much so that when the doctor took him out of his belly, he let out an \”ouch\” that almost woke up Ben Ben\’s mother from the anesthesia. The stupid doctor and nurse next to him had the nerve to tell people: \”This child is so good, he cries so openly.\” Benben just wanted to say: \”Brother, you were scared by you, okay?!\” Why not? The child can roam freely in the mother\’s belly, but he has to be treated this way. No matter how many silly ducks there are in the baby pool, it\’s still not as good as being in the amniotic fluid. Benben thought with resentment more than once. Although his dissatisfaction was brought out early, but seeing the whole family\’s infinite welcome to him, Ben Benpeng slowly accepted this established fact. Anyway, I can\’t go back in this life. Life, let’s look forward. Benben thought helplessly as he looked at his mother holding him and smiling stupidly. Later, when her parents named her Ben Ben, Ben Ben was not surprised at all. Parents with such impatient tempers couldn\’t call themselves \”slowly\”. The name was just the beginning, Mom\’s plans were obviously bigger. After returning home from the hospital, Benben was once again surrounded by a variety of surround-sound early education music, stories and foreign languages. It seemed that Benben\’s mother couldn\’t stand it if she didn\’t listen to it for a day. Benben felt that her mother might have some serious obsessive-compulsive disorder. Of course, he himself is still not interested in these. He felt that he was more interested in his own body, and he was very busy. You need to rely on your genes and nerves to control all your senses and muscles without anyone to teach you. This is not an easy task, but every time you complete it, Ben Ben feels a great sense of accomplishment, even if the progress is so small that only he knows about it. . But shouldn\’t it be a cool thing? Much cooler than the stories my parents read to me. He is making progress with the help of human development.All the power of the step is being completed, and it cannot be done by just a random story function. Unfortunately, my parents were too impatient and forgot to pay attention to this. Benben felt that he didn\’t want to complain about their behavior of picking up sesame seeds and throwing away watermelons, which made him look stupid. Finally, when I was older, I had the ability to turn off the story machine when I didn\’t want to hear it. I thought I could finally escape from all this. Unexpectedly, ginger is indeed very spicy. Benben\’s mother once went to a shopping mall and was brainwashed by some people. She quickly spent a lot of money to enroll Benben in an early childhood education class, which was called comprehensive development. Ben Ben was involved in the whole process of what happened. I had an intuition that these people were full-time liars. They talked about a lot of nonsense. The names of the experts alone were awkward to mention, and there were also some obscure systems. Benben thought that her mother would refuse for various reasons, but she didn\’t expect that she would accept it, feeling silly and happy. Although Benben didn\’t like her mother\’s taste in spending money to buy clothes, spending money to sign up for a class was simply intolerable. Angry, he waved his arms and kicked his legs, crying and howling. The result, of course, was of no use. Benben finally became a student. When he was a little over a year old, his mother said it was a birthday gift, a surprise for him, but he thought it was a shock. The following years were very difficult. Benben didn\’t feel that he was learning new skills at all. He felt more like a toy being played with by teachers and parents. I am tortured by these people’s whims every day. He had in-depth discussions with other children and found that no one liked the early childhood education center. They hate doing those stupid moves required by the teacher, nor do they want to run and jump in a room covered with thick mats, nor do they want to learn to write and draw in a prescribed way. Children all like to be outdoors, and even watching people on the street is more interesting than being locked up here. The sun is shining brightly outside, but I have to endure loneliness. Benben thought to himself that it was only a matter of time before he was forced to become a poet. When he was a little older, Benben started to speak. What he wanted to express most was no, but even if he said it, he still couldn\’t change his cramming fate. Benben\’s mother started asking Benben to memorize Tang poems, read Chinese characters, and learn mathematics. At first, Benben thought it was a game, but later she realized that she was the one being played. Every time I learn this, my mother always creates a stage for herself to perform, which greatly inflates her vanity. After a long time, I don’t know what my mother thought. Anyway, Benben felt bored and felt guilty. What\’s the use of memorizing ancient poems that you don\’t even know the meaning of? Every time after a performance, Benben always thinks of the very old myna in a cage at the bird market, which makes her a little sad. I want to go against my mother more and more, just not to obey. Benben\’s mother felt that this was not a problem, so she started asking around again, bought a bunch of books on how to educate children, and read them with gusto every day. Of course, it is even more fun to do experiments with Benben. Ben Ben felt that this was going from abyss to abyss. He had no time to spare and could only resist in more changing ways. Finally, both sides broke out. Benben sighed when he couldn\’t complete the puzzle homework assigned by his mother, which shocked Benben\’s mother into a cold sweat. It didn\’t matter whether I was hit or scolded for a while. I had an intuition that there was something wrong with my education. Benben was too lazy to explain, so he just said blankly: \”Mom, II don’t want to play the game you gave me anymore, I want to stay by myself. \”Then she went back to the room without looking back, leaving behind her arrogant figure. Benben\’s mother finally felt the seriousness of the matter. She thought, she just wanted Benben to be happy. In order to be happy, she must learn more and grow up like this. Only then can she have the right to choose a happy life. She had to worry, what happened to the children of Zhang, San, Li, Siwang and Wu\’s family? After enduring it and trying another method, Benben couldn\’t let Benben lose at the starting line. Benben opened the door and peeked. Look at your mother, thinking that she just wants to grow up slowly and enjoy every moment of happiness. My mother must understand such a simple truth. In the middle of the night, Ben Ben got up to pee, and heard his parents whispering. I thought it was a happy time It was about to arrive. When I was about to go back to the house to have some fun, Ben Ben’s mother seemed to have made a very difficult decision and said: \”If you don’t sign up for other classes, let’s sign up for the quick math class first. \”Benben felt a little confused, as if his third birthday had just passed. It can only be said that he overestimated the IQ of his parents. Tomorrow, he must tell them clearly that Benben just wants to grow up slowly. Adults always hope that the flowers of wisdom will bloom in their children\’s heads, and hope that their children can grow into model children according to their expectations. But in fact, children have never disliked the overgrown weeds in their children\’s heads, and they have never asked for Adults become model parents. Your children are growing up slowly. Are you moving too fast, making it too tiring and depressing for your children to follow? Why not calm down and wait for your children? Adults often say that children’s sky is infinitely broad, so why not let your children open their eyes? Open your eyes and see flowers, dreams, and hopes? Think about it again, if one day your child becomes different from what you expect: when he/she sings for you tone-deaf, when his/her limbs become stiff. When he/she announces that the game has failed…at that time, will you still accept and wait for this imperfect child with patience and concern?