I cried after reading these stories about stay-at-home dads…

Last week, I collected stories about stay-at-home dads taking care of their babies in our circle of friends, and received many heart-warming stories. As I watched, my eyes became moist again. Today I would like to share with you that in fact, in many cases, it is not that fathers cannot do it, but that there are still too many people in this society who view men with children through colored glasses. Dad Tao Tao: He is 36 years old. After two years of raising a baby, his income is three times that of my wife. But I choose to take care of the baby full time. Many people know that my wife has a high salary, but in fact, my annual income is three to four times that of hers. At this point, you will definitely ask me with wide eyes, why? because of love! This answer may seem exaggerated, but it is the truest expression of my heart! I worked in my previous job for 9 years, but I suffered some impact later on. My wife happened to be in the third trimester of pregnancy. In order to take care of her prenatal check-ups, I gradually stopped going to the company frequently. As my wife gave birth and was in confinement, I also lacked helpers because both my parents were in poor health. They are all average. I don’t want the elderly to have to work hard, so I think I can just take care of her at home! Raising a baby is really addictive. From holding her and changing diapers during confinement, to making complementary food for the baby, reading picture books, playing with her to put her to sleep, etc., it was actually a lot of fun. I think everyone is conditioned by the traditional idea of ​​women taking care of children. Since my wife doesn’t want to work full-time, isn’t it normal to leave this matter to me? Besides, parenting literature emphasizes that children raised by their fathers are smarter! I feel important! My wife said that she was very grateful to me. In fact, I wanted to say that I would do anything for you and the children! Jiajia’s father: He is 33 years old. No matter how much he earns after raising his baby for two and a half years, he can’t compare to his daughter’s words: Dad, I love you. I have been a full-time dad for two and a half years since my baby was born. My wife is a civil servant with a stable income, while I am a teacher at a training school with an irregular income but plenty of time. The most important thing I think is: I have to take care of my children! Nowadays, people have some prejudice against men working full-time to take care of children. Young people are better, and old people are even more so. However, I feel that nothing can compare with the hard work and seriousness of raising my baby, and it is more worthwhile to let her grow up healthily and happily. Something to be proud of. The baby is in great health. He has not been to the hospital for any infusion or injection since he is over 3 years old. His emotional intelligence is also quite high. I think: it is never too late to make money. If the child’s growth is missed, there is no way to recover it. Besides, I feel that no amount of money can compare to the sweetness of my daughter saying: \”Dad, I love you! I feel from the bottom of my heart that there is nothing shameful about being a stay-at-home dad!\” Zou Zou: 35 years old, raising a baby For more than two years, I didn’t trust anyone, so I went to bed on my own. My wife was pregnant with twins, and she had a very severe reaction from the beginning. She vomited like crazy, and then ended up being hospitalized for various recuperations. My work was relatively free, so I simply took a vacation. I took care of my wife until she gave birth. There were not enough people at home to take care of the two babies, so I took over the responsibility of raising the baby. Five months later, my wife went to work. I had invited an aunt before. I am a picky person, so the aunt works. I didn\’t like all the methods, so I decided to take care of the children by myself, and I have persisted in this area until now. To be honest, taking care of children is not an easy task. It can be said to be quite hard, especially raising two children at the same time. It sounds pretty good Interesting, every time I take my kids thereI attract strange looks from people everywhere. Now all the neighbors know me, but none of them know my wife. However, I don’t think there’s anything to be embarrassed about. Everyone will praise me and be proud when they see it! Moreover, the children stick to me all day long and only like their father. My wife doesn’t know how much she envies me. I am very happy to see my children grow up happily every day. that\’s enough! Lao Wang: I am 30 years old. I have taken care of my baby full time for three months. I can’t let her face the confusion when the baby is crying and sick. My little Qiyue was born prematurely. She just came home from the incubator and curled up like a kitten. Except for the month My sister-in-law didn\’t dare to hug anyone, for fear of rubbing her. We have been welcoming this baby with a grateful heart. After all, caring for premature babies requires more patience and care. My daughter-in-law is in poor health, especially after giving birth. She is even weaker. She cannot stay up late, and she is also very sensitive. She feels sad and dare not say anything when her parents do not take good care of her. In this way, I resolutely quit my job to take care of my children and my wife at home. I couldn\’t let her face the confusion alone when her children were crying and sick! Many people still can\’t understand that a man can take care of his children at home. Even my mother-in-law always urges me to find a job, saying that a man should have a career. But to be honest, I don’t want to miss every detail of my son catching up with a full-term child. Every time I bathe and touch the child, and practice crawling and raising my head, it seems boring to outsiders, but I enjoy it. Of course, every time at this time, I am also very happy. Fortunately, it is not my wife who is taking care of the child, otherwise she would definitely cry with her hot temper… Edison: 34 years old, I have been raising a child for more than three years and I am waiting for my son to go to kindergarten. I want to do it too. Why did I make such a choice when I was looking for a new job? It was half reality and half ideal. The so-called reality is the reality of life. The elderly at home cannot provide assistance, and my wife insists on her career, so I can only take over. When it comes to ideals, of course there is also awe of children and new life. Now, we are busy every day. Busy with work, busy with life, so busy that I have forgotten what life itself is like. I want to calm down and get to know the world again with new life. From food, drink and clothing to childcare and early education, from daily life to travel, I really have a new look at the world. In the past, I saw a book saying that by raising a child, you can experience and witness every small moment of the child\’s growth. I really didn\’t feel anything. It wasn’t until I heard the first note the child made, and saw him crawling and crawling while moving his little butt, and then standing tremblingly until he took the first step in life, that I finally knew that no matter how tough a tough guy is, he can’t resist the innocence and innocence of a child. pure love. Although, every day when walking around communities or parks and other areas where children gather, there will always be strange eyes scrutinizing why a young and strong man is taking care of a baby at home. Some of them sincerely asked me for advice on parenting methods, and of course there were more who were just joining in the fun and chatting and gossiping with you out of curiosity, and even made some sarcastic remarks. It is still not recognized by society for a man to take care of children full-time. My relatives and elders at home also think that this seems inappropriate. All kinds of pressure are huge instantly, but my mentality is not bad. After all, I can even handle the most difficult job in the world. Well, what else am I afraid of? Currently, my son is in kindergarten, and IMy career will also be restarted, wish me good luck! Concepts formed by thousands of years of traditional culture have deeply ingrained the idea that men are the masters of the outside world and women are the masters of the house. In fact, making money to support a family has never differentiated between genders. It is only for men to take care of children full-time at home, while women work hard for their careers outside the home. This family structure is still incredible to most families in China. But yes, even we women are struggling and hesitant about whether to take care of our children full-time, let alone those grown men! Because of this, these fathers who ignore traditional prejudices, endure all kinds of strong pressure, and secretly take care of their children at home deserve our admiration! This article is a call to men who choose to be stay-at-home dads. Of course, I also hope that more dads can take more responsibility, because: raising children has never been the mother’s responsibility alone. Share it with her. .