I discovered a cruel phenomenon: children hate the 4 things their parents say the most. I hope you never said a word.

There are 4 things that children hate most from their parents. I hope you have never said a word that parents’ words and actions have a profound impact on their children’s personality. Sometimes an unintentional remark may leave an indelible shadow on a child\’s young mind. Children\’s hearts are sensitive and fragile. When we get along with children, we must pay attention to our words and deeds, and especially avoid saying things that are annoying to children and hurt their self-esteem. \”Look at other people\’s children…\” This sentence can be said to be the mantra of thousands of parents. When they see other people’s children being better than their own, many parents will unconsciously compare the two, thinking that this can encourage their children to work hard. As everyone knows, this kind of comparison-based education method not only fails to achieve the expected results, but also makes children feel that they can never compare to others, thus losing their self-confidence. Every child is a unique individual with his or her own characteristics and strengths. We should appreciate children\’s differences instead of blindly asking them to imitate others. \”If you cry again, I won\’t want you!\” Many parents have said this when their children cry. They thought this would stop the child from crying, but they did not consider the psychological trauma this sentence would cause to the child. What children need is unconditional love and acceptance from their parents. Hearing this sentence will make them feel extremely panicked and insecure, and they may even think that their parents no longer love them. We must understand that crying is a way for children to express their emotions. When children cry, we should listen and comfort them instead of blindly stopping and scolding them. \”Why are you so stupid!\” This is what many parents blurt out when their children do something wrong or study poorly. They thought that this would help their children correct their mistakes, but they ignored the impact this sentence would have on their children\’s self-esteem. Everyone has their own strengths, weaknesses and development speed. We should not use a fixed standard to measure children. When children make mistakes or make slow progress, we should patiently guide and encourage them, letting them know that as long as they work hard, they will make progress, instead of blindly denying and blaming. \”You\’ll figure it out when you grow up.\” This sentence usually appears when children ask questions that their parents can\’t answer. Parents think that they can use this sentence to excuse themselves, but they do not realize that this will make their children feel that their ideas are not valued. Many of children\’s questions may seem childish, but they reflect their curiosity and thirst for knowledge about the world. We should encourage children to think proactively, ask bold questions, patiently answer their confusions, and explore the unknown world with them, instead of using age to deal with children\’s questions. In the process of educating their children, parents should avoid saying things that hurt their children\’s self-esteem and dampen their enthusiasm. We must guide our children with love and wisdom instead of blindly suppressing and denying them. We must believe that every child has his or her own shining points, and provide children with a loose and free environment for their growth so that they can thrive in care and encouragement. Saying a heartwarming word and giving a child an encouraging look can often stimulate a child\’s potential better than a lot of preaching. Let us use the correct method to care for the young minds of children and let love and wisdom infiltrate thempath of growth. What do you think of it? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area for discussion!